Need Advice.... How do you get over your ex?

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    Oct 23, 2014 3:38 AM GMT
    TL;DR:
    How do you move on from a relationship that you broke off for your own good, even though you still loved that person?


    Recently, my bf of 2 years and I broke up. A lot of shit happened in our relationship, but at the same time, we just had an amazing connection together. I broke up with him because he just really needed to work on a lot of issues in his life and they were making us both really unhappy. Long story short, the breaking up process took suuuch a long time to complete but we have finally said our "last goodbyes" , both of us reminding the other how much we love one another.

    I have tried so hard to move on with my life. I am a 21 year old undergrad currently applying for grad school. I tell myself I have a lot on my plate and I really don't need to be in a relationship anyway. I try telling myself that Im young, this is my first love but there will be another. I get so emotional still when I think of him being with someone else though. I try to think of what it would be like with someone new but... meh.... So instead I tell myself that I just need to get to know myself again and Ill feel all good again.... Hopefully thats still true, but I always find myself thinking of him.

    So, how have you gotten over someone that you still loved? Many people tell me finding someone else is a great distraction, but I wont do that. All that means is that you have no respect for the other's feelings. How can I begin dating someone new if Im still in love with another? I need a new perspective on life, one that I haven't thought of yet that will change how I think about this.
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    Oct 23, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    Shoot him in the kneecap

    Worked for Me everytime
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    Oct 23, 2014 6:28 AM GMT
    k10malau saidTL;DR:
    How do you move on from a relationship that you broke off for your own good, even though you still loved that person?


    Recently, my bf of 2 years and I broke up. A lot of shit happened in our relationship, but at the same time, we just had an amazing connection together. I broke up with him because he just really needed to work on a lot of issues in his life and they were making us both really unhappy. Long story short, the breaking up process took suuuch a long time to complete but we have finally said our "last goodbyes" , both of us reminding the other how much we love one another.

    I have tried so hard to move on with my life. I am a 21 year old undergrad currently applying for grad school. I tell myself I have a lot on my plate and I really don't need to be in a relationship anyway. I try telling myself that Im young, this is my first love but there will be another. I get so emotional still when I think of him being with someone else though. I try to think of what it would be like with someone new but... meh.... So instead I tell myself that I just need to get to know myself again and Ill feel all good again.... Hopefully thats still true, but I always find myself thinking of him.

    So, how have you gotten over someone that you still loved? Many people tell me finding someone else is a great distraction, but I wont do that. All that means is that you have no respect for the other's feelings. How can I begin dating someone new if Im still in love with another? I need a new perspective on life, one that I haven't thought of yet that will change how I think about this.


    Can you provide more details about your failed relationship? While it may be nice to read of other people's personal experiences with such, I would like to think that the dynamics of your failed relationship, or anyone else's really, is unique...
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    Oct 23, 2014 7:07 AM GMT
    Two years is a long time tbh. It will take a while until you're completely over this guy, so the best thing you can do is give yourself time and space. Don't focus on a relationship with anyone else just yet. Just enjoy life as a single man.