How do I get this guy to notice me


  • Oct 21, 2014 11:13 PM GMT
    His name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.
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    Oct 22, 2014 10:50 AM GMT
    To be honest he might not be ready yet to start a relationship since he just came out. Or it could also be that he's not that into you. Don't get sad about it, things like this will happen all the time. Remember there will ALWAYS be more people ahead and just when you thought you found the right one you meet the partner of your dreams. The key is to not get attached to things, people or situations like this. Life is short and as soon as you get over this you'll be ready to start a new journey. Wish you all the best.

    Cheers,

    L.
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    Oct 22, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    I dont find such persons in my life .But now i had a real good friend .a friend
    Who love me like his Brother...We are in the same collage.
    I share all my feelings with him. With out him i cant think about it
  • secondstartot...

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    Oct 22, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/141690977X

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tVlqVHKn2dg


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  • secondstartot...

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    Oct 22, 2014 2:35 PM GMT
    and bullshit ...no such thing as a once in a lifetime guy...there are billions of guys...the only once in a lifetime is YOU ! I know its corny but you are 18 you need to learn to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and you DESERVE a guy who wants to call you !
    PROMISE
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    Oct 22, 2014 2:38 PM GMT
    we never completely get over people who we had loved. Do you even know if he would text back his sister? Really; does he have time for a date?

    High school was a simpler time. For example; Hunter is about to graduate from whatever and move to another city.

  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 22, 2014 3:09 PM GMT
    Best way to handle it is to go to college and start getting really good at something you love. And stay in amazing shape. And get good haircuts.
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    Oct 22, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidand bullshit ...no such thing as a once in a lifetime guy...there are billions of guys...the only once in a lifetime is YOU ! I know its corny but you are 18 you need to learn to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and you DESERVE a guy who wants to call you !
    PROMISE


    Really nothing left to say. This says it all.
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    Oct 23, 2014 3:34 AM GMT
    hopelesslover96 saidHis name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.


    1. Learn how to spell "Hunter."
    2. Accept what you said, "He never wanted to talk, or hang out, again."
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Oct 23, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    hopelesslover96 saidHis name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.


    Being yourself! that is the best and sure way to attract anyone, friend or lover! if a person you are interested in does not appreciate you for who you are, he is not worth pursuing, that simple!!
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    Oct 23, 2014 5:13 AM GMT
    You're 18, plenty of other guys to fawn over out there
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    Oct 23, 2014 6:47 AM GMT
    Shave the sides of your hair off, colour the middle fleuro green and keep it long and spiked up.
    Then whenever you see him, strip down into nothing but a blanket and continuously scream "I AM THE LIZARD QUEEN" while running around him in circles.
    If he doesn't notice that then there's a high chance he's blind and/or deaf or is just choosing to ignore you.
  • 5100s

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    Oct 23, 2014 5:42 PM GMT
    What I wrote in a recent post appears to be applicable here:

    My experience has been that when people want you, or anything else, they have a way of making it perfectly clear. This knowledge can save a lot of angst. Similarly, when they say they don't want you, you should take it at face value and move on.

  • mybud

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    Oct 23, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
    First crushes are really hard to get over. It appears you felt more about him than he did you. Be thankfully he didn't use you to his advantage....Nobody is going to made you whole. You need to develop your wants, needs, and desires...Work on you...All the best.
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    Oct 23, 2014 8:26 PM GMT
    Waterhorse saidTo be honest he might not be ready yet to start a relationship since he just came out. Or it could also be that he's not that into you. Don't get sad about it, things like this will happen all the time. Remember there will ALWAYS be more people ahead and just when you thought you found the right one you meet the partner of your dreams. The key is to not get attached to things, people or situations like this. Life is short and as soon as you get over this you'll be ready to start a new journey.

    +1
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Oct 23, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    hopelesslover96 saidHis name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.


    I'm sorry hopeless.

    Fate is cruel at times, and she is also fickle as all hell.

    Apparently this fella doesn't feel you two are a match, he gave you chance and for whatever reason he decided not to pursue the matter.

    I fear love is like gravity, once it takes over your helpless to control the situation until the fall is over. This is why its called 'falling in love'.

    As for how to get over him... Time wounds all heels... Oops - well yes it does that, but in this case its time heals all wounds.

    You're 18. Trust me 30 years from now you will look back and see that love strikes more than just once in life.

    I know right now it doesn't feel like it will, or it feels like this guy is the only guy in the world for you. but I assure you from a longer life perspective, this isn't the reality of the situation.

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    Oct 23, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    It's difficult to get over those feelings when you identify someone that seems really special to you, makes you feel good when you think about them and cannot wait to see them. Unfortunately, those feelings are not always reciprocated. It feels bad and feels like you might never feel that way about someone else again. The truth is, those feelings started somewhere inside of you because of a way you thought about another person and, of course, it was probably heightened by some natural physical attraction. There are plenty of attractive guys out there, and as you get out in the world and spend time around other guys, you'll start to see how easy it is to start to be excited about and interested in other men. Sometimes more than one at the same time. Not everyone is going to return the feelings you have for them. It sucks, but it's important to remember your value is not determined by some guy liking you back. There are hundreds of guys out there for you, so don't spend time knocking yourself down or doubting yourself. Think about how great it is going to be trying to get to know the next guy and all the fun you will have learning about each other. If this doesn't help, then just drug and kidnap Hunter and tie him to a mattress in your basement and don't let him leave until he pledges his undying love for you.
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    Oct 24, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    hopelesslover96 saidHis name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.



    Are you serious going to give up after only one shot? Get it at least three tries. If you don't get his attention you will at least gain some easy experience. A old acquaintance is easier to pursue than a cold call.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Oct 24, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    Love at 18! oh those where the days, and I enjoyed every minute of it, even the heartbreaks!
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 24, 2014 6:54 AM GMT
    You will live! Its called a crush, if it was easy they'd call it something else!icon_idea.gif

    Also sometimes there is chemistry sometimes not. It should be on both ends.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 24, 2014 6:57 AM GMT
    chuckystud said
    hopelesslover96 saidHis name is hunter, we went to school together from middle school through high school. Right before we graduated hunter came out, I texted him (we had never really been friends before but I thought I would give it a try) I told him I was there if he wanted not talk, and I offered him a date. We went on the date, which I thought had gone great, and he never wanted to talk or hang out again. This guy is the guy of my dreams. All I want is for him to like me, how do I get him to even hold a conversation with me over text message. And if he's not worth it then how do I get over him. This kind of guy only comes once in a life time.


    1. Learn how to spell "Hunter."
    2. Accept what you said, "He never wanted to talk, or hang out, again."


    Chuck really knows what he's talking about this itme he hears number 2 all the time!!
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    They all never want to hang out or talk to him!
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 24, 2014 7:00 AM GMT
    GogoBoy saidTalk about the gym? icon_eek.gif

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    Better yet go to the gym and build this bod and ass and you will have many once in a lifetime guys lined up including Ms. Hunter!
  • Kovyn

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    Oct 24, 2014 8:53 AM GMT
    Forget about Hunter. Have you met Kovyn?
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    Oct 24, 2014 11:46 AM GMT
    I think he's not ready to start a relationship and i think you may need to be there for him as a good friend first before thinking to be more than that.
    I think maybe you should try this time to go where he lives and tell him that you really wanna be a part of his new life and that you'll always be there for him .maybe something will flourish from this friendship.in the future.
    I wish you best luck:-)
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 24, 2014 2:04 PM GMT
    calime61 saidI think he's not ready to start a relationship and i think you may need to be there for him as a good friend first before thinking to be more than that.
    I think maybe you should try this time to go where he lives and tell him that you really wanna be a part of his new life and that you'll always be there for him .maybe something will flourish from this friendship.in the future.
    I wish you best luck:-)


    You missed reading something they guy doesn't even want him as a friend now or he would have kept in touch. He wrote "he never wanted to talk or hang out again"
    Maybe it was his breath?