İ feel weird when i date with a foreigner

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    Nov 18, 2014 9:56 AM GMT
    Hi, i live in very touristic places and i dated with some guys coming from Europe.

    Maybe this isnt a good place to describe it since you dont know local people here.

    The thing is, i cant really build a good conservation and communication even my english is good. We have some conservations but mostly cold and ends with sex. İ like to know the person before sex but it is like sex is more important than talk to them. And they dont stop, they always want sex... İ like to do other things than sex...

    No offence here, but i started to dislike this attitude of foreigners. The foreigners i met are Spanish, Russian, English, German, İtalian.
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    Nov 18, 2014 10:10 AM GMT
    What other things you wanna do with them? Have you suggested it to them? How do you meet them in the first place? Because if they were mostly hook-up doing things together might suggest some kinda intimate relationship. Is that what you're looking for? Just wondering because I see your profile and it says you're in monogamous relationship.
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    Nov 18, 2014 12:04 PM GMT
    These happened before my relationship. The thing is, even i am very horny and want hookup, i want to know the person who i am going to have sex. But mostly,foreigners skip this step and i am the one who keeps talking. Even if i want serious relationship, i cant really find some issue talk with him.
    To tell the difference between local and foreigners: turks here are more romantic and behave good, smile, ask about my life usually, then, sex comes as a result of conservation. But foreigners mostly want direct sex.
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    Nov 18, 2014 12:38 PM GMT
    If you dislike the attitude of foreigners, then why don't you just meet only local guys? In other words, meet other Turks and say no to foreigners who want to meet you.
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    Nov 18, 2014 12:41 PM GMT
    If the men you meet are there on holiday, they probably don't think there's much point in "getting to know you" because they'll only be there for a short time

    Like the guy above me said, if you want something meaningful, stick to local men
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    Nov 18, 2014 1:02 PM GMT
    Yes i quit meeting foreigners but i was wondeting why. İ think we are in Turkey over-social people, talking is a must to do something together.
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    Nov 18, 2014 1:36 PM GMT
    why the hell are you having sex with tourists?
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    Nov 18, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidwhy the hell are you having sex with tourists?

    i like some of them? are you fucking judging me?
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    Nov 18, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    I live in a really touristy town as well and I don't like germans because they're rude lol Id prefer if we could just have sex and not talk at all.
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    Nov 18, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidIf you dislike the attitude of foreigners, then why don't you just meet only local guys? In other words, meet other Turks and say no to foreigners who want to meet you.

    Erick, you always have the most sage advice.... What is it about RJ that you do not understand?icon_lol.gif

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    Nov 18, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    Well I'd make it a point to communicate to them in advance that you like to do other things thank just have sex. If you really feel this is an important consideration, than make it clear, you'd really enjoy getting to know them in advance so your date and time together might be a little more entertaining (and on the basis of your conversation in advance, you can plan some activities that might mean more to the date).

    If you spend time with them and they aren't interested in a second date with you, they weren't worth the sexual time in the first place.
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    Nov 18, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    koseku said
    tj85016 saidwhy the hell are you having sex with tourists?

    i like some of them? are you fucking judging me?


    Your grasp of English syntax improves when angered.
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    Nov 18, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWell I'd make it a point to communicate to them in advance that you like to do other things thank just have sex. If you really feel this is an important consideration, than make it clear, you'd really enjoy getting to know them in advance so your date and time together might be a little more entertaining (and on the basis of your conversation in advance, you can plan some activities that might mean more to the date).

    If you spend time with them and they aren't interested in a second date with you, they weren't worth the sexual time in the first place.


    Thanks, i think you are right, i need to test people before knowing their real aim. I don't like to have sex with a lot of people, i prefer to be with one person all life.
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    Nov 18, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
    You are weird and stupid.

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    Nov 18, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    __morphic__ saidYou are weird and stupid.

    /end
    ihate the turkey the president . i HATE HIM! HATE HIM HATE HIM.
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    Nov 18, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    you can call me anything you wish, i dont care.

    i also hate our president but why did you say it now lol
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    Nov 18, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
    koseku saidyou can call me anything you wish, i dont care.

    i also hate our president but why did you say it now lol
    i dont hate u, i hate the no good f!ck though. my blood boils when i see him. trust me turkey economy is about to collapse and those blood suckers as he likes to call us are betting against your economy. u think the usa had a real easte bubble they havnt seen nothing like turkeys bubble ! its coming and u can thank that president of yours.
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    Nov 18, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
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    koseku saidi like some of them? are you fucking judging me?


    Your grasp of English syntax improves when angered.


    rofl

    good luck to OP. just know you're not alone icon_smile.gif
  • nehpets987

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    Nov 18, 2014 9:13 PM GMT
    I'm with you 100%. Met one guy for just sex before when I was abroad and I felt really weird after it. And he wasn't really interested in talking first. For me that's a little uncomfortable.

    I know a lot of guys who might go abroad and hop on Grindr for sex. Maybe they're the guys you're meeting. If they are looking for sex at that time then that's why they aren't willing to really converse. So maybe make it clear that you don't just want to have sex before you meet them. It might mean less people want to meet but at least when yo do meet them then they'll be the ones you're looking for. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 18, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Erik101 saidIf you dislike the attitude of foreigners, then why don't you just meet only local guys? In other words, meet other Turks and say no to foreigners who want to meet you.

    Erick, you always have the most sage advice.... What is it about RJ that you do not understand?icon_lol.gif

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    Nov 18, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
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    koseku saidyou can call me anything you wish, i dont care.

    i also hate our president but why did you say it now lol
    i dont hate u, i hate the no good f!ck though. my blood boils when i see him. trust me turkey economy is about to collapse and those blood suckers as he likes to call us are betting against your economy. u think the usa had a real easte bubble they havnt seen nothing like turkeys bubble ! its coming and u can thank that president of yours.


    i dont give a fuck about politics anymore cuz i see retard people here who vote for him, and they deserve to live what they choose. im gonna leave this country soon and just visit like a third world country for its perfect nature for vacations with my bf and will make some homophobic guys as my slave icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 19, 2014 4:13 AM GMT
    koseku saidim gonna leave this country soon and just visit like a third world country for its perfect nature for vacations with my bf and will make some homophobic guys as my slave icon_twisted.gif


    i... might need pics of that.
  • tj85016

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    Nov 19, 2014 2:11 PM GMT
    koseku said
    tj85016 saidwhy the hell are you having sex with tourists?

    i like some of them? are you fucking judging me?


    pretty much, yes
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    Nov 19, 2014 3:04 PM GMT
    tj85016 said
    koseku said
    tj85016 saidwhy the hell are you having sex with tourists?

    i like some of them? are you fucking judging me?


    pretty much, yes


    Haha who the hell are you to judge me?

  • Nov 19, 2014 6:04 PM GMT
    Most foreigners are only there for a limited amount of time, so it should really come as no surprise that they'd be reluctant to invest emotionally in someone who they're likely never going to see again.