Dated women & realized you were gay!!!!


  • Jan 17, 2009 4:41 AM GMT
    Say it ain't so!

    Just wondering who else up on here has dated the females before you realized you preferred your own sex icon_razz.gif

    I am curious about peoples experiences before they, you know, woke up!

    talk to me!!!!
  • MattyC0709

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    Jan 17, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    Lol, no dates with women here... I only once kissed a girl while I was pissed drunk.

    I've been scared of women ever since... I dunno if it was because she was a very bad kisser, or because she was fat. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 17, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    Well back in 1984 when I graduated High School it was not acceptable to be gay. If you were gay you had AIDS. Different times cause many to do different things. Like myself.

    I joined the USAF and well back then Don't Ask, Don't Tell was event a thought. If you were thought to be gay a witch hunt started and you were tossed out. So many of us lead a straight life. Dated women, even married one like myself. I hated sex back then but did what I did because everyone expected it. It was only many years later in 99' that I felt safe enough to be myself and came out of the closet and got a divorce. I had left the military a couple years prior with 14 years of service at the rank of Major.

    So when you pose this questions, remember many of us older gentleman did not really have much choice. Come out and be thought of as a disease carry faggot, or wait many years till it was safe and continue to play it straight.

    I am not ashamed of what I did, I did what I had to do to survive life.
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    Jan 17, 2009 2:03 PM GMT
    I've known I was interested in guys since I was about 12 or 13 and never really struggled with that. And I never really did that "bi now, gay later" thing.

    But having said that, I have dated two girls, one for over a year. I guess it's hard to say why if I don't identify as bi, but we just really clicked (and she was definitely very hot).
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    Jan 17, 2009 2:09 PM GMT
    The only time that nearly happened was when I got close to this girl in freshman high school which led to teasing and finally mutual ignoring, thank jeebus. icon_razz.gif

    There have been a lot of times I've been tempted to just try, to see if I really was gay, especially during the denial period. Several girls who would make any straight guy happy as heck to have as a gf and I could definitely feel their interest... but no, I could never bring myself to do it. I let those relationships drift away and discouraged any sort of romantic notions they might have gotten even though I never even really fully accepted that I was gay yet.
  • rnch

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    Jan 17, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    i dated gals for a (too) long time; always suspected i was working way too hard at enjoying myself. all my str8 friends seemed to be enjoying themselves effortlessly and more intensely than i was on str8 dates.

    i kept telling myself that when i found the right gal i would experience the happiness and contentment my other friends were having.

    a wild, drunken 3 way with my best (more or less) str8 friend and his wife showed me WHY i was not enjoying str8 dating!

    i woke up, naked and hard, wrapped up in his arms and legs later on that morning and thought "OHHHHH....this explains everything." icon_biggrin.gif

  • Jan 17, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    muttskins saidLol, no dates with women here... I only once kissed a girl while I was pissed drunk.

    I've been scared of women ever since... I dunno if it was because she was a very bad kisser, or because she was fat. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I somehow end up kissing girlfriends because they take advantage of me as soon as they see me drunk...it's whatever...they know they can't have me

    ...just a little piece of heaven for a couple seconds I guess icon_razz.gif

  • Jan 17, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    Cowboiway saidWell back in 1984 when I graduated High School it was not acceptable to be gay. If you were gay you had AIDS. Different times cause many to do different things. Like myself.

    I joined the USAF and well back then Don't Ask, Don't Tell was event a thought. If you were thought to be gay a witch hunt started and you were tossed out. So many of us lead a straight life. Dated women, even married one like myself. I hated sex back then but did what I did because everyone expected it. It was only many years later in 99' that I felt safe enough to be myself and came out of the closet and got a divorce. I had left the military a couple years prior with 14 years of service at the rank of Major.

    So when you pose this questions, remember many of us older gentleman did not really have much choice. Come out and be thought of as a disease carry faggot, or wait many years till it was safe and continue to play it straight.

    I am not ashamed of what I did, I did what I had to do to survive life.


    Yea, when I would have sex with girls, I would say to myself..."is this really what everyone talks about..."

    I WAS BORED

    then I went away to college and fell in love with a boy my age, it was great!

  • Jan 17, 2009 10:28 PM GMT

    i woke up, naked and hard, wrapped up in his arms and legs later on that morning and thought "OHHHHH....this explains everything." icon_biggrin.gif[/quote]

    I know what you mean man, same thing for me...and now its forever =)
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    Jan 17, 2009 10:31 PM GMT
    There is something about putting your dick in what looks like an Oscar Meyer bologna sandwich that sent me over the edge and packing.
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    Jan 17, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    been married...my goal in life was to please both man and woman.

  • Jan 17, 2009 11:22 PM GMT
    singleagain saidbeen married...my goal in life was to please both man and woman.


    was? so what does that mean now...
  • B71115

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    Jan 17, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
    Dated girls. Waste of time and money. Interestingly, only one of them asked if I was into guys. So much for gaydar. icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 17, 2009 11:37 PM GMT
    i was having sex with this one broad when it accidentally slipped into her ass. I liked it, and thats when i realized that i must be gay.
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    Jan 18, 2009 12:13 AM GMT
    that was me, you shit head!!!icon_surprised.gif
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    Jan 18, 2009 12:16 AM GMT
    hockeynick79 saidthat was me, you shit head!!!icon_surprised.gif


    oh man, that explains the penis! icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 18, 2009 12:21 AM GMT
    blinktwice4y said
    hockeynick79 saidthat was me, you shit head!!!icon_surprised.gif


    oh man, that explains the penis! icon_eek.gif


    All this time.. I didn't think you even noticed..
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    Jan 18, 2009 12:22 AM GMT
    Sorry But.......... I never had to do it with a female, to know I am a pure homosexual. Not one drop of bisexual blood, run though my veins.

    But getting to see as many vaginas as I do, via my work. I'm sure the moment I seen one, I would of known it's all very wrong.

    It's just the way God has made me.
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    Jan 18, 2009 12:23 AM GMT
    hockeynick79 said
    blinktwice4y said
    hockeynick79 saidthat was me, you shit head!!!icon_surprised.gif


    oh man, that explains the penis! icon_eek.gif


    All this time.. I didn't think you even noticed..


    well, i thought you were just a chick with a teeny weenie.

  • Freddo

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    Jan 18, 2009 10:19 AM GMT
    rnch saidi dated gals for a (too) long time; always suspected i was working way too hard at enjoying myself. all my str8 friends seemed to be enjoying themselves effortlessly and more intensely than i was on str8 dates.

    i kept telling myself that when i found the right gal i would experience the happiness and contentment my other friends were having.

    a wild, drunken 3 way with my best (more or less) str8 friend and his wife showed me WHY i was not enjoying str8 dating!

    i woke up, naked and hard, wrapped up in his arms and legs later on that morning and thought "OHHHHH....this explains everything." icon_biggrin.gif


    Wow, this is kind of like my situation a few years back.

    I had two gfs in my life. One was in high school and only lasted 3 weeks. We weren't really into each other.

    My second one lasted for 9 months. To my luck, she wanted to stay a virgin until marriage. I am (kind of) catholic, and used that line to get me out of having to have sex with girls. I knew I couldnt "react" to them, and never admitted to myself until much later the real reason why. She was a nice girl, but I knew I didn't like her the way that I was supposed to in a relationship. I think she kind of suspected it after a while, and broke up with me. I was so relieved to be out of that relationship, as I could then find "the right girl". The "right girl" I later came to realize doesn't exist. I didn't understand (and still don't understand) what my straight buddies see attractive about their gfs. They are very nice girls, and they are good friends, but that's it. I have never felt any excitement about making out with girls, and got bored cuddling with my last ex. Luckily my last ex and I are still good friends.
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    Jan 20, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    I knew a guy that every girl he went out with turned out to be a lesbian. I'd tease him on how he was turning women gay. It's funny because not only was he gay but a couple of his ex's started dating.
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    Jan 20, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    My one of my cousins forced me to kiss a girl when I was 16. She was very willing to give it too but when that kiss happened, it was a horrible one. I was nervous, sweating and stuttered a lot. I was even made fun of because of it back in high school. Til one day, I met my first boyfriend at the age of 18. Kissed him with ease which pretty much sealed my homosexuality. icon_twisted.gif

    I do still admire the beauty of a female body. But that's as far as it goes, only admiration. No sexual attraction whatsoever.
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    Jan 20, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    Growing up I never had an interest in dating girls, but I failed to conclude that meant I was gay. Part of my denial mechanism was that I acted too masculine to be gay, at a time when the sissy stereotype was very prevalent and formed my own view of gay men. They were sissies, I was not, therefore I was not one of them.

    Already an Army officer, I had returned to college for degree work and finally made a deliberate decision to date for the very first time in my life, at 26. All my fellow officers were either married or involved with women, plus my parents were becoming desperate about my lack of interest in females. OK, so I'll play along and try this thing, I thought to myself, and college was a good place to meet women, whereas the Army was still a mostly male environment.

    I forced myself to do it, but I wasn't very good, and I failed to experience all the "fireworks" and excitement everyone talked about. Sex felt OK, but otherwise was a messy, smelly, yucky ordeal for me.

    It took years more before I finally accepted my own orientation. The key was encountering gay men in the civilian world who were masculine, and who assured me that many masculine men are gay, in every walk of like, including the military. Once that prop to my denial mechanism was removed, I came out almost instantaneously. And I've never once regretted it.
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    Jan 20, 2009 6:25 AM GMT
    I have dated girls, but it wasn't because I didn't know I was gay - I've always known. I simply did... because everyone else did it I guess icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 20, 2009 6:36 AM GMT
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