LEANDRO_NJ saidIsn't it funny as people get older some dismiss Love and replace it with lust!? OP don't worry about how others feel about relationships and love, be lucky you are still in that beautiful stage of your life, where you are not jaded or bitter! and yes surprisingly there are still many of us, at any age, that still value love over lust! but you know what? wait til you really fall in love some day, and realize that you can also lust someone that you really really love!!
Lust feels good when love lasts!
Not many dismiss love and replace it with lust. They probably never knew love to begin with. Why is is when people are younger, they devalue love and only look to satisfy their lust? Why the stupid agist comment?
Well aren't we nice!? the reason why younger people, as you put it "devalue love and only look to satisfy their lust" is because the older generation (who they look up to for guidance) for centuries have perceived them as their sex toy/ego booster; as such they have made a huge business out of young gay men's basic instincts, as is seeing in the media and places on the internet such as on this website.
If only the older gay generations start by giving young gay men a sense of self worth, and treat them as people equally capable of being matured, and just as intuned with the feelings of love ( not as sexual toys/ego booster)as the media portrays them, and even those of us who supposedly had matured as we get older? Lust is not exclusive to young people by the way! I know plenty of older gay men who have not out grown it! is there something wrong with lust? absolutely not! am I contradicting myself? I am talking about the kind of lust that by definition is simply having strong sexual desires towards someone, of which there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! although is worth mentioning that there is a huge difference between animalistic lust and human lust. Yeah yeah yeah, I know many would say we too are animals? perhaps, but we are rational, highly intelligent, emotional animals that knows the difference between good and bad decisions/actions, and not driven by instinct alone, but by a more complex set of emotions.
Having said all that, lust defined and driven by aesthetics alone is not what I am talking about here, nor in my humble opinion, a very healthy way for humans to use as a way to be sexually attracted or being sexually desired with one another!
In my case lust kicks in when I totally embrace and accept my sexual partner for who he is as WHOLE person, and not for what I feel he should be! but that takes time and lots and lots of compassion from both ends, then compassion turns into devotion, devotion turns into the enjoyment of physically enjoying being in the company of that person you ultimately learn and accept to love. My idea of lust goes beyond the physical beauty or age of my partner. I prefer lust to be triggered by the presence of some inner compassion for one another, and not as a match or the feeling of being an object and then be thrown into the fire.