Harassment

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    Nov 05, 2014 6:28 PM GMT
    In the workplace and out in public I have been sexually harassed by men and women both physically and verbally. Putting up with the teasing, joking is one matter. Although unpleasant to deal with it is not necessarily an option sometimes when we need to work at our jobs to earn a living. Physical abuse when someone is groping you is really not appreciated. I have felt violated by people.

    Some people might say to take it as a compliment. I do not feel that way. I understand that some people have inherent problems as well, are sex addicts, or do not know any better than to treat people that way. People having a sense of power, superiority or entitlement over other people is another issue. Companies have workplace harassment policies. People all need to become better educated and aware about these matters and learn to respect people better.

    Feel free to share your comments and experiences so that we may promote understanding and awareness.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 05, 2014 7:31 PM GMT
    Its one of the side effects of our 'friend' based society.

    Once we started knocking down the wall between acquaintance and friend, putting everyone on first name basis we removed other social restrains as well.

    Another aspect is that we push sex and sexuality all the time. There is a bit of subliminal messaging taking place everywhere that does indeed push 'sex' on us:
    https://www.google.com/search?q=subliminal+messages+advertising&biw=1482&bih=814&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=j3laVPPjJ4XqoASGuYDADA&ved=0CB0QsAQ

    Coupled with instant gratification, and the 'dehumanizing' of individuals in our larger communities because we have decided to all live in population centers that exceed 1000 faces thus creating our monkey-spheres ([url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number[/url]) where everyone outside of our immediate sphere is not really human, just meat, just an 'object' which allows us the comfort of objectifying them, we have the perfect storm of circumstances that opens the door for mistreatment of others - as in harassment.

    Other factors are at play, such as the societal push to make everyone an extrovert, such as society pushing us to be beautiful...

    Of course knowing all of that doesn't stop the problem. Nor will it give you the means to actually prevent it from happening.

    But perhaps by knowing the processes pushing people into these behaviors you can change how you feel about it when it happens to you.
  • Kovyn

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    Nov 05, 2014 10:26 PM GMT
    Solution: man up and stop being a bitch.
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    Nov 05, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    I really don't consider the video to be harassment. They were just comments. Stupid ones maybe. But overall harmless.

    Any one who lives in a big city will experience this crap. Usually if one is wearing a tight open tshirt and package hugging jeans.

    A good suit and a "Don't fuck with Me " look in one's eye reduces the incidents TREMENDOUSLY.

    Most Guys learn to tune it out by the time they are about 14 anyway.