Who are we kidding any more?

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    Oct 19, 2014 8:03 PM GMT
    Rather tired of the bullshit that goes around in the gay community. All this "I'm not into fun" and people looking down their nose etc.

    They'll be the first to jump into bed with you if the chance arises and they'll also be quick to do a runner after.

    Is friendship really too much to ask from guys these days?

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    Oct 19, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    I am not into ''fun'' not interested in promiscuous whores that open their ass holes for a different guy every weekend or guys who want to fuck somebody new every wekeend, and are probably carriers of some std + those kind of people are pretty much always shallow, act like some ass holes and are degrading

    not interested in ''fun''
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    Oct 19, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    lol Like I said on this thread http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3935824 Dudes just wanna fuck around before they get old and "unattractive". But then they come around and bitch about people not supporting gay marriage. icon_rolleyes.gif Pffft
  • Danskerb

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    Oct 19, 2014 8:16 PM GMT
    Ehh.... I think everyone can give into temptation. I think men seem to give in a little easier than women, so with two men, it usually makes it easier.

    I also don't think people are looking down at anyone when they say they are not into fun. They are simply lying to themselves... Everyone loves fun... they just don't think they should be into fun for their own personal reasons.

    (What I said makes sense in my head... sorry if it doesnticon_razz.gif)
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    Oct 19, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidRather tired of the bullshit that goes around in the gay community. All this "I'm not into fun" and people looking down their nose etc.

    They'll be the first to jump into bed with you if the chance arises and they'll also be quick to do a runner after.

    Is friendship really too much to ask from guys these days?



    Your message appears to contradict itself. You are complaining that people want to take their time, and also that other people are only after a shag. There are some people who have a hookup that leads to a relationship but the "traditional" way is more typical.
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    Oct 20, 2014 10:59 AM GMT
    Danskerb saidEhh.... I think everyone can give into temptation. I think men seem to give in a little easier than women, so with two men, it usually makes it easier.

    I also don't think people are looking down at anyone when they say they are not into fun. They are simply lying to themselves... Everyone loves fun... they just don't think they should be into fun for their own personal reasons.

    (What I said makes sense in my head... sorry if it doesnticon_razz.gif)


    What you're saying does make sense, but I think part of the confusion comes from semantics. I think you're right that almost everyone likes "fun," but for those who say "I'm not looking for fun," what they probably actually mean is "I'm looking for *more* than just fun." At least, that's true for me. Finding mutual attraction is hard enough to begin with, and for many, the search is frustrating and definitely not "fun." Admittedly, some like the hunt and the conquest and then want to go back on the hunt, but I think they are the exceptions and not the rule.
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    Oct 20, 2014 11:57 AM GMT
    Not exactly too sure of what you're saying but I think generally it's hard to maintain a level of friendship with someone you've just hooked up with.

    There are certain levels in the 'getting to know' phase of a friendship that is ... skipped when it goes straight to the physical level, which in turn is too awkward to try ignore after having sex with each other before actually knowing each other well or being friends.
    Most people would rather run than try attempt a friendship with someone if it started with such awkward beginnings.

    On the other hand I'm not sold on the idea of fuck buddies either.
    Are you annoyed at guys who hook up and then don't want to stay friends or just not having gay friends in general?
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    Oct 20, 2014 12:13 PM GMT
    Im certainly not like that. Maybe the problem is the low quality gays you surround yourself with.
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    Oct 20, 2014 12:54 PM GMT
    Hey I personally like to have fun, but I like a good buddy that's into the same none sex things that I'm into…. or at least someone who can handle my dynamics. They are rare…. it's pretty sad.

    Reality though… there are a lot addicted to sex… a quick fix and a way they go. Having said that, how many times has a guy fallen in love with you and yet… you feel it's hollow, you can't feel the same. It's part of the selection process.

    Friendship is a high priority for me. I guess I am picky though it has to go both ways. A state of mutual trust and support…mmmm
  • xBEHEMOTHx

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    Oct 20, 2014 1:03 PM GMT
    I still don't get the fun thing ..wtf is pnp?? I've always thought it is a orgy with some hard drugs.. and why do we call it fun?? Why can't we just say sex??
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:20 PM GMT
    MartyredNeons saidNot exactly too sure of what you're saying but I think generally it's hard to maintain a level of friendship with someone you've just hooked up with.



    Are you annoyed at guys who hook up and then don't want to stay friends or just not having gay friends in general?


    It's basically other gay guys that start off as friends, and soon clear off should we actually have some "fun". These same people bitch about the NSA lot as well.

    It seems to be a disease in my town at the moment.

    At least you know where you stand with people who explicitly state NSA to begin with.
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:29 PM GMT
    I often find that it's the ones who say no hook up are the first to have their pants around their ankles on the first date before you can say "Bob's your uncle." Then they are gone.

    Men are hunters by nature. We enjoy the chase. Give up the goods too soon and the fun's over and they are on to the next hunt. Women have known this for thousands and thousands of years.

    If I'm into a guy I never let him know right away. I flirt, I cajole, and I flatter for months (one particular time over a year). Then I set the bait. Then I set the hook. Then I reel them in when they're ready for more than just a roll in the sack.

    And sometimes I just enjoy a roll in the sack.
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:40 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI often find that it's the ones who say no hook up are the first to have their pants around their ankles on the first date before you can say "Bob's your uncle."


    Spot on!
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:43 PM GMT
    Jms31 said
    UndercoverMan saidI often find that it's the ones who say no hook up are the first to have their pants around their ankles on the first date before you can say "Bob's your uncle."


    Spot on!


    They will also send cock pics when their profiles say "only looking for friends!" LOL! I love looking at my friends' cocks!
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:44 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidRather tired of the bullshit ... Is friendship really too much to ask from guys these days?
    there was a post on "Chemistry" between men. Seems the consensus this is something you cant create, its just there. Well there is chemistry between friends.

    No chemistry and its just an acquaintance.
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:54 PM GMT
    Well the problem lies within there being few places to meet other guys where there is a platonic and respectable atmosphere. It's either a gay bar where everyone wants to fuck you, or a dating app... where everyone wants to fuck you...or maybe just be friends... but secretly just wants to fuck you.

    But then again, maybe men just innately create an I just wanna fuck you environment everywhere? It's not like straight guys where you can make male friends who sexually repulse you. That seems to work well for them.
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    Oct 20, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
    TO22 saidWell the problem lies within there being few places to meet other guys where there is a platonic and respectable atmosphere. It's either a gay bar where everyone wants to fuck you, or a dating app... where everyone wants to fuck you...or maybe just be friends... but secretly just wants to fuck you.

    But then again, maybe men just innately create an I just wanna fuck you environment everywhere? It's not like straight guys where you can make male friends who sexually repulse you. That seems to work well for them.


    Lol well to put it bluntly I guess haha.
    I suppose the problem with some gay gays with their gay friends is that they can't be content in just keeping them as platonic friends.
    Idk, maybe what the world is trying to say is that you shouldn't fuck your friends.
    Respectively to each their own though.
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    Oct 20, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    Bonapart saidI am not into ''fun'' not interested in promiscuous whores that open their ass holes for a different guy every weekend or guys who want to fuck somebody new every wekeend, and are probably carriers of some std + those kind of people are pretty much always shallow, act like some ass holes and are degrading

    not interested in ''fun''


    Could you be any more vile?

    When is the last time anyone even showed interest in you?

    Your a foul mouthed fake

    Why do you even show up?
  • RetroFit

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    Oct 20, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    I think our culture not just "Gay Community" has difficulty accepting anyone other than clones. Expressing any opinion, belief or interest outside the (undefined) norm is grounds for termination from friendship. Gays are a little more honest about sex: I watch my str8 friends putting similar effort into sex, women are more coy about it, they give sex to get love.
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    Oct 20, 2014 3:34 PM GMT
    xBEHEMOTHx saidI still don't get the fun thing ..wtf is pnp?? I've always thought it is a orgy with some hard drugs.. and why do we call it fun?? Why can't we just say sex??

    Because it's just not sex, it's also about having drugs, which is fun for some people.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 20, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    Why not just accept that a lot of these guys aren't at all sure what they want? That they're searching? That they have strong sex interests but are also aware that there's something more that they'd like to have? You don't seem all that sure of what you want from them either so how about just being a bit more understanding that we're all doing the best we can?
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    Oct 20, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    PiercedAndFit saidI think our culture not just "Gay Community" has difficulty accepting anyone other than clones. Expressing any opinion, belief or interest outside the (undefined) norm is grounds for termination from friendship.

    ...


    Tell me about it. A whiny bitchy queen "unfriended" me on Facebook because I didn't agree with some political shit he posted.
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    Oct 20, 2014 4:06 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Jms31 said
    UndercoverMan saidI often find that it's the ones who say no hook up are the first to have their pants around their ankles on the first date before you can say "Bob's your uncle."


    Spot on!


    They will also send cock pics when their profiles say "only looking for friends!" LOL! I love looking at my friends' cocks!


    I have ALWAYS thought that the most low-class and disgusting way to "get acquainted." All it says is, "Hey, look at me! I'm low life and here's the evidence to prove it!" A guaranteed non-response every time.

    Love the "Bob's you uncle," quote, BTW.
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    Oct 20, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    TO22 saidWell the problem lies within there being few places to meet other guys where there is a platonic and respectable atmosphere. It's either a gay bar where everyone wants to fuck you, or a dating app... where everyone wants to fuck you...or maybe just be friends... but secretly just wants to fuck you. ...


    Pardon the expression, but I completely agree w/ your bottom line.
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    Oct 20, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    You re such a.cutieicon_smile.gif