Utter Rudeness

  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2014 2:15 AM GMT
    There was mail in my box today from a guy who lives in my area, but who I’ve had absolutely no contact with. The Subject line was, “you seem like kind of a dick”. The body of the mail was empty. No further explanation, no clue as to where this came from.

    A couple days ago, another guy – who I’ve also had no contact with – left a comment on one of my photos. Rather than commenting on the image itself (which was a close-up of the silver medal I won at the Gay Games), it was a warning on the dangers of overexposure to the sun.

    I can only imagine neither of these people would be rude enough – or brave enough – to say these things to me out of the blue in real life. They feel entitled to do so because it’s the Internet, and they’ve been fooled into believing their opinion actually matters, and they can say whatever they want with no serious repercussions.

    The first guy – who said I “seem like kind of a dick” – was obviously trying to make me feel bad. Who would do something like that to someone he’s had no personal experience with, unless he was a complete dick himself? I hope he’s not too disappointed, but the only reaction I had was to think he “seems like kind of a loser”, which I told him in my reply, and thanked him for self-identifying because it saves me from wasting any time on him.

    I wrote back to the second guy thanking him for the warning, which only yielded another paragraph from him on sun damage (he hadn’t picked up on the sarcasm). He seemed well-intentioned enough but seriously, I'd never write him out of the blue to tell him he’d look a lot better if he lost that layer of fat (I’m sure he doesn’t consider himself fat, but then again I don’t consider myself wrinkled). So, I let it go and made a note not to waste any more time on him.

    I think what disturbs me most is that in both cases these guys apparently consider themselves to be the “good guy” in the situation, but in fact their behavior was utterly rude, at a level which simply did not exist before the Internet made it so easy. It seems like people lose all semblance of civil behavior the minute they sit down at the keyboard.

    In the words of David Byrne, “Well… how did I get here?”
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    Nov 09, 2014 2:26 AM GMT
    Trying to figure out why you care what bitter losers think
    Not succeeding
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    Nov 09, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    That Talking Heads reference was awesome.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2014 2:45 AM GMT
    Ha! Considering your screen name, I guess it's no surprise you liked it...
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    Nov 09, 2014 2:50 AM GMT
    Yep, it's rude. I once received an email from someone who posts quite a bit on here telling me to "please avoid looking at his profile in the future," having never exchanged a word with him (including on the message boards). I thought, wow, he must have a loose screw or two.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 09, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    Very rude for sure.. but it is about resentment and jealousy I'd expect, nothing more. I've had a few like that, but mostly friendly people, which I appreciate very much. Lets hope you return to a friendlier sort!

    P.S. Congrats on the awesome achievement in the gay games!

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  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2014 3:14 AM GMT
    Thanks, it was a great experience and I would definitely do it again!
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    Nov 09, 2014 3:19 AM GMT
    I got a msg on here from someone and it pretty much said


    CUNT CUNT CUNT CUNT CUNT CUNT etc etc

    I was like wow!!!!
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    I certainly do disregard them, although I'll admit getting two of these drive-bys in the space of a couple days was more than a little annoying...

    What bothers me is not what they said but the fact that such people (and there are a shitload of them) can feel so entitled to say things they'd never have the balls to, face-to-face.
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    Nov 09, 2014 4:31 AM GMT
    It's a forum. this is bound to happen. I'm not sure if you've encountered this kind of thing anywhere else in the Internet, but it's really nothing new.

    all you can do is ignore it and move on. it's just a few bad apples in a large container...there's a lot more good guys around here than there are rude ones.
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 09, 2014 4:48 AM GMT
    I've had similar reaction to some things someone said in the forums. I try to answer a question to the best of my ability and instead of someone disagreeing or offering a counter opinion, I'm attacked personally for something completely unrelated. But I've learned from it. I guess we all find unintentional ways to insulate ourselves from unpleasant people who have strange issues, and for the most part do, but in an open forum, they appear. I've learned to at least remember that these people are out there and and that to them, their crazy is sane.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2014 4:52 AM GMT
    Uh, dudes?

    This was not in a forum.

    One was a private mail.

    The other was a comment on my photo.

    And neither seems to have been precipitated by anything I said or did.
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 09, 2014 4:58 AM GMT
    Same crazy.
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    Nov 09, 2014 5:02 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidUh, dudes?
    This was not in a forum.
    One was a private mail.
    The other was a comment on my photo.
    And neither seems to have been precipitated by anything I said or did.


    Sorry, I was referring to this entire website as a forum. whether it be in a private email, a photo comment, or a comment in a thread. I assumed it to be all the same.

    Other forums I've been on have all the basic same features (chat, IM, comments, etc.), I just consider them all part of the "forum" as a whole.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 09, 2014 5:03 AM GMT
    lot of crazies in the world ... the worst ones are those that think the world revolves around them
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    Nov 09, 2014 5:09 AM GMT
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    Nov 09, 2014 7:08 AM GMT
    Hm I feel you. I got a couple of weird emails and attack awhile back too. Lol, I wasn't sure what I did to them. But you know what, ignore them and move on, don't stoop to that level. It's the internet after all. And there are weirdos in the world.
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    Nov 09, 2014 7:40 AM GMT
    I was wondering if you meant to put inbox* instead of box lol....thats fucking weird!! especially where u live
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 09, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    willular said
    bro4bro saidUh, dudes?
    This was not in a forum.
    One was a private mail.
    The other was a comment on my photo.
    And neither seems to have been precipitated by anything I said or did.


    Sorry, I was referring to this entire website as a forum. whether it be in a private email, a photo comment, or a comment in a thread. I assumed it to be all the same.

    Other forums I've been on have all the basic same features (chat, IM, comments, etc.), I just consider them all part of the "forum" as a whole.

    Your utter rudeness is not forgiven!icon_evil.gif
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    Nov 09, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    willular said
    bro4bro saidUh, dudes?
    This was not in a forum.
    One was a private mail.
    The other was a comment on my photo.
    And neither seems to have been precipitated by anything I said or did.


    Sorry, I was referring to this entire website as a forum. whether it be in a private email, a photo comment, or a comment in a thread. I assumed it to be all the same.

    Other forums I've been on have all the basic same features (chat, IM, comments, etc.), I just consider them all part of the "forum" as a whole.

    Your utter rudeness is not forgiven!icon_evil.gif


    icon_sad.gif but....but.... icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 09, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
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    Nov 10, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    Congratulations on getting the medal. It's a great accomplishment! Yes the emails were rude, but you have to consider the sources. The writers probably have low self-esteem and try to build themselves up by putting down those they see as more successful. So take it as a compliment.
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    Nov 10, 2014 3:34 AM GMT
    Dude, they're just jealous because they're not a hot young bro like you.
  • Bowyn_Aerrow

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    Nov 10, 2014 4:11 AM GMT
    There is a psychology to it all. something to do with monkeyspheres (just look up the term monkeysphere).

    Rudeness and hostility is typical of the human species... I hold up exhibit A - Human History.

  • bro4bro

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    Nov 10, 2014 4:52 AM GMT
    Hmm, an interesting theory. Apparently these people feel no obligation to regard me as a human being worthy of basic consideration and respect because I exist outside their "monkeysphere".

    Coincidentally, I've been convinced for some time now that I'm living on the Planet of the Apes, and most of the "people" I meet are actually apes in fairly unconvincing disguises...