Is my Ex messing with my heart

  • MikeMansion

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    Oct 25, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    Me and my ex of almost 5 yr long distance relationship had a final show down yesterday. We had been broken up since June. Didnt speak from July 7 until Sept 10. When we reunited he as loving and affectionate , but he had also been facetiming someone else during that time, while I was dating someone.

    Long story short, we had been going back and forth whether or not to try again. We mutually agreed to let it go. Yet he still kept texting and calling me.. I distance my self cause I didn't want to get hurt. During one conversations he confessed to having facetime sex with this guy he had been talking to. Prior to that, when he was trying to convince me to work it out, he had told me that it was nothing and they were just friends. I was crushed to hear he was having facetime sex because he never would with me in the course of our long distance relationship. That was the last straw for me and I wanted nothing to do with him. I sent him a not so nice text, that I was hurt and not to contact me. so he didn't for two days. In those two days I was no longer upset because I realized that it really didn't matter anymore we were no longer together and really all I cared about was remaining on good terms, and perhaps freinds one day ( but not now), so I sent him a text applogizying for my earlier text. I said I still not wish him to call or text me because it was to hard and didn't feel comfortable with him anymore. I went as far as to say that my phone number would be changing after sending the text and that he would not be able to get hold of me so dont bother replying or calling. just wanted to applogize.

    Well he called, I answered saying " the number you have called has been changed or no longer in service.."" & we both laughed.. He said listen, I love you I don't know how many time I have to tell you. I want to see you next weekend and see were things go from there. I said okay, but really was not too comfortable with the idea because the fact remained he was still facetiming and investing time with this other guy.. ( I had cut ties with the guy I was dating when I reunited with my ex in an effort to try to work it out again)

    That same day he calls after work. We talked shortly and he said I call you tonight. I told him I'd be going to sleep early, cause I didn't feel comfortable yet talking to him espeically over face time knowing he has been having facetime sex with another guy and not me. So I said okay call me , but CALL me, I guess i should have made it clear not to facetime me. So i turned off my facetime and he was forced to call. He said I tried to facetime you, I said I didn't want to facetime, all of sudden he got rude and upset, so to avoid conflict I said ok lets facetime, but he said "no nevermind forget it" he went on to say " i tried, but I'm done" .
    I was so hurt and confused how he could change his mood from ealier to all of sudden deciding to move on just cause I didn't want to facetime. I think he had a change of heart again after talking to his boo before calling me and looked for any reason to get upset and end it again!

    What are your thoughts? Was I acting hasty not wanting to facetime ? did that give him a legitimate reason to go off the deep end and cut me off. didn't I have good reason not to feel comfortable facetiming him? Is he playing me and just not sure what he wants?

    Please help any advice thoughts are appreciated.

    Thanks
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    Oct 25, 2014 9:36 PM GMT
    Why haven't you ever posted here before?
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    Oct 25, 2014 9:36 PM GMT
    MikeMansion said
    Long story short,

    but not nearly short enough.

    5 years is a very long time for an LDR. And even then, you've had periods of not speaking to each other? Doesn't sound like there is a lot of unconditional love left anymore. LA has 10's of thousands of gay men. Time to find one closer to home - someone you can f*ck face to face instead of on "facetime."
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    Oct 27, 2014 3:10 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhy haven't you ever posted here before?


    Bit of a catch22 here... is every new member with a burning issue that prompts him to join this site gonna need to be vetted by you?
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    Oct 27, 2014 8:57 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhy haven't you ever posted here before?


    Wow, what a nice welcome icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 27, 2014 9:42 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhy haven't you ever posted here before?

    +1
    After such long post, they're seen nowhere around.
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    Oct 27, 2014 7:30 PM GMT
    It's quite clear that you're both enjoying this game. When it becomes too painful you'll really stop it.
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    Oct 28, 2014 11:04 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhy haven't you ever posted here before?
    give Deco a break; its 50/50 if your talking to a real account at realJock