Where do gay guys meet

  • Aidenz

    Posts: 46

    Nov 06, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    Other than at bars and websites (and maybe even bathouses) where do gay people find each other. Even as a social thing. I'm not totally out so few people know and I'm in no business of flaunting or acting queer to get attention. Still it might be nice to have some peers I can talk to in a non sexual way. I've considered LGBT stuff but not really comfortable to be labeled that way, plus I have a bunch of Christian friends and family members who might find it odd that I'm suddenly hanging with a bunch of gay people.

  • Nov 06, 2014 5:00 PM GMT
    Aidenz saidOther than at bars and websites (and maybe even bathouses) where do gay people find each other. Even as a social thing. I'm not totally out so few people know and I'm in no business of flaunting or acting queer to get attention. Still it might be nice to have some peers I can talk to in a non sexual way. I've considered LGBT stuff but not really comfortable to be labeled that way, plus I have a bunch of Christian friends and family members who might find it odd that I'm suddenly hanging with a bunch of gay people.


    Great questions, Aidenz!

    Three places I know gay men tend to meet outside of bars/website: through volunteer organizations, faith/spiritual communities, and athletic/intramural, if you're into sports.

    A friend of mine attends events at Project Service LA and he speak VERY HIGHLY of them: http://projectservicela.org/.

    Also, take a look at Meetup.com for LGBT groups. There tend to be more groups and events in urban cities. I hope these give you some places to start!
  • 5100s

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    Nov 07, 2014 3:43 PM GMT
    Well, it's more difficult now that I'm 59, but when I was younger I met guys all over the place: at the gym many times, at department and grocery stores, on trains, in parks (and I wasn't there looking for sex!), in restaurants, and other places as well. If you keep your eyes open and use a little strategy it will happen.
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    Nov 08, 2014 4:22 PM GMT
    Apps is pretty much it
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 08, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    Well some gyms and fitness clubs certainly, but you can find gay guys in bookstores of various kinds, some trendy restaurants (but usually have to hear about it) or certain stores. We have a standing joke about Home Depot or Lowe's on a Sunday and who you'd see.