Do you enjoy being single so much yet felt lonely and want a caring boyfriend sometimes?

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    Nov 01, 2014 2:57 AM GMT
    how do you deal at those times?
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 01, 2014 3:49 AM GMT
    1. OMG at your name
    2. I don't enjoy being single but accept it as my current lot in life. I have other things to do with my life.
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    Nov 01, 2014 3:53 AM GMT
    Thankfully due to my indifferent disposition in life coupled by my introverted nature I really enjoy being single and never actually feel lonely, even when I'm literally alone.
    I swear I'm a broken record by now but for me I just fill up my time with hobbies I like to do.
    It's great and overtime you really start to value your complete independence.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 01, 2014 4:17 AM GMT
    Q. Do you enjoy being single?
    A. Yes.

    Q. yet felt lonely?
    A. Sometimes but not constantly.

    Q. and want a caring boyfriend sometimes?
    A. of course ... but only if he is the right one ... nothing less will do
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    Nov 01, 2014 6:01 AM GMT
    I can totally relate to this thread. icon_neutral.gif I love the independence and freedom of being unattached Yes, being introvert makes it a bit easier too. icon_biggrin.gif Yet I do crave a caring hug/cuddle sometimes. icon_sad.gif

    I join meetup.com doing activities I enjoy and connecting with others. Quality time with close friends also helps a lot. icon_smile.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 01, 2014 2:03 PM GMT
    Well I had never been "gay single" until my long term partner (only partner) and I broke up in 2012. I've always had dates and was seeing a very nice guy in Houston for a year.

    It can be a little odd for me, just because I'm used to someone always being there to plan and to enjoy, but I wouldn't say I'm lonely. I've got too many things on my agenda to be lonely....LOL

  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 01, 2014 3:35 PM GMT
    When I was single I was usually pretty happy alone. But every now and then, I'd just feel empty and crave touching. Not necessarily anything sexual, just the feeling of being touched. Dogs helped, lol.
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    Nov 02, 2014 1:26 AM GMT
    thanks ladies
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 02, 2014 10:52 PM GMT
    My biggest problem with being single is that the bed is cold and... well lonely.

    I miss having someone to watch TV with - which for me is a warm body to snuggle against.

    Yes I lack the ability to keep myself warm, being all cold bloodied as I are.

    So I just don't bother turning on the TV anymore... And I just sob silently into my pillow at night in that sad, horrific way no one should admit. icon_razz.gif

    The reality is that a lot of 'happily single' people have their moments, their hour of desperation and loneliness.

    However many do rather well most of the time. Being alone and being lonely are not always the same thing.


    How I deal, I live through it and move on.
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    Nov 02, 2014 11:56 PM GMT
    I'm conflicted on this question.

    In some ways I really want someone to be with because I feel quite lonely sometimes and I want to experience being in a nice relationship.

    On the other hand I worry that now I'm a grown up adult I'm not going to be able to find someone who will forgive my inexperience and be patient with me. Plus I worry I don't seem to attract nicer people so I don't know if I should be in a relationship full stop.

    It's kind of a catch 22.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 03, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    DannyW saidI'm conflicted on this question.

    In some ways I really want someone to be with because I feel quite lonely sometimes and I want to experience being in a nice relationship.

    On the other hand I worry that now I'm a grown up adult I'm not going to be able to find someone who will forgive my inexperience and be patient with me. Plus I worry I don't seem to attract nicer people so I don't know if I should be in a relationship full stop.

    It's kind of a catch 22.


    As long as you aren't an asshole someone will forgive your lack of experience. Just don't use it as an excuse.
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    Nov 03, 2014 7:21 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem said
    DannyW saidI'm conflicted on this question.

    In some ways I really want someone to be with because I feel quite lonely sometimes and I want to experience being in a nice relationship.

    On the other hand I worry that now I'm a grown up adult I'm not going to be able to find someone who will forgive my inexperience and be patient with me. Plus I worry I don't seem to attract nicer people so I don't know if I should be in a relationship full stop.

    It's kind of a catch 22.


    As long as you aren't an asshole someone will forgive your lack of experience. Just don't use it as an excuse.


    Excuse for what?

    Unfortunately in my experience nice guys treat me like I'm made of glass and eventually just leave me and not so nice ones treat me like crap and try to pressure/guilt trip me into doing stuff.
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    Nov 03, 2014 5:11 PM GMT
    Anus_Destroyer saidthanks ladies


    Nice.
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    Nov 03, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    Have a dog and a fuck-buddy. Problem solved.

    I'm single because I have to be alone for long periods. However I can and I prefer being alone next to somebody whom I can cuddle and snuggle up when I want to but lone wolves like me are just singles keeping things simple.
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    Nov 06, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    DannyW saidI'm conflicted on this question.

    In some ways I really want someone to be with because I feel quite lonely sometimes and I want to experience being in a nice relationship.

    On the other hand I worry that now I'm a grown up adult I'm not going to be able to find someone who will forgive my inexperience and be patient with me. Plus I worry I don't seem to attract nicer people so I don't know if I should be in a relationship full stop.

    It's kind of a catch 22.


    This is pretty much how I feel overall. Not only that, because I've been alone for a long time, I wouldn't know what to do if I end up in a relationship. I doubt anyone would forgive my inexperience at my age, either.
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    Nov 06, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    well better be alone with bad people around you I say, I´m lucky thou have great friends older than a decade so I´m never alone, we are more into each others than our relationships xD , as for BF I have one now, love every minute with him but if I didnt I would not enter the hook up scene, tried it and it´s not for me nor how I see sex for myself nor fufill the loneliness I may have at that time, so yeah for sex sucks xD not the end of the world thou
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    Nov 07, 2014 12:01 AM GMT
    Enjoy being alone is a good thing.
    -relationships are distracting and a lot of work. Relationships are not the type of thing to go half way on. Companionship? Get a dog, totally more reliable.
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    Nov 07, 2014 6:30 AM GMT
    I would be lying if I said I wasn't ready to date. But so far, I haven't seen a man long enough to keep me interested. I refuse to settle just for the sake of being coupled up. Yeah, its nice to have someone by your side, but for me it's more important to have someone for the long run. So if I have to wait a little longer, so be it....icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 07, 2014 6:54 AM GMT
    Yes and Yes. I like my freedom and being single but sometimes I just want to find a man to settle down. I've been out of a ltr over 3 yrs now. I went on good and bad dates, I guess I haven't find the right guy yet. So no need to settle for someone I'm not into.
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    Nov 08, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    This is a problem a lot of guys have, wanting their independence but wanting a BF also. Somewhat competing notions... Even though the stereotype of men is for them to not want relationships and to be "tied down" I believe a lot of them do. There's other fears hiding behind what that notion. Maybe that's me though, I'm a bit traditional when it comes to dating.

    I used to enjoy being single until I got my first BF. Then I realized I'd been missing out... I like being independent and doing my own things on weekends but after my first breakup I hate being single with a passion, for LTR minded guys having a relationship pulled out from under you makes you understand how important it is to you and finding like minded guys. Especially since gay dating in NYC can sometimes be frustrating (so many guys here looking for the perfect guy who doesn't exist or they just want hookups)

    Being alone is even worse in a big city since the fact that your lonely around thousands of other people just compounds it. I can hold my own and spend a weekend "with" myself but it would be nice to share those experiences with someone else.
  • glez91

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    Nov 09, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    That's me for sure!
  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 09, 2014 1:03 AM GMT
    I think we all would love to have a caring boyfriend lol
    But yeah, I do get lonely sometimes not having anyone but then I remember not to dwell on it and find something to preoccupy my time with.

  • Apparition

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    Nov 09, 2014 4:13 AM GMT
    I like sex too mUch to be single, its too much work.
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    Nov 09, 2014 4:53 AM GMT
    ^^ Um news flash, you don't have to be in a relationship to get sex.
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    Nov 10, 2014 11:35 PM GMT
    Apparition saidI like sex too mUch to be single, its too much work.


    go to a sex club bro !! icon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gif