I admire the fact that Straight Men don't require validation.
It's not like they compete for the most Beautiful wife or the most money or biggest house or fastest car or most touchdowns. That NEVER happens.
Validation goes both ways ( many of You can relate to that...)
It can be positive when it gives You tangible evidence of what You already feel You are. If You feel You are a good Person and the vast majority Tell You they think You are a good person --- Positive validation. No harm done. Just some nice icing on the cake.
It's negative when you seek other people's re- enforcement of something you wish you were but don't really feel you are. If you don't feel much of ANY thing about yourself but hang around with people you don't really like only because everyone keeps telling you how fabulous you are just because you are with THEM...negative Validation that diminishes everyone involved. No cake for anyone.
Just some thoughts.