Oct 21, 2014 1:47 AM GMT
Here's my scenario: I met a guy a few months back that I really like. We went out on four dates spread out over a couple months. On the last date, I told him that I like him... I never made a move in terms of physical intimacy, however, because I wanted to signal to him that I really like him. And since I really like him, I don't want to be intimate until I know he likes me, too. To me he is a wonderful guy and he could possibly be everything I want in a partner... but I really think he is emotionally unavailable. He did say that he dated me more times than anyone else since his last relationship and he did share a lot of personal detail -- I think there is a decent possibility that he's into me. But he basically wouldn't say a lot of nice things directly about me, other than I'm a 'great guy' and he had a 'wonderful time' -- which I really appreciated. Also, he feels a little uncomfortable about holding hands in public. When I asked him some questions to try to gently approach the topic of whether he is into me or not what I got was a series of long, complicated answers and no conclusive statements. I appreciated the effort to communicate his feelings -- but his responses were frankly unclear to me -- but then he said he did want to meet me again. Because I like him, I feel like I'm so nervous and shaken up that I can't even be my usual happy and funny self around him anymore! I got angry with him because he didn't text me back quickly enough about our plans for date 5... I've got to apologize for that, right? What else should I do guys -- if he will date me 4 times and hasn't said 'I'm not into you', then I've got a chance, right? How do I move this to the next level gently without scaring him away? How can I coax him out of emotional unavailability? I don't mind putting aside my pride and trying to (somehow?) work with him through his issues, but how should I go about that? How can I be more sensitive to whatever is making him emotionally unavailable? Your input appreciated. Thanks.