Hot guys how do you deal?

  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    I'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?
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    Nov 15, 2014 1:29 AM GMT
    You're kidding right...
    It's the shy cute ones that are obsessed--tare you apart in the bed room.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 2:06 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidYou're kidding right...
    It's the shy cute ones that are obsessed--tare you apart in the bed room.


    lol you proved my point. Maybe gay men really are sex obsessed with no hope.
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    Nov 15, 2014 2:11 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem said
    dustin_K_tx saidYou're kidding right...
    It's the shy cute ones that are obsessed--tare you apart in the bed room.


    lol you proved my point. Maybe gay men really are sex obsessed with no hope.


    I so can't relate to that. icon_confused.gif

    Either I have a lot of catching up to do, or I see things completely differently. Or both.
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    Nov 15, 2014 2:15 AM GMT
    it's not gay men... it's just men. they're programmed to spread the seed far and wide. not all of them take it to an art form but it's there in pretty much all of our brains. we're a higher form of animal but still just that. and it has to be ok because it's nature and therefore natural. it took me a while to really understand this too and to relax about it.

    as for attention, it's not that hard to cope with flatterers and you may really appreciate the compliments/attempts when you get older. the alternative of zero people hitting on you is probably worse, eh? :p

    i can understand it's quite annoying when you want more than just sex though--how do you trust what any given guy's true intentions are. ask basically any woman and she will nod knowingly; you're not alone icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 15, 2014 2:17 AM GMT
    JackBoneTX saidit's not gay men... it's just men. they're programmed to spread the seed far and wide.
    Then explain why I only dribble a few drops after "spreading my seed" 5 times in a day.
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    Nov 15, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThen explain why I only dribble a few drops after "spreading my seed" 5 times in a day.


    i think you answered that yourself, paul ! icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 15, 2014 2:42 AM GMT
    Most guys that claim to be hot aren't really as hot as they think. Some guys think too high of themselves.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 3:15 AM GMT
    kxd7 saidMost guys that claim to be hot aren't really as hot as they think. Some guys think too high of themselves.


    What does that have to do with this thread.
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    Nov 15, 2014 3:16 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem said
    kxd7 saidMost guys that claim to be hot aren't really as hot as they think. Some guys think too high of themselves.


    What does that have to do with this thread.



    Hot guys. Derp
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 3:16 AM GMT
    yetanotherphil said
    muscleboundfem said
    dustin_K_tx saidYou're kidding right...
    It's the shy cute ones that are obsessed--tare you apart in the bed room.


    lol you proved my point. Maybe gay men really are sex obsessed with no hope.


    I so can't relate to that. icon_confused.gif

    Either I have a lot of catching up to do, or I see things completely differently. Or both.


    Care to elaborate?
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 3:19 AM GMT
    JackBoneTX saidit's not gay men... it's just men. they're programmed to spread the seed far and wide. not all of them take it to an art form but it's there in pretty much all of our brains. we're a higher form of animal but still just that. and it has to be ok because it's nature and therefore natural. it took me a while to really understand this too and to relax about it.

    as for attention, it's not that hard to cope with flatterers and you may really appreciate the compliments/attempts when you get older. the alternative of zero people hitting on you is probably worse, eh? :p

    i can understand it's quite annoying when you want more than just sex though--how do you trust what any given guy's true intentions are. ask basically any woman and she will nod knowingly; you're not alone icon_smile.gif


    I'd rather no attention then having every gay man lie to me about his intentions as he disappears when he realizes no sex really means no sex.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    kxd7 said
    muscleboundfem said
    kxd7 saidMost guys that claim to be hot aren't really as hot as they think. Some guys think too high of themselves.


    What does that have to do with this thread.



    Hot guys. Derp


    So basically you are just throwing random shade
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    Nov 15, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    All men and Womwn want to be with a patter that stops trafiic and causes people in the room to drop what they are doorig and just stare.

    It,s fun.

    It's also a dime a dozen.

    The more beautiful you are perceived as, the more people will want to be in Your orbit.

    But Love is far stronger than any other emotion, visual,or bank account known to Man. Be who you are ...the right one will come along.

    They ALWAYS do.

    Just be ready!!!

    icon_biggrin.gificon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 4:27 AM GMT
    Cash said
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    All men and Womwn want to be with a patter that stops trafiic and causes people in the room to drop what they are doorig and just stare.

    It,s fun.

    It's also a dime a dozen.

    The more beautiful you are perceived as, the more people will want to be in Your orbit.

    But Love is far stronger than any other emotion, visual,or bank account known to Man. Be who you are ...the right one will come along.

    They ALWAYS do.

    Just be ready!!!

    icon_biggrin.gificon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks cash, I always appreciate your comments. I'm definitely doing me. I'm just starting to mistrust every gay man who speaks to me or hits me up online. Their motives almost always seem to be sex driven, sometimes money driven too. I really like being the naively sweethearted, caring guy. Gay men are driving that out of me with their blatant lies. I have nothing against sex. I'd like a few gay friends who don't require dick, head or ass as apart of friendship. For the time being I've given up on love.
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    Nov 15, 2014 6:26 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem said
    Cash said
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    All men and Womwn want to be with a patter that stops trafiic and causes people in the room to drop what they are doorig and just stare.

    It,s fun.

    It's also a dime a dozen.

    The more beautiful you are perceived as, the more people will want to be in Your orbit.

    But Love is far stronger than any other emotion, visual,or bank account known to Man. Be who you are ...the right one will come along.

    They ALWAYS do.

    Just be ready!!!

    icon_biggrin.gificon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks cash, I always appreciate your comments. I'm definitely doing me. I'm just starting to mistrust every gay man who speaks to me or hits me up online. Their motives almost always seem to be sex driven, sometimes money driven too. I really like being the naively sweethearted, caring guy. Gay men are driving that out of me with their blatant lies. I have nothing against sex. I'd like a few gay friends who don't require dick, head or ass as apart of friendship. For the time being I've given up on love.


    In the bold above. Eeep! Don't allow their lies to do that to you! Hang onto it as it's going to come in very handy when a right fit comes along!
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    muscleboundfem said
    Cash said
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    All men and Womwn want to be with a patter that stops trafiic and causes people in the room to drop what they are doorig and just stare.

    It,s fun.

    It's also a dime a dozen.

    The more beautiful you are perceived as, the more people will want to be in Your orbit.

    But Love is far stronger than any other emotion, visual,or bank account known to Man. Be who you are ...the right one will come along.

    They ALWAYS do.

    Just be ready!!!

    icon_biggrin.gificon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks cash, I always appreciate your comments. I'm definitely doing me. I'm just starting to mistrust every gay man who speaks to me or hits me up online. Their motives almost always seem to be sex driven, sometimes money driven too. I really like being the naively sweethearted, caring guy. Gay men are driving that out of me with their blatant lies. I have nothing against sex. I'd like a few gay friends who don't require dick, head or ass as apart of friendship. For the time being I've given up on love.


    In the bold above. Eeep! Don't allow their lies to do that to you! Hang onto it as it's going to come in very handy when a right fit comes along!


    Luckily its like riding a bike. It comes back like it never left. Right now any dude who is interested in me probably thinks I have taken a vow of chastity, lol. I just want to be able to trust the dudes I'm talking to.
  • aax_aax_aax

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    Nov 15, 2014 7:17 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    Why would you assume that if you're hot, people would be interested in you as a person?

    It would actually be very shallow to start to think that someone is interesting just because he's hot. In the same way as it's silly to assume that hot guys are stupid.

    It's good you lost weight because of you, physically and mentally. And, since you're talking about gay men here, I'm just curious is that reaction different from the straight guys or girls?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 15, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    I remember thinking how weird it was that men didn't care what my name was, they just wanted down my pants.
    Of course, I had just come out and was seeing what was up out there.

    The reality is, you need to focus on the important things in your life and not let perceptions of gay men jade or upset you. I am of the belief, you can find about anything out there, the absolute superficial bull, but very nice looking men (and many here) that are into far more than just sex. Don't assume all are alike, they aren't.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    Bonaparts said
    aax_aax_aax said
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    Why would you assume that if you're hot, people would be interested in you as a person?

    It would actually be very shallow to start to think that someone is interesting just because he's hot. In the same way as it's silly to assume that hot guys are stupid.

    It's good you lost weight because of you, physically and mentally. And, since you're talking about gay men here, I'm just curious is that reaction different from the straight guys or girls?


    since when it's shallow to be interested in good looking people ? That's the first thing everyone notices in most cases - outer appearance


    People like that believe in a fantasy world. When you first meet someone how they look is all you have to go on. Its not shallow but people who have an overly inflated opinion of their own virtues see it as shallow.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 15, 2014 8:51 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI remember thinking how weird it was that men didn't care what my name was, they just wanted down my pants.
    Of course, I had just come out and was seeing what was up out there.

    The reality is, you need to focus on the important things in your life and not let perceptions of gay men jade or upset you. I am of the belief, you can find about anything out there, the absolute superficial bull, but very nice looking men (and many here) that are into far more than just sex. Don't assume all are alike, they aren't.


    You are right all gay men are not like that. Honestly I'm not too but hurt by the lust when guys are honest. The lies and indignation about the lies is pathetic. I'm actually having less sex because I'm disgusted by the way gay men will lie to me just to get sex. The sad part is that some of these dudes can't tell the difference between a boyfriend and a regular jump off.p
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    Nov 15, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem said
    Bonaparts said
    aax_aax_aax said
    muscleboundfem saidI'm not calling myself hot. I'm not loosing weight to find love. I know many of you won't read or comprehend those two statements

    I naively assumed that was as I lost weight more gay men would be interested in me as a person. Im finding that more gay men are just coming onto in a sexual manner. Its making me very cynical in how I view gay men. How do you hot guys deal with this? Is their a tipping point for thirst or does it get worse? Do you hot guys see all gay men as sex obsessed?


    Why would you assume that if you're hot, people would be interested in you as a person?

    It would actually be very shallow to start to think that someone is interesting just because he's hot. In the same way as it's silly to assume that hot guys are stupid.

    It's good you lost weight because of you, physically and mentally. And, since you're talking about gay men here, I'm just curious is that reaction different from the straight guys or girls?


    since when it's shallow to be interested in good looking people ? That's the first thing everyone notices in most cases - outer appearance


    People like that believe in a fantasy world. When you first meet someone how they look is all you have to go on. Its not shallow but people who have an overly inflated opinion of their own virtues see it as shallow.


    'Being interested in you' and 'Being interested in you as a person' is not the same thing.
    Outer appearance is (a bit) more than just looks, and yes, that's the first impression you have of people. But if an 'ugly guy' starts to talk to you, would you notice that he's interesting as a person (in case he is of course) or you wouldn't even listen to him? That second case is what I meant as shallow..
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    Nov 15, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    Maybe if hot guys are so shallow you should try and pursue one of those less attractive hidden gems with a heart of gold?

    Lol jk! icon_razz.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 15, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    Tell hot guys that they're smart, and tell smart guys that they're hot. It's the oldest trick in the book, and it works.
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 15, 2014 9:27 PM GMT
    Ohno saidMaybe if hot guys are so shallow you should try and pursue one of those less attractive hidden gems with a heart of gold?

    Lol jk! icon_razz.gif

    I'm sorry, something got lost in translation.... Do guys with big hearts have big dicks or something?icon_neutral.gif