"The Cool Girl Equivalent in the Gay Community"

  • cyclinghiker

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    Oct 25, 2014 2:41 AM GMT
    I ran across this blog post today and instantly was quite curious what the wise people on here would say about it. The idea of starting a forum though didn't hit me until I was checking out a few profiles tonight and the words of the writer came back nice and strong in several I saw as well as my tendency to click on which pretty picture that came up as an option.

    And definitely, it's a longer piece but stick with it.

    http://www.mycarlsbergyears.com/?p=2183


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    Oct 25, 2014 3:02 AM GMT
    The equivalent is in the reason for the pursuit of the Cool Other.

    Girl or GayBro, we want a gf or bf who makes us look good.

    Some are more superficial in how they translate the idea of cool.
    Looks alone are enough.

    My cool is intelligence. I like a smart man. But I will admit to some superficiality with this choice.

    Being with a guy who is obviously intelligent reflects well on me.
    I like that image I'm projecting in the same way that a football jock likes how he feels about himself with his pretty gf.
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    Oct 25, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
    It's a shame that some people still haven't educated themselves about the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation.
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:25 AM GMT
    He kinda rambles on and one about different subjects.

    Is there a TL: DR version???
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:28 AM GMT
    pazzy saidi find it funny because the guy that the piece is talking about actually is on this forum. icon_lol.gif

    real talk.... high school BEEN over and i feel sorry for anybody who is still stuck in that phase of trying to be "popular" or "fit in" after high school is over especially grown ass men where you really don't have to worry about that shit anymore. just because you're gay doesn't give you an excuse to regress. yes, you gotta learn this, that and the fifth but motherfuckers be regressing like they want to be kids all over again.

    like how you look trying to still look for other people to accept when you're over 18 years old? when you come out to yourself and out the closet, you're free but not free to the point where you can be peter pan and tinkerbell and captain hook and all these other fucking characters in never never land. so it's really embarrassing to see all these guys who are like 20 something, 30 something, 40 something trying so hard to be down like kids. all chasing after hoop dreams, begging for someone to take them in like "accept me" or "you have to like me because i'm pretty, have abs, have money or whatever the fuck" instead of just living life THEIR way. you're way too old for that shit. that's when i see folks who are on that shit........ i look @ them like 401dc_ORIG-facepalm_gif.gif


    This is just golden. The DL closet case judging others for caring what others may think...

    Uh.......you shouldn't be giving out advice on being oneself's Spazzy...
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:44 AM GMT
    silver_phoenix said
    paulflexes saidIt's a shame that some people still haven't educated themselves about the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation.


    Oh dear another Social Justice Warrior with his tongue up a mannish lesbian's butt hole:

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    I don't really understand why it's necessary to be horrible. The guy is thoughtful and funny.
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:58 AM GMT
    I remember the 80's equivalent of the (my) "cool girl."

    He was gorgeous. Part-time model. All the latest designer clothes.

    His boyfriend was also beautiful. From NYC.

    I danced with him at a club that was not a gay club.

    No one said a word.

    Fast forward a few years...

    His boyfriend died of a heroin overdose.

    "Cool girl" died a few years later of AIDS.

    He was 27.

    I miss him.

    His "I don't give a rat's ass what you think of me" sensiblity sort of rubbed off on me.

    I carry it forward.

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    Oct 25, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
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    Oct 25, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    Theantijock seems to be so traumatised with what bon pan wrote that he cannot move on with his life
    all he can do is post the same reply we all have seen like 100 times now and just turn it into one big joke and making himself look completely pathetic

    it's kinda sad and funny at the same time
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    Bonapart saidTheantijock seems to be so traumatised with what bon pan wrote that he cannot move on with his life
    all he can do is post the same reply we all have seen like 100 times now and just turn it into one big joke and making himself look completely pathetic

    it's kinda sad and funny at the same time


    the notifications will continue whenever he tries to harass me. what you think of that is no concern of mine.
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    Ummm I read the whole thing but I have to ask: Am I the only that didn't understand anything? Also, what the fuck does he (or she?) mean by "a weird bi-product of the last twenty years of hegemonic white gay culture"?
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    Oct 25, 2014 6:50 PM GMT
    " hegemonic white gay culture"= Source of the race thread flame wars here.

    Perception that we value white guys and their interests over all others.