BOTTOMING 101 - DOS AND DONT'S

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    Nov 08, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    So I'm bottoming for a guy tomorrow. I've bottomed 3 times before (8 months ago). It didn't feel as good as I thought it would (based on porn-unrealistic I know). I think it's because I wasn't relaxed. It kind of hurt. I do want to impress this guy. I have a dildo and some butt plugs. What do you recommend? How can I blow his mind? Should I use a dildo/butt plug hours before meeting him to loosen up? or.....

    I told him that I don't bottom often and he told me that he was an expert and I shouldn't worry about it. I use water based lube. I love to top, but I really want to get better at bottoming. I’m planning on doing some last minute “cramming” icon_smile.gif. Any tips/suggestions/don'ts/dos.
  • vhotti26

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    Nov 08, 2014 7:10 PM GMT
    Dos:
    • relax
    • take deep breaths, close your eyes if necessary
    • be clean and confident about it
    • try poppers
    • have him first penetrate you in missionary, it's the easiest way
    • finger and rim before the deed. No need to stretch with plugs or dildos - if you are unexperienced that will only wear out your hole and make the actual sex even more unfomcortable

    Donts:
    • crap up
    • go too fast
    • expect too much
    • try to re-enact porn

    Bottoming hurts the first couple times. To really overcome this you need to do it rather regularly for some time.
    After you have done it a few times the uncomfortable feeling will be gone quicker and quicker. It's just as with everything else, practice practice practice.

    If the top knows what he does, there is absolutely no issue in even getting pretty rough and into power fucking after some time of slower play even if it's your first time bottoming.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 09, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    Toni101 saidSo I'm bottoming for a guy tomorrow. I've bottomed 3 times before (8 months ago). It didn't feel as good as I thought it would (based on porn-unrealistic I know). I think it's because I wasn't relaxed. It kind of hurt. I do want to impress this guy. I have a dildo and some butt plugs. What do you recommend? How can I blow his mind? Should I use a dildo/butt plug hours before meeting him to loosen up? or.....

    I told him that I don't bottom often and he told me that he was an expert and I shouldn't worry about it. I use water based lube. I love to top, but I really want to get better at bottoming. I’m planning on doing some last minute “cramming” icon_smile.gif. Any tips/suggestions/don'ts/dos.


    First off, you have to get your ass plowed on a regular basis for a period of time like oh 1 to 2 weeks daily, initial times it will hurt, or be discomforting. But like pretty much any other thing, your arse will adapt to the new strange experience as long as it happens regularly. As soon as you go a month or more without it happening your arse will re-adapt back. Assuming that is that you haven't graduated to fists, King Dong Didoes, small animals and traffic cones.

    Secondly chances are high there will always be discomfort, not all guys like having stuff up their bum. Not all prostates like to be 'massaged', or hammered upon.

    Seems to me you know the basics of anal, just that you don't seem to understand that your ass is not really designed for fucking, it is designed for expelling shit and needs time to adapt to this new alien invading thing you are planning on doing.


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    Nov 09, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    Dos:
    • relax
    • take deep breaths, close your eyes if necessary
    • be clean and confident about it
    • try poppers
    have him first penetrate you in missionary, it's the easiest way
    • finger and rim before the deed. No need to stretch with plugs or dildos - if you are unexperienced that will only wear out your hole and make the actual sex even more unfomcortable

    Donts:
    • crap up
    • go too fast
    • expect too much
    • try to re-enact porn

    Thanks so much! This is why I knew had to post. Most importantly, I do have to remember not to expect too much. I feel like I'm waiting for the moment that my eyes will roll into the back of my head and I have the most intense orgasm ever.
    As for the missionary position, I guess I can try that first. I read an author that recommended sitting on it first so that I can have more control.
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    Nov 09, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    Bowyn_Aerrow said

    First off, you have to get your ass plowed on a regular basis for a period of time like oh 1 to 2 weeks daily, initial times it will hurt, or be discomforting. But like pretty much any other thing, your arse will adapt to the new strange experience as long as it happens regularly. As soon as you go a month or more without it happening your arse will re-adapt back. Assuming that is that you haven't graduated to fists, King Dong Didoes, small animals and traffic cones




    I didn't realize that my ass would need constant maintenance lol. I thought I would get fucked a couple of times and then I wouldn't really have to worry about the pain as much. Nevertheless, I guess it's a long process. As for the traffic cones - not now, not ever lol
    Thanks man!
  • tango02

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    Nov 10, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but it's always a good idea to have an enema first.
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    Nov 11, 2014 8:04 AM GMT
    Make sure you clean yourself out. If you can just don't eat leading up to sex. Id say like 6hrs to be safe. For me since im cutting (dieting) I'll either eat almost all my food for the day early and then maybe have something small to finish after sex. Or I wont eat all day long and be perfectly clean without having to use enemas then i pretty much can gorge on food after sex. It's so embarrassing when he pulls out of you and he has shit dick.