Dating Question

  • bna2

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    Oct 20, 2014 7:56 PM GMT

    Hi I have a Brother that is gay, & Is also Autistic, Wanna know if you would freak out & leave if you found out you Were dating or in a relationship with someone that has a learing disability?

    He is a Pretty Easygoing person. my bro is also Very Kind, & is Sincere
    And is Independent to the point that he lives on his own and pays bills, & also keeps in shape,

    Just has trouble understanding others motives or what they mean by what they say,
    Its difficult for him to make friends because of this Fact.
    Would you give him a chance if you found out?

  • mxne

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    Oct 20, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    of course icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 20, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    The ADHD spectrum and Autism spectrum are very similar.

    I have ADHD, and get along very well with others who have spectrum disorders. One of my best friends has Tourette, and most of my other friends have some type of spectrum disorder, ranging from ADHD, high functioning Autism, Tourette, and a whole host of other mentally fucked up disorders.

    So...yeah, I could do more than just "give him a chance." He'd actually be higher on my list of people to be with. I'd even be willing to bet he's also very artistic, which seems to go hand in hand with mental disorders.
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    Oct 20, 2014 9:21 PM GMT
    We already know he comes from a very good family who would work so hard to give him the tools to be independent. And for you to continue to look into his happiness in this way is hugely admirable. He's a lucky guy.

    I wouldn't freak but also it wouldn't work with me, not by his autism but by my deadpan humor. I often throw my own brother for a loop and he's an engineer and has known me for nearly 60 years so you'd think he'd get it by now. Hmmm. Could be he's autistic too. We should have him checked. I'll suggest that at Thanksgiving.

    Meeting my brother at a hotel a few months back and pulling his leg he finally gets it and exclaims: "you didn't even change your inflection!" So I'd imagine that some of these guys online miss my humor too. My humor on a guy with autism? Nooooo. I play a bit too rough for that.

    I'd think he'd do well with a serious academic type person so maybe he should be attending university or you could consider going to San Francisco. You're gonna meet some gentle people there.

    For such deed, you have my respect. Best of luck to you and your brother. I hope he finds some happy.
  • Elektrizantek

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    Oct 20, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    This tema about autism.How you recognizean adult somone if he was autism or not ?Anxiety ,depression ,not relaxed ?he don t feel unless confortable with the people ?
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    Oct 20, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    I honestly would give him a chance. Although a physical disability, I have Erb's Palsy (Brachial Plexus birth injury), so I should be the last person to "freak out and leave" if I discovered someone's disability. Anyone, able-bodied or otherwise, who reacts like THAT isn't worth my (or his) time getting to know anyway.