Gay Pick Up and how to do it.

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    Oct 18, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    I'm newly out from being in a straight relationship of 15 years.

    In my late forties but not sure how to pick up men in person? Do I tell them I find them hot before the conversation ends like at a gas station, park, store, etc?

    Is it done the same way as picking up a women?

    Any tips on the subject would be appreciated.
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    Oct 18, 2014 6:14 PM GMT
    By the way pazzy is a virgin allegedly and has hardly ever dated anyone to my knowledge, just wanted to let you know
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    Oct 18, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    N2Now saidWill the guy always let you know when they are interested?
    I talked with someone the other day at the checkout line for about 15 minutes. Really liked him. He said he liked this store because it is so diverse. I assume he was gay. We exchanged handshakes and names but no phone numbers. This is where I need a little help, should I of offered my phone number and said lets meet up sometime for a beer Or if he was interested would he of offered his number? I was the one the originally started the conversation if that matters.

    What would you have done, if he was a she?
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    Oct 19, 2014 3:53 AM GMT
    N2Now saidI'm newly out from being in a straight relationship of 15 years.

    In my late forties but not sure how to pick up men in person? Do I tell them I find them hot before the conversation ends like at a gas station, park, store, etc?

    Is it done the same way as picking up a women?

    Any tips on the subject would be appreciated.

    It starts with eye contact and a smile.

    But prepare for disappointment. A lot of straight guys give off a gay vibe, or they seem to be more gay friendly these days. So it's easy to make the wrong assumptions about certain guys.

    Also, at 40, it gets a little harder to meet guys. Unless you're ridiculously hot, that is.
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    Oct 19, 2014 10:11 AM GMT
    In all honesty no matter what experience level you are all gay men want to know this.
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    Oct 19, 2014 6:26 PM GMT
    Personally I think the internet is the way to date/hookup in this day and age. It's easier to find guys you'd be interested in, and helps avoid, or dampen, the awkwardness of rejection.

    But if you prefer the old fashioned way, I don't think there is that much of a difference between women and gay guys... except that gays tend to be more vain, and in search of specific kinds of guys.
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    Oct 19, 2014 9:21 PM GMT
    You can use pickup lines like

    "Do you work at a chicken farm?


    Coz you sure know how to raise a cock"


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    Oct 20, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    Yeah you just go up to any guy and say he's hot, as long as you don't mind a bloody nose.
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    Oct 20, 2014 4:58 PM GMT
    Send cock pics to anyone who contacts you on Grindr.
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    Oct 20, 2014 5:31 PM GMT
    troll_alert_1987 saidYou can use pickup lines like

    "Do you work at a chicken farm?


    Coz you sure know how to raise a cock"


    do these kind of lines really work? has anyone ever used them?
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    Oct 20, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    xrichx said
    saidI'm newly out from being in a straight relationship of 15 years.

    In my late forties but not sure how to pick up men in person? Do I tell them I find them hot before the conversation ends like at a gas station, park, store, etc?

    Is it done the same way as picking up a women?

    Any tips on the subject would be appreciated.

    It starts with eye contact and a smile.

    But prepare for disappointment. A lot of straight guys give off a gay vibe, or they seem to be more gay friendly these days. So it's easy to make the wrong assumptions about certain guys.

    Also, at 40, it gets a little harder to meet guys. Unless you're ridiculously hot, that is.

    this sounds helpful
    so once the smile with eye contact then what? How do you close the deal?
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    Oct 21, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    you can start by filling out your profile and posting pics and not hiding behind keyboard. Most wont even try to talk or meet someone with a "hidden" profile.
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    Oct 21, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    I don't have any great pick ups but I can list the many tried on me and which ones worked haha


    - had a guy come up and take a drink out of my drink saying he wanted to be there to help (failed) haha
    - guy x 1000 grabbed my ass (failed)
    - guy offered to by me a drink (potential fear of being drugged= failed)
    - guy gives extended stare to show he's interested x 1000 (ball up and say hello haha)


    Okay this could keep going but the best pick up I had was one night a guy came up to me and asked if I was okay, was really nice just said I looked good didn't try any seedy lines just honestly acted like he gave a fuck, I mean yeah a few hours later he was trying to tongue rape me but he did well at the start hahahRESIZED TEXT GOES HERE
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    Oct 21, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    Yeah, don't use "lines." They only work if you're really hot and he's really into you (like if he's wearing a shirt that says, "I'm really into you.")

    If you're having a long conversation with someone, you can get a lot of tells from the things he says. If he's ambiguous, have him clarify. "It's really diverse here..." could mean cigar smokers vs. vegans. So ask, what do you mean?

    The phone number exchange is OK, but only after you've verified his orientation and are making future plans...like, to Starbucks, or a carpool.

    So make future plans. "Do you mainly shop at diverse grocery stores? Is there another one in the area? I think I need some gluten-free cigars." He might recommend a great cigar store for cilliac sufferers. "Then I'll share; come to my place to try out some of my pesticide-and-Thimerosol-free cigars."

    "I don't smoke...thanks."

    "Neither do I."
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    Oct 21, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidYeah, don't use "lines." They only work if you're really hot and he's really into you (like if he's wearing a shirt that says, "I'm really into you.")

    If you're having a long conversation with someone, you can get a lot of tells from the things he says. If he's ambiguous, have him clarify. "It's really diverse here..." could mean cigar smokers vs. vegans. So ask, what do you mean?

    The phone number exchange is OK, but only after you've verified his orientation and are making future plans...like, to Starbucks, or a carpool.

    So make future plans. "Do you mainly shop at diverse grocery stores? Is there another one in the area? I think I need some gluten-free cigars." He might recommend a great cigar store for cilliac sufferers. "Then I'll share; come to my place to try out some of my pesticide-and-Thimerosol-free cigars."

    "I don't smoke...thanks."

    "Neither do I."
    so in a way it is direct but indirect? I almost understand lol..
    The part about clarify makes sense. I'm a little lost about asking for a phone number for car pool? I was thinking more just to hang or come over for a beer or lunch and see how it goes or is that too direct?
    What are your thoughts on that?
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    Oct 21, 2014 1:43 PM GMT
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    mickeytopogigio saidYeah, don't use "lines." They only work if you're really hot and he's really into you (like if he's wearing a shirt that says, "I'm really into you.")

    If you're having a long conversation with someone, you can get a lot of tells from the things he says. If he's ambiguous, have him clarify. "It's really diverse here..." could mean cigar smokers vs. vegans. So ask, what do you mean?

    The phone number exchange is OK, but only after you've verified his orientation and are making future plans...like, to Starbucks, or a carpool.

    So make future plans. "Do you mainly shop at diverse grocery stores? Is there another one in the area? I think I need some gluten-free cigars." He might recommend a great cigar store for cilliac sufferers. "Then I'll share; come to my place to try out some of my pesticide-and-Thimerosol-free cigars."

    "I don't smoke...thanks."

    "Neither do I."
    so in a way it is direct but indirect? I almost understand lol..
    The part about clarify makes sense. I'm a little lost about asking for a phone number for car pool? I was thinking more just to hang or come over for a beer or lunch and see how it goes or is that too direct?
    What are your thoughts on that?



    You remind me of the people who come up to me on occasion at the laundromat and ask me, "How much does it cost to wash clothes here," when the cost is clearly written on every machine and they are reading it.
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    Oct 22, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
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    mickeytopogigio saidYeah, don't use "lines." They only work if you're really hot and he's really into you (like if he's wearing a shirt that says, "I'm really into you.")

    If you're having a long conversation with someone, you can get a lot of tells from the things he says. If he's ambiguous, have him clarify. "It's really diverse here..." could mean cigar smokers vs. vegans. So ask, what do you mean?

    The phone number exchange is OK, but only after you've verified his orientation and are making future plans...like, to Starbucks, or a carpool.

    So make future plans. "Do you mainly shop at diverse grocery stores? Is there another one in the area? I think I need some gluten-free cigars." He might recommend a great cigar store for cilliac sufferers. "Then I'll share; come to my place to try out some of my pesticide-and-Thimerosol-free cigars."

    "I don't smoke...thanks."

    "Neither do I."
    so in a way it is direct but indirect? I almost understand lol..
    The part about clarify makes sense. I'm a little lost about asking for a phone number for car pool? I was thinking more just to hang or come over for a beer or lunch and see how it goes or is that too direct?
    What are your thoughts on that?



    You remind me of the people who come up to me on occasion at the laundromat and ask me, "How much does it cost to wash clothes here," when the cost is clearly written on every machine and they are reading it.

    So when you say: You remind me of the people who come up to me on occasion at the laundromat and ask me, "How much does it cost to wash clothes here," when the cost is clearly written on every machine and they are reading it.
    So, What You Are Saying Is: That I go out of my way to ask questions that I clearly know the answer to because I enjoy wasting everyone's time and you feel that is the reason I posted this was because I already knew all the answers. Or are you trying to be little me for not knowing the answers and this is your way of trying to make me feel bad for asking a question?
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    Oct 22, 2014 10:17 PM GMT
    I was drinking with this cowboy and wow man he was very handsome. I just considered eh.. this kinda guy would never be into me, so I just treated him friendly, but then I noticed he was 'really' treating me friendly and we were hitting it off good talking about music and joking around. I kinda got the hint because he shook my hand twice. So I would test him how long he would keep eye contact with me. For the first couple of times he would break eye contact, but then he got the idea and we had strong eye contact. Then I moved onto the next tactic if he would act awkward if I looked at his lips and then back at him and he didn't seem to mind. but yeah it turned out to be a dud because we went to a larger party and it was harder to talk to him, so I kept looking at him and he would acknowledge me.. so this was the last ditch effort that would definitely let him know I liked him. I was already really bummed out and I had to leave so I just said screw it and left without saying bye to him, even though earlier he offered to hang out again and I would burn him a couple cds. so yeah be friendly but kick the friendliness up a notch so as to not stay in the 'friend zone'.
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    Oct 23, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    Lt_bear13 saidI was drinking with this cowboy and wow man he was very handsome. I just considered eh.. this kinda guy would never be into me, so I just treated him friendly, but then I noticed he was 'really' treating me friendly and we were hitting it off good talking about music and joking around. I kinda got the hint because he shook my hand twice. So I would test him how long he would keep eye contact with me. For the first couple of times he would break eye contact, but then he got the idea and we had strong eye contact. Then I moved onto the next tactic if he would act awkward if I looked at his lips and then back at him and he didn't seem to mind. but yeah it turned out to be a dud because we went to a larger party and it was harder to talk to him, so I kept looking at him and he would acknowledge me.. so this was the last ditch effort that would definitely let him know I liked him. I was already really bummed out and I had to leave so I just said screw it and left without saying bye to him, even though earlier he offered to hang out again and I would burn him a couple cds. so yeah be friendly but kick the friendliness up a notch so as to not stay in the 'friend zone'.


    Thanks that is helpful.
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Just really need to know some basic moves the dos and don'ts to be successful. I know there must be guys out there that have a lot of success without learning the hard way.


    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying?
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
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    saidJust really need to know some basic moves the dos and don'ts to be successful. I know there must be guys out there that have a lot of success without learning the hard way.


    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying?
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    Just really need to know some basic moves the dos and don'ts to be successful. I know there must be guys out there that have a lot of success without learning the hard way.


    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying? [/quote]
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    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying? [/quote]
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:21 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    saidJust really need to know some basic moves the dos and don'ts to be successful. I know there must be guys out there that have a lot of success without learning the hard way.


    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying?
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:22 PM GMT
    Just really need to know some basic moves the dos and don'ts to be successful. I know there must be guys out there that have a lot of success without learning the hard way.

    well, one thing that you should know is that nowadays, there's a lot guys are extra picky and have unrealistic expectations. however, it's really no right or wrong way to be successful since you don't have to do all the work in terms of getting with guys because guys will meet you halfway where they're work with you unlike women where you have to do everything and basically kiss their ass, impress them and etc to get them on your side. you get what i'm saying? [/quote]