Social Awkwardness!!

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    Oct 22, 2014 3:45 AM GMT
    Sound off! Who else here has an excellent recipe for fillet of sole??

    What's your go-to method to insert foot in mouth?
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    Oct 22, 2014 4:09 AM GMT
    Arguing with beautiful people about beautiful people things

    (edit: especially after a couple drinks, in case that wasn't obvious)
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    Oct 22, 2014 4:35 AM GMT
    I have this uncanny ability to unconsciously play a song or movie or say something that I've been trying to bottle up but its like my consciousness tries to get it out through song and movie selections or by one off comments……Like my mum has cancer and I sat her down to watch american horror story with me thinking she would be into it and I hadn't seen the end of the show so we sit down together to watch it and its about a mother and her daughter and the daughter has always lived in the shadow of her mother which is like me and my mum and her and my grandmother and her mother died of cancer and she currently has cancer and the mother in the TV show has cancer too and she ends up dying lol….yeh not something u want to sit down with your cancer ridden mum to watch..

    The same thing happens with music and its really embarrassing I can't really think of anything now but there have been many times where I picked the worse possible song for that moment in time when I'm with friends or whatever……Another thing I hate doing is reading peoples tarot cards because its always true and I think maybe sometimes I'm manifesting these things to happen or something…..I was reading this guys astrology chart out to him and it pretty much said that he's a moocher and he's been mooching off his girlfriend and her mother for 6 months and not paying any rent lol I felt awkward but it feels like theres someone deep down inside my subconscious laughing their head off and having a fun time watching me squirm.
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    Oct 22, 2014 6:23 AM GMT
    I'm very socially awkward but too indifferent to care that it's awkward for them.
    Normally I remain generally quiet and let people make whatever impression they want of me.
    I find it taxing enough being social with my job that outside of work I don't care for socialising. Besides, being "internet social" is so much easier and convenient to do.
    Then again, perhaps with the rise of trolls nowadays maybe it's actually harder to do than it seems for some people.
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    Oct 22, 2014 12:59 PM GMT
    Im basically very clumsy and when i get nervous i slurr my words.
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    Oct 22, 2014 1:59 PM GMT
    I'm an over-sharer
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    Oct 22, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    ahhh the over sharer…..ive shared many a conversation with your kind mwahahaha!!
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    Oct 22, 2014 4:05 PM GMT
    Life2Short saidI'm an over-sharer


    It generally falls on me to initiate and keep a conversation going. It s awkward that I'm basically talking to myself. I would appreciate someone sharing anything!
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    Oct 22, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    I was very shy in my late teens and early 20's . I started to get out of my shell ,when i started to fly .
    It might be all those intercom announcements with 200 people facing me icon_smile.gif...
    My secret for beating awkarness while meeting someone for the 1st time , is to let them talk about themselves , then from there i go on ...
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    Oct 22, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    Yeah...I just choose to work a lot and hang out with just a few close friends. People have called me stuck up or a loner though because I do tend to stay to myself.
    It's just hard finding that balance when you never know what to say or do around others...where you're happy and able to communicate with people around you.

    I figure as long as you are happy with who you are, which means you genuinely like yourself, then I think social awkwardness kinda just disappears...
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    Oct 22, 2014 10:19 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    Life2Short saidI'm an over-sharer


    It generally falls on me to initiate and keep a conversation going. It s awkward that I'm basically talking to myself. I would appreciate someone sharing anything!


    Hah, if you're ever in the Big Easy (or if I ever make it to California as planned) we'll have to sit down over some beers for a long chat. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 22, 2014 11:14 PM GMT
    Life2Short saidI'm an over-sharer


    Not compared to several I can think of on RJ.
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    Oct 23, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    I'm quite shy especially around people I don't know. icon_redface.gif I'm getting better at it, but it's still not as natural as some social butterflies.
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    Oct 23, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    When you're gifted, and I know plenty of folks who are, you have a tendency to deliver information in more detail, and at an advanced cadence. This often overwhelms, or turns offs, folks who don't want that info, or can't handle that info. It takes a real effort, sometimes, to dumb down communications.
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    Oct 23, 2014 3:34 AM GMT
    I stay home. If I can manage to stay offline, even better.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 23, 2014 4:58 AM GMT
    I seem to be getting worse and worse...
  • Trontastic

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    Oct 23, 2014 8:01 AM GMT
    I make a massacre of intelligent conversations, by going off on random tangents no one asked for, and not shutting up where necessary.
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    Oct 23, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    I tend to overanalyze what I'm saying and get nervous in the process. I've found that just approaching the speech (if in front of people) or if really significant, in a laid back way really helps by starting off with a joke or just something that we all can relate to.

    I was understandably nervous when I started my webradio weekly fitness program, but now I'm prepared and I know it sounds good and I've gained confidence from repetition... that helps!
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    Oct 23, 2014 3:09 PM GMT
    Trontastic saidI make a massacre of intelligent conversations, by going off on random tangents no one asked for, and not shutting up where necessary.

    Part of the art of conversation is gently nudging the other person back on path when they lose track. I can talk up a storm about myself, and that's what I need to avoid.

    Your goal is trying to highlight the other person. If you do that you won't have a problem with not shutting up about yourself.
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    Oct 23, 2014 5:06 PM GMT
    The best advice I ever got was to ask the other person questions about themselves. It's hard to put into practice but once you're in the groove it just feels much more balanced. And occasionally you get to chat with someone who has the same passionate interests as you and everyone else just steps back and watches you go. That happens with me and cars if I bump into another car guy who's OCD like me
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    Oct 24, 2014 1:31 PM GMT
    Life2Short saidThe best advice I ever got was to ask the other person questions about themselves. It's hard to put into practice but once you're in the groove it just feels much more balanced. And occasionally you get to chat with someone who has the same passionate interests as you and everyone else just steps back and watches you go. That happens with me and cars if I bump into another car guy who's OCD like me


    That's the ticket. I've found that generally people love to talk about themselves, so I use the "ask the other person questions" approach myself. Even people who are supposedly boring have a life and perhaps some insight, and a lot of people are actually quite interesting.
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    Oct 24, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidWhen you're gifted, and I know plenty of folks who are, you have a tendency to deliver information in more detail, and at an advanced cadence. This often overwhelms, or turns offs, folks who don't want that info, or can't handle that info. It takes a real effort, sometimes, to dumb down communications.


    Yet others like yourself cut and paste Google and try to pass it off as being intelligent or gifted!icon_idea.gif
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    Oct 25, 2014 10:51 PM GMT
    I love being able to see the posts of guys i've blocked when other guys quote them. Helps me remember why I blocked them in the first place icon_lol.gif