How do I stop desiring a boyfriend so much and enjoy life?

  • infinitefrien...

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    Oct 31, 2014 10:28 PM GMT
    Ok, I am not completely straight to be honest

    I want a bf so much (this has been with me for years) but I can't 'just quit' wanting one and getting on with life...

    How do I tone down this desperation and enjoy living life as a single person whilst still keeping an eye out for when the opportunity comes by?

    Appreciate all advice!
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    Oct 31, 2014 10:33 PM GMT
    Sex.

    Haha no kidding, just focus on self-improvement e.g. I put all of my effort into my career and fitness; and a relationship will (hopefully) come naturally. After all how can you be in a happy relationship if you aren't happy with yourself?

  • Unnamed6

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    Oct 31, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidOk, I am not completely straight to be honest

    I want a bf so much (this has been with me for years) but I can't 'just quit' wanting one and getting on with life...

    How do I tone down this desperation and enjoy living life as a single person whilst still keeping an eye out for when the opportunity comes by?

    Appreciate all advice!


    You have to have psychological dispositions similar to mine, but that wouldn't necessarily make you deal with being alone but rather be oblivious or unconcerned with the fact that you are alone. If you like the idea of being vulnerable, perhaps you can wait it out and do what you can to make yourself appealable to a person that can "snatch" you up. There are a lot of things I can say on this but that will be it for now.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 01, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidOk, I am not completely straight to be honest

    I want a bf so much (this has been with me for years) but I can't 'just quit' wanting one and getting on with life...

    How do I tone down this desperation and enjoy living life as a single person whilst still keeping an eye out for when the opportunity comes by?

    Appreciate all advice!


    Last night I realized something. Part of why I want a boyfriend is because I want someone to value me on a very deep level. I'm not ready for a boyfriend because that is something only I can do. I'll always want a boyfriend. I love being in love. I also except that I'm not the man, the type of man I deserve wants and that will be dealt with in time.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 01, 2014 4:37 AM GMT
    I know the feeling ... sux, because what you dream of happening rarely happens in real life ... I think, those that get what they want are a bit of risk takers ... I know that pretty much every guy I went out with, I made the first move ... now days I don't make that first move mainly because most of the guys in my age group are not available and I don't want to be a Suzy Home Wrecker ... so just be considerate of who you choose, because what every you put out there in life will come back to you in some form or another
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    Nov 01, 2014 5:26 AM GMT
    Create a fake profile on a Gay website and troll.

    Well HEY, LOOK!!!

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    Nov 01, 2014 5:47 AM GMT
    Wait, you weren't sure if you were straight or gay?? icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif

    Go travel the world. Do volunteer humanitarian works. icon_biggrin.gif

  • Nov 17, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Start doing things for yourself. Look into things you can do to improve your life, and start doing things that make you proud of your life. It keeps you busy.

    Plus socialize or turn to a close friend that you can talk to about your problems. The more time spent alone doing nothing isn't the best plan. It causes one to dwell on problems.