Where have you had the most success meeting guys?

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    Oct 21, 2014 1:02 PM GMT
    I'd really like to meet someone, but I don't get out much. I've tried dating sites, but I really haven't had any luck. I'll admit that I'm quite picky when it comes to looks (more so the face than body), but I really haven't found anyone on the internet that I could see myself dating.

    Where have you had the best success meeting other guys?
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    Oct 21, 2014 1:13 PM GMT
    Probably not the answer you want to hear but you'll meet more guys once you address your shallowness. If a handsome face is your number one priority you're going to have a very very miserable string of horrible relationships. There are some fucked up people out there and from my experience they usually are the most attractive people. Not sure why that is but that's just been my experience. Maybe it's because the incredibly handsome guys are used to getting their way about everything. All I know is there are some really sketchy characters out there and you can't tell the difference by focusing on their exterior.

    FYI: I'm not saying this to judge you; I used to be the same way when I was your age, and I passed up a lot of great guys because their face or body wasn't exactly what I was looking for.
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    Oct 21, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    Either parties or events. One great connection came from a bar but only one ever.
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    Oct 21, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidProbably not the answer you want to hear but you'll meet more guys once you address your shallowness. If a handsome face is your number one priority you're going to have a very very miserable string of horrible relationships. There are some fucked up people out there and from my experience they usually are the most attractive people. Not sure why that is but that's just been my experience. Maybe it's because the incredibly handsome guys are used to getting their way about everything. All I know is there are some really sketchy characters out there and you can't tell the difference by focusing on their exterior.

    FYI: I'm not saying this to judge you; I used to be the same way when I was your age, and I passed up a lot of great guys because their face or body wasn't exactly what I was looking for.



    I so concur with you answer mate !
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    Oct 21, 2014 9:49 PM GMT
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  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 21, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    Met my partner of 7 years online. Started with a sex date that quickly turned permanent. Have had great luck meeting great guys online. A doctor, a real-estate guy, a builder, my partner, a film-maker, an investment banker, several great recurring guys that were really just sex dates but we genuinely enjoyed each others' company, even a one-time guy shipping out with the Air Force that would have been amazing if he hadn't been transferred overseas. You need to rethink why you aren't having any luck. Sounds like you're making your own luck.
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    Oct 21, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    At sorority parties.
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    Oct 21, 2014 11:17 PM GMT
    This site


    Only because Pensacola's gay scene is terrible.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Oct 22, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidProbably not the answer you want to hear but you'll meet more guys once you address your shallowness. If a handsome face is your number one priority you're going to have a very very miserable string of horrible relationships. There are some fucked up people out there and from my experience they usually are the most attractive people. Not sure why that is but that's just been my experience. Maybe it's because the incredibly handsome guys are used to getting their way about everything. All I know is there are some really sketchy characters out there and you can't tell the difference by focusing on their exterior.

    FYI: I'm not saying this to judge you; I used to be the same way when I was your age, and I passed up a lot of great guys because their face or body wasn't exactly what I was looking for.


    Great answer! if looks is your reason to be attracted you are cutting your chances to find the one by half! for me its been easy because I have no issues with appreciating beauty in everything!

    If I were you I stick to the locals! people are so much real and dating more enjoyable if you meet someone, even more so by chance!!
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    Oct 22, 2014 3:41 AM GMT
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    Oct 22, 2014 8:07 AM GMT
    I know that you're not looking for websites, but OkCupid.com & MeetUp.com really seem to help people who have rotten luck with other website. (Just realized how my comment sounds so much like a 'plug' for these websites. LOL!)
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    Oct 22, 2014 9:19 AM GMT
    Honestly?

    You need to understand in the gay world people often tend to think of themselves better looking then they really are. For example, in shallow terms usually a guy who's a 6/10 thinks he's an 8/10 and then will demand a guy who's an 8/10 which rarely happens.

    It's part gay and part being a man. This wort of thinking works much more in the straight world. Zeta and Douglas, Trump and any of his wives, etc

    Women usually think of themselves less attractive then they really are.

    My suggestion: Take an honest look at yourself example-If you don't have a six pac don't ask for one in some else

    The best way to meet other guys is through mutual friends or
    a bar. Have a criteria other then pre biased looks to make sure your relationship lasts.

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    Oct 22, 2014 8:40 PM GMT
    Randomly in person. Usually at parties, functions, and events. Social Networking works wonders when you put yourself out there. This whole online biz is too sketchy and dudes are hellah picky and a bit too presumptuous.
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    Oct 23, 2014 12:13 AM GMT
    canadian_stud saidHonestly?

    You need to understand in the gay world people often tend to think of themselves better looking then they really are. For example, in shallow terms usually a guy who's a 6/10 thinks he's an 8/10 and then will demand a guy who's an 8/10 which rarely happens.

    It's part gay and part being a man. This wort of thinking works much more in the straight world. Zeta and Douglas, Trump and any of his wives, etc

    Women usually think of themselves less attractive then they really are.

    My suggestion: Take an honest look at yourself example-If you don't have a six pac don't ask for one in some else

    The best way to meet other guys is through mutual friends or
    a bar. Have a criteria other then pre biased looks to make sure your relationship lasts.



    I'm not looking for a six pack, and I really don't care much about a guy's body, provided he isn't obese. I'm more about the face, and I find it hard for myself to be attracted to someone if they don't have a cute face. Not being shallow intentionally, it's just what I'm attracted to.
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    Oct 23, 2014 7:29 AM GMT
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    canadian_stud saidHonestly?

    You need to understand in the gay world people often tend to think of themselves better looking then they really are. For example, in shallow terms usually a guy who's a 6/10 thinks he's an 8/10 and then will demand a guy who's an 8/10 which rarely happens.

    It's part gay and part being a man. This wort of thinking works much more in the straight world. Zeta and Douglas, Trump and any of his wives, etc

    Women usually think of themselves less attractive then they really are.

    My suggestion: Take an honest look at yourself example-If you don't have a six pac don't ask for one in some else

    The best way to meet other guys is through mutual friends or
    a bar. Have a criteria other then pre biased looks to make sure your relationship lasts.



    I'm not looking for a six pack, and I really don't care much about a guy's body, provided he isn't obese. I'm more about the face, and I find it hard for myself to be attracted to someone if they don't have a cute face. Not being shallow intentionally, it's just what I'm attracted to.

    His analogy about six packs can be applied just to the looks also i.e. if you aren't the best looking out there, don't ask for one. He is saying-be realistic.
  • e2ksj3355

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    Oct 23, 2014 10:16 AM GMT
    For me it has been mostly online. I haven't had much luck with going to bars and meeting people.
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    Oct 23, 2014 1:25 PM GMT
    No luck here in meeting guys in KC...too much drama, too many games & too many couch potatoes/fossils with excessive mileage on their looks...
  • wellwell

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    Oct 23, 2014 10:49 PM GMT
    I don't go to bars; good luck @ the Gym & Field.
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    Oct 24, 2014 7:10 PM GMT
    Bars are usually for hook ups. I had good luck with online dating and meeting guys through gay groups, friends.
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    Oct 31, 2014 7:06 PM GMT
    think outsite the box, gays are everywhere and you can´t tell until they know you exist, just put yourself out there, honestly there´s possibilies everywhere, but relationship types usualy reduced by a miracle on bars and Grindr etc lol just don´t look for perfection, balance things, be realistic, needs to be mutual/chesmestry...
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 04, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    ant811 saidI'd really like to meet someone, but I don't get out much. I've tried dating sites, but I really haven't had any luck. I'll admit that I'm quite picky when it comes to looks (more so the face than body), but I really haven't found anyone on the internet that I could see myself dating.

    Where have you had the best success meeting other guys?


    6 relationships scenes where I met them.

    #1 - Work
    #2 - General party (Social gathering of mutual fiends)
    #3 - Public Library.
    ---> One Night Stand - Bar
    ---> One Night Stand - Same Bar
    #4 - Bar/Club (different bar). He picked me up from off the floor, carried me home... I was slightly drunk....
    #5 - Sobriety Coffee House (sorta like a bar, without alcohol see: #4 for reasons)
    #6 - AA meeting (yes there is a trend there isn't there).

    I occasionally do go on Craigslist, read and laugh and laugh and bust a gut with laughter (Seriously I find the whole sex hook up crowd to be remarkably humorous). I tried the OKCupid but then rapidly discovered that it was just another for of Craigslist.

    Never tried Grind'r, sounds like Craigslist but on speed.... or crack.

    I think you need to figure out what it is you want to meet guys for first. Just sex? Relationships? What? I doubt relationship seeking fellas actually use those computer sites since a lot of the guys blow - and not in the nice happy ending way.

    Real life situations tend to work best, and usually happening at places you don't expect to meet a potential mate.

    Just hope its not involving them literally carrying you home... well unless your into that.


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    Nov 06, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    This is what I'm noticing also even for my tech obsessed generation who are always glued to their smartphones 24/7

    Online I've had success meeting guys but not the types I was seeking, most guys who I went out on dates with from dating sites either had in realistically high standards, couldn't carry a conversation or seemed to be more introverted than me and didn't have dating skills... Or worse are all 3 of these things.

    There's also a lot of guys who lurk there. You can get someone who's (supposedly) a 95% match for you and vice versa not send a message or even reply back. Kind of like at a HS dance, every on with their back against the wall not know when or how to make a move.... There's a bit of a shift back to traditional dating methods since you really can't tell that much from someone's profile as you can from meeting them in person.

    The most successful, fulfilling relationship came from meeting my first BF, met through a mutual friend. I was focused with online dating. We were friends for a few months before I confessed I had a crush in him, I actually made a thread about whether I should tell him on here years ago. That turned into a 3 year relationship. Get offline and meet people in low pressure environments, that's where you may stack the odds in your favor if you're looking for a relationship.