What do you REALLY want/hope for in 2015?


  • Nov 03, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
    I know I might be getting a little head of myself, but I'm always curious as to what other people are hoping for or want in the new year.

    If there were 3 things you could get/achieve/become in the next year, what would they be?

    One of my top priorities is to become more assertive with my family. While we typically get along and enjoy each other's company, we are very much a Midwestern family that leaves much unspoken. I've found that my own silence results in anger, resentment, and stress. I really want to approach them with love and learn to be okay with "conflict" instead of avoiding it. I think it could result in some initial pain and distance, but hope it will lead to healing and a greater sense of togetherness in our family.

    A second priority is to become more playful in my life. I'm a definite type A and prone to being a little too serious. I value my ability to get things done, but I want to become more free-spirited and let my hair down more often, whatever that looks like. To be more playful in the everyday.

    Third, I want to be more intentional about investing in my friendships. This year, I've allowed my business to dominate my life. It's rare that I meet up with friends for coffee or to even send a simple text, letting them know that I'm thinking of them. People are so important to me and I want to make those friendships a top priority.

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  • dbart93

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    Nov 03, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    The three things I want to get/achieve/become:

    1 - I want to be more fitness/health focused, I want the body I know I can get. I want the motivation to keep me on this path as I find too many distractions.

    2 - I want someone special in my life and to be more generally approachable. By getting more confidence I think I can achieve this.

    3 - the final thing involves education and work. I would like to finish my degree and get a good result. I'd also like to have more success in my career.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 03, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    My philosophy in life is 'Careful what you wish for, you might get it.'

    Three things.... Hmm.

    1. I would like a wee bit less uncertainty in 2015. since 2012 there has been too much of that.

    2. nothing.

    3. nothing.

    Seriously I'm rather content with my life as it is for the most part.

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    Nov 03, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    Gay marriage to be legal in all US states and territories.
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    Nov 04, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    a white man.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Nov 04, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    to live life for me

    to not worry about money

    to genuinely be ok with my body
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    Nov 04, 2014 1:07 AM GMT
    After taking a year off, I am going back to work. I hope I know what the HELL I am doing.

    My own house again. I put everything I own in storage and moved into a Friend's house. We have had a BLAST. And I owe Him moar than I can ever really re-pay. But it's time to start over again. I ain't dead yet....

    Another Dog. I have had more BoyFriends than I deserve. I like Dogs . Floppy eared jumping crazy wet nosed little goofs. I just LOVE them.
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    Nov 04, 2014 4:25 AM GMT
    Peace of mind.
    To find my passion.
    Wild success for my son.
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    Nov 04, 2014 6:01 AM GMT
    1. I hope to accept myself for who I am.

    2. I wanna make my parents smile more.

    3. Id like to find someone that makes me want to be a better person.
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    Nov 04, 2014 6:25 AM GMT
    Everything I want is right now to be honest, my mum is alive, I'm happy with my body and I have a roof over my head.

    If I hope for anything next year its that the rug wont be pulled out from underneath and the sky comes falling down
  • metta

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    Nov 04, 2014 6:30 AM GMT
    1. My number 1 priority right now is making sure my mom is being taken care of properly.

    2. I will hopefully completely finish remodeling her home.

    3. My upgraded web site better be done...esh...

    So basically...its all about work and responsibilities for now.
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    Nov 04, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    1.) Take a step back and to stop trying to do so/too much.

    2.) Find a job/internship in my field of interest.

    3.) At the very least find my status quo by keeping school, work, and life at an even balance.

  • Nov 04, 2014 4:06 PM GMT
    LoneStar_Ro said1.) Take a step back and to stop trying to do so/too much.

    2.) Find a job/internship in my field of interest.

    3.) At the very least find my status quo by keeping school, work, and life at an even balance.


    I totally hear you on that first one! I often forget that we are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS. Getting caught up in the doing doing doing keeps me from just enjoying this thing called life.

  • Nov 04, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    ZakSayWhat saidto live life for me

    to not worry about money

    to genuinely be ok with my body


    You're definitely not alone when it comes to money worries. That's one area of my life I've been tackling this year. Going from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance. It's definitely not easy and I find myself going back and forth from "there is plenty" to being fearful.

    Not sure if you've read anything around money worries, but I read this book "Mind Over Money" - http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006OQHTYO/ref=oh_aui_d_detailpage_o06_?ie=UTF8&psc=1 this year and it really helped me. I was skeptical at first, but it really got me out of such a scarcity way of thinking. I liked it because it's a 30 day journey where you spend 5-10 minutes each day and journal a little. I highly recommend it! Be well!

  • Nov 04, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    metta8 said1. My number 1 priority right now is making sure my mom is being taken care of properly.

    2. I will hopefully completely finish remodeling her home.

    3. My upgraded web site better be done...esh...

    So basically...its all about work and responsibilities for now.


    Your mother is lucky to have you as her son!!

  • Nov 04, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    pazzy saidman.... i'm living for the now because the future ain't promised tomorrow, man.. thinking about the future gets you anxious. thinking about the past gets you depressed. living in the present makes you happy. hell.. whatever happens happens though. don't care about 2015. just going to go about getting the things i need done or was working on throughout the year but wasn't able to get done or any new things that arise. don't want to elaborate on that either. tired of expecting shit and getting disappointed. it's best to just go along with the flow of things.

    people tell me to think about the future and to set goals or to look forward to what's coming. real talk, not even going to lie.. @ the top of the year and throughout, i was so depressed that i didn't think that i would make it through the year.. thought that i would either kill somebody, kill myself, or both. icon_neutral.gif the light was not at the end of the tunnel. so i'm just happy to be alive right now.


    I hear ya! I am guilty, many times, of looking to the future instead of fully enjoying the present moment. I heard this quote the other day that "the future is an imagination". It's not real until it becomes the present.

    Well, I'm glad you are alive and here on this forum. May you find plenty of joy and in this day and know you're not alone in this life. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 04, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
    Just voted the OP MOTD and I hope he wins before 2015.

    Great contributions to the forums, ThoughtfulGuy. Keep it up!
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 04, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    I'm waiting for the pageant answer world peace, and reading many that are all I I I,
    The problem is many men can't look outside their own bubble. We all have issues with family work relationships, but I was hoping to hear more about what men are choosing/ willing to do for their fellow manicon_idea.gif
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    Nov 04, 2014 4:51 PM GMT
    1. Be a good example and training coach for the white belts and newer recruits in the dojo

    2.continue being a kickass detective

    3. Road trip

  • Nov 04, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidI'm waiting for the pageant answer world peace, and reading many that are all I I I,
    The problem is many men can't look outside their own bubble. We all have issues with family work relationships, but I was hoping to hear more about what men are choosing/ willing to do for their fellow manicon_idea.gif


    Good point, Mike. That could be a whole thread of its own: How do you serve your fellow man?

    Truthfully, volunteering in my community is lacking in my own life. I just recently e-mailed a food pantry to start volunteering there. It's sad we live in a country where so many have food insecurity. I would like to help be part of that solution.

    That being said, I just had to post this. : D

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  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 04, 2014 4:59 PM GMT
    Thoughtful,
    I donate as much of my time as possible, and a portion of my income. My guy does the same if not more. It is one of the many reasons I love him.

    There is a thread on this. I also liked you Miss Congeneality plugicon_lol.gif
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 04, 2014 5:03 PM GMT
    1. Expand my wellness business
    2. Develop a small, solid, reliable social circle in the city I now call home
    3. Maybe find a guy who values me as a human being to eventually settle down with
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    Nov 04, 2014 6:26 PM GMT
    The job that I'm interviewing for in December
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    Nov 04, 2014 8:44 PM GMT
    some good dick

  • Nov 04, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem said1. Expand my wellness business
    2. Develop a small, solid, reliable social circle in the city I now call home
    3. Maybe find a guy who values me as a human being to eventually settle down with


    Lovin' these!

    What is your wellness business?