Can 'Attractive' and 'Unattractive' people go out together?

  • infinitefrien...

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    Oct 26, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    ...Without too many issues?

    Just wondering
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    Oct 26, 2014 8:16 PM GMT
    How about you show everyone your real face you semen head
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    Oct 26, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    If two people are attracted to EACH OTHER, then "unattractive" never really enters the equation....
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    Oct 26, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    srs. as titled.
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    Oct 26, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    It can cause problems because even if 2 people are attracted to each other if one is perceived as being loads more attractive it can be bad for the relationship. An example being sometimes people may flirt with your partner in front of you yet if the reverse never happens you may feel inferior etc.

    If both people are mature about it though it should not be a problem.
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    Oct 26, 2014 11:41 PM GMT
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    DannyW saidIt can cause problems because even if 2 people are attracted to each other if one is perceived as being loads more attractive it can be bad for the relationship. An example being sometimes people may flirt with your partner in front of you yet if the reverse never happens you may feel inferior etc.

    If both people are mature about it though it should not be a problem.


    how can it be bad for the relationship?

    on the bolded part, you're talking about how some people who are outside of the relationship views them. those folks DON'T matter.

    and in terms of someone in the relationship feeling "inferior" because they feel that their partner is more attractive than they are, no one can make that person feel that way except themselves. that only happens when someone is insecure with themselves where they feel they are NOT attractive or are beneath whoever. that is a character issue if anything.


    Yeah but having been in that situation where people (men in gay bars and sometimes women in regular night clubs) totally don't give two hoots that you're there and make a beeline for the guy you're with makes you feel really crappy. Like I said though it shouldn't be a problem.
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    Oct 27, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Copy from my own post in another thread:

    kevex saidBut you see, that there is the problem with gay men looking for friends. They always try to surround themselves with gays that they find attractive because they see other gay men as potential mates and wouldn't dare go near someone of another race or body shape. If gay men just want friends, why do they always hangout with the "hot" ones? Why do I never see a muscular stud being friends with an obese guy or a butch dude friends with a flamer type? Gay friendship is an oxymoron.


    The horniness problem exists, it's one of the causes I've listed.

    But if you take this out of the equation, you will still see attractive guys preferring attractive friends. It all comes down to identification.

    Being considered unattractive can have a profound effect on your outlook on life, just as being poor. A poor person would have difficulty being friends with a rich one because of all the things the rich people take for granted, all the problems the poor have that the rich are incapable of sympathizing with and all the aspirations the rich have that to the poor are just a pipe dream.

    If I've been unlucky in the ball of seduction for over a year, the last thing I want to hear from a friend is how he is having a hard time choosing among 10 hot guys flirting with him. If I'm struggling to make ends meet, I will not be in the best mood to hear from a friend that he has gotten a big fat raise.

    Conversely, if I found the most perfect boyfriend, I don't want to be around someone who will not share my happiness and will cry about how unfortunate he is.

    The people who can share with us our sorrows and joys are the people who are like us. Attractive guys will naturally gravitate towards other attractive guys because they go through similar problems and joys. They take the same things for granted.

    Unattractive underdogs are also better off having underdog friends who will be more sympathetic to their sorrows. To an underdog, the joys of an attractive friend's life have the potential of making him feel very low, so it is of the underdog's interest to avoid the envy and resentment sparked by coexisting with someone so much luckier than themselves.

    Underdogs complaining about not being friends with attractive guys can only be explained by their sheer resentment brought on by an ulterior unrequited sexual interest.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:01 AM GMT
    bachian saidCopy from my own post in another thread:

    kevex saidBut you see, that there is the problem with gay men looking for friends. They always try to surround themselves with gays that they find attractive because they see other gay men as potential mates and wouldn't dare go near someone of another race or body shape. If gay men just want friends, why do they always hangout with the "hot" ones? Why do I never see a muscular stud being friends with an obese guy or a butch dude friends with a flamer type? Gay friendship is an oxymoron.


    The horniness problem exists, it's one of the causes I've listed.

    But if you take this out of the equation, you will still see attractive guys preferring attractive friends. It all comes down to identification.

    Being considered unattractive can have a profound effect on your outlook on life, just as being poor. A poor person would have difficulty being friends with a rich one because of all the things the rich people take for granted, all the problems the poor have that the rich are incapable of sympathizing with and all the aspirations the rich have that to the poor are just a pipe dream.

    If I've been unlucky in the ball of seduction for over a year, the last thing I want to hear from a friend is how he is having a hard time choosing among 10 hot guys flirting with him. If I'm struggling to make ends meet, I will not be in the best mood to hear from a friend that he has gotten a big fat raise.

    Conversely, if I found the most perfect boyfriend, I don't want to be around someone who will not share my happiness and will cry about how unfortunate he is.

    The people who can share with us our sorrows and joys are the people who are like us. Attractive guys will naturally gravitate towards other attractive guys because they go through similar problems and joys. They take the same things for granted.

    Unattractive underdogs are also better off having underdog friends who will be more sympathetic to their sorrows. To an underdog, the joys of an attractive friend's life have the potential of making him feel very low, so it is of the underdog's interest to avoid the envy and resentment sparked by coexisting with someone so much luckier than themselves.

    Underdogs complaining about not being friends with attractive guys can only be explained by their sheer resentment brought on by an ulterior unrequited sexual interest.


    I completely disagree. I can be happy for your good fortune in having a hot boyfriend or getting a good raise even if I don't at the moment. Conversely, I can be a good friend and shoulder to cry on when you get your heart broken even if I'm living in wedded bliss. If you only are ever around people who are just like you where will the impetus for change and growth come from?
    There are some people who are physically not much to look at but who are compassionate and generous and hilarious. I will only have sex with someone I find attractive. (Ok there was that one pity fuck that one time in Cincinnati...) But i can be friends with someone disfigured or overweight.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:10 AM GMT
    pazzy saidyou know, the weak minded or the plain mentally weak always show themselves and try to project themselves onto others then have the audacity to show pride with their shit. it's tiring @ this point. why can't these fucks just keep their shit to themselves. you can be proud of your looks or whatever BUT if that's all you have to say about yourself as a person and try to put others down with that shit as well in order to boost yourself up, then you are a sorry ass person.

    it's about the inside that counts. what about that? unfortunately, for the weak minded individuals that are too insecure with themselves.. they'll say differently. folks always worried about looks too damn much to the point where they sound retarded.


    Damn Pazzy, this is another example of your ability to have real feelings and semi-sane thoughts. I like this version of Pazzy as well as your new profile pic. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:12 AM GMT
    Cash saidIf two people are attracted to EACH OTHER, then "unattractive" never really enters the equation....



    It depends on how shallow the observer is.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:19 AM GMT
    They need to be attractive to each other. That's all.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    Of course not. Unattractive people have a duty to stay indoors and wear veils. Only attractive people should be out on the streets and in public.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    My answer to the question, Yes they can, it might begin with a physical and attractive thing but it might develop into something long term. Sex has something to do with it, if it was the best sex ever then you may overlook things about the other person.
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:30 AM GMT
    Attractiveness is subjective. People have different perspectives. How would I know?
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    Oct 27, 2014 1:40 AM GMT


    Isn't this something many heterosexual breeders go through? icon_lol.gif

    Fat ugly man + model looking women
    Skinny average man + fat ugly women
    Model looking young man + old women
    Old wrinkly man + young farm girl

  • jo2hotbod

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    Oct 27, 2014 1:49 AM GMT
    The question I'd flawed because it is judgmental from the perspective of the outsider looking at a couple, that couple doesn't care what the outsider thinks
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    Oct 27, 2014 3:22 AM GMT
    It's because so many gay guys want hot boyfriends as well as hot friends so they can be fuck buddies and have open relationships with them; or so that they feel empowered being in a "hot" group whilst discreetly socially climbing off each other.
    Then there are those who have "unattractive" friends so that it makes them look hotter when they are out in a group.
    Then it's after those that you find legit friends who aren't looking for any social status gain but are genuinely happy to spend time. Diamonds in the rough they are.
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    Oct 27, 2014 4:32 AM GMT
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    Oct 27, 2014 5:00 AM GMT
    Happens all the time. They're called interracial relationships; often a brainwashed minority with a white guy far below his league icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 27, 2014 5:07 AM GMT
    DannyW saidIt can cause problems because even if 2 people are attracted to each other if one is perceived as being loads more attractive it can be bad for the relationship. An example being sometimes people may flirt with your partner in front of you yet if the reverse never happens you may feel inferior etc.

    If both people are mature about it though it should not be a problem.


    +1 my thought exactly.
  • cometbro

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    Oct 27, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    There has to be attraction, even if it isn't physical
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    Oct 27, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    MartyredNeons saidIt's because so many gay guys want hot boyfriends as well as hot friends so they can be fuck buddies and have open relationships with them; or so that they feel empowered being in a "hot" group whilst discreetly socially climbing off each other.
    Then there are those who have "unattractive" friends so that it makes them look hotter when they are out in a group.
    Then it's after those that you find legit friends who aren't looking for any social status gain but are genuinely happy to spend time. Diamonds in the rough they are.

    Catch22! If I have a hot friend then I am fucking him, if not then I am being vain as I am trying to make myself look hotter? There is no way you can please everyone. So stop thinking about how people would see you, and do whatever makes you feel good.
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    Oct 27, 2014 6:28 PM GMT
    what I noticed on majority of gay men relationships - the hot ones only date the hot ones...unlike other orientations for e.g bisexual , lesbians and straights where looks are as variety as creatures in an ocean.

    it's true about what they said..most gay men are for the lust and attraction in this matter and love is secondary. truth hurts.
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    Oct 27, 2014 7:13 PM GMT
    There will be "issues" if you let other people's issues become your issues.

    The sooner you learn not to give a damn what others think the sooner your life will be that much better.
  • tazzari

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    Oct 27, 2014 7:27 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 said...Without too many issues?

    Just wondering


    No. It's against the Rules.

    Go out with whoever you like to go out with!