Sex problem

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    Oct 20, 2014 12:08 AM GMT
    How do I stop my stomach hurting and feeling sick at the thought of even getting naked with someone because the thought of sex makes my stomach knot. I have no sex life because of this and it's a big part of why I can't maintain a relationship.

    It's totally irrational I know but curious how others got over the hurdle as it were and relaxed enough to enjoy it.
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    Oct 20, 2014 9:36 AM GMT
    How do you get undressed in the gym , that's one place to begin just being in ur undies or going to the shower should help u begin.....

    also if you know a guy who you like and he's willing then y'all sit around with shirts off...

    Everything takes time and patience ,,, take it slow ur time will come.
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    Oct 20, 2014 2:45 PM GMT
    I'd agree with Buttholeboy, take it slow, find a guy who's willing to be patient and who you can be really comfortable with. Take off a few clothes to the point where you feel yourself just starting to react and stop there. When you feel yourself start to relax again maybe drop one ore item, etc. This could happen over the course of several 'encounters', doesn't have to be all at once.

    I think you'll also find the more you're with one person the less reaction you'll have with them. You may find it comes back when you move to a new partner. To this day I still have this silly nervous reaction of 'shivering'. Not as severe as what you're describing but still embarrassing and annoying. It goes away after one or two encounters with a person because I'm less nervous. Hopefully you'll find that the same thing happens with you.

    Good luck!
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    Oct 20, 2014 2:55 PM GMT
    DannyW saidThanks fellas maybe I would've had better luck if I was asking about how to get fucked with dildos and all that crap.

    First of all, you need to chill a bit. Why all this venom towards all guys here just because no one was sitting at their computer on a Sunday night? Maybe there's a deep-seeded issue in the back of your mind that gay sex is bad and something you should not do. Or sex of any sort. If so, you'll need to work that out with a therapist. If not, just start trying to think of the nerves as part of the thrill. I still get nervous energy sometimes to the point of shaking when really excited by a guy. I love the feeling.

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    Oct 20, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    DannyW saidThanks fellas maybe I would've had better luck if I was asking about how to get fucked with dildos and all that crap.

    First of all, you need to chill a bit. Why all this venom towards all guys here just because no one was sitting at their computer on a Sunday night? Maybe there's a deep-seeded issue in the back of your mind that gay sex is bad and something you should not do. Or sex of any sort. If so, you'll need to work that out with a therapist. If not, just start trying to think of the nerves as part of the thrill. I still get nervous energy sometimes to the point of shaking when really excited by a guy. I love the feeling.



    I kinda woke up on the wrong side of the bed.