Is this an accurate representation of the gay community

  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 20, 2014 4:57 AM GMT
    I went to a sex club today and it was surreal. Everyone was standing around sizing everyone else up not engaging. If two dudes started having sex then others gathered around. A lot of guys would pass other guys only to become interested the second someone else started playing with him. This actually happened to me twice. Guys who would look away when I approached would come and touch me when another guy started playing with me. They expected me to leave the guy I was with to have private fun with them in a room. It felt like a weird version of high school with everyone posturing and playing games.

    It actually gave me some prospective. Why am I getting upset about a bunch of men who are using sex to feel valuable. I truly enjoyed the dudes I was with and enjoyed pleasuring them without getting off myself. I did for them sexually what I wanted done for me.
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    Nov 20, 2014 5:19 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidblah blah blah
    You need to move back to FLL.

    You're currently in an area that fucking hates you because they think of you as a "nigger faggot."

    Sorry to be so blunt, but I was raised a couple hundred miles from there, and know the mentality of the local rednecks.

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  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 20, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    muscleboundfem saidblah blah blah
    You need to move back to FLL.

    You're currently in an area that fucking hates you because they think of you as a "nigger faggot."

    Sorry to be so blunt, but I was raised a couple hundred miles from there, and know the mentality of the local rednecks.

    PM me if you need more support, but I've got ya back. icon_wink.gif


    Gee, that's really... Blatant... Heh...

    But OP, I don't really think it's like that all the time. And also... You went to a sex club so I'm pretty sure it's normal there. But okay, yeah, I guess it could be like that outside the club too. Where you are looking at a guy (or vice versa) who doesn't think much of but after awhile, the attraction develops.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Nov 22, 2014 5:17 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidI went to a sex club today and it was surreal. Everyone was standing around sizing everyone else up not engaging. If two dudes started having sex then others gathered around. A lot of guys would pass other guys only to become interested the second someone else started playing with him. This actually happened to me twice. Guys who would look away when I approached would come and touch me when another guy started playing with me. They expected me to leave the guy I was with to have private fun with them in a room. It felt like a weird version of high school with everyone posturing and playing games.

    It actually gave me some prospective. Why am I getting upset about a bunch of men who are using sex to feel valuable. I truly enjoyed the dudes I was with and enjoyed pleasuring them without getting off myself. I did for them sexually what I wanted done for me.




    You have described a universal phenomenon in the sex clubs these days. This has absolutely nothing to do with where you live or what your race is.

    First off, no one wants to be rejected, AND have other dudes see him take a "NO". So, everyone is standing around waiting for the other guys to make the first move.

    Second off, most dudes think that they could catch a better piece of meat on the daily market. Approaching a guy whom they may like but who may not be THE hottest dude by general standards may devalue your market position, so you are kinda very reluctant, and yeah, you are raising your bets...

    Third off, as soon as the two other guys connect, a sense of general panic among the others ensues. Those dudes ARE having fun, and I am wasting my time here, because no one wants me? Let's go and join the fun, so that no one thinks that I am not worth it...

    Advice: do not worry about the others. Get going, and have fun.

    SC
  • BlackDapper

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    Nov 22, 2014 3:37 PM GMT
    Yes it's accurate. Men are more sexual than our female counterparts so there's many functions in the gay community that caters to that. There's bathhouses, cruise spots, gay social apps, hook-up websites etc ...

    However, the gay community is very diverse. We're diverse in ethnicity, libido, and especially mentality, I even know of gay republicans (can you believe it?). Personally instead of going to a sex party, I prefer to have gay game night with my friends. The gay community is more than just the sex scene and hooking up but what you've stated is a pretty accurate ASPECT of that subculture within the gay community.

    Please be careful with sex parties, they can become addictive and you'll end up going even if you don't want too ... I've seen it.
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    Nov 22, 2014 4:49 PM GMT
    I went to a straight strip club. The girls were nimbly sliding down poles and spreading their legs. The guys had their minds switched off and cocks turned on. Is this an accurate representation of straight life?
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    Nov 22, 2014 5:18 PM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidI went to a sex club today and it was surreal. Everyone was standing around sizing everyone else up not engaging.

    If that was in Houston, I remember a silly stand & pose gay bar called the Ripcord. I wouldn't call that representative of the gay community. In large cities there can be many specialized bars & clubs, that target a narrow interest area.

    Go find a bar that's not stand & pose, without open sex. I favor mainly neighborhood places, to socialize with our friends, not to cruise.
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 22, 2014 5:24 PM GMT
    BlackDapper saidYes it's accurate. Men are more sexual than our female counterparts so there's many functions in the gay community that caters to that. There's bathhouses, cruise spots, gay social apps, hook-up websites etc ...

    However, the gay community is very diverse. We're diverse in ethnicity, libido, and especially mentality, I even know of gay republicans (can you believe it?). Personally instead of going to a sex party, I prefer to have gay game night with my friends. The gay community is more than just the sex scene and hooking up but what you've stated is a pretty accurate ASPECT of that subculture within the gay community.

    Please be careful with sex parties, they can become addictive and you'll end up going even if you don't want too ... I've seen it.

    I can't believe there are gay republicans!icon_neutral.gif

    +1 on this post though.
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 22, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    Longblack saidI went to a straight strip club. The girls were nimbly sliding down poles and spreading their legs. The guys had their minds switched off and cocks turned on. Is this an accurate representation of straight life?

    You forgot the cops being called because of a fight.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 24, 2014 3:33 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    muscleboundfem saidblah blah blah
    You need to move back to FLL.

    You're currently in an area that fucking hates you because they think of you as a "nigger faggot."

    Sorry to be so blunt, but I was raised a couple hundred miles from there, and know the mentality of the local rednecks.

    PM me if you need more support, but I've got ya back. icon_wink.gif


    While I don't see it as that bas I have experienced more racism here than I ever did in Florida. Houston is a southern city though.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 24, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud said
    muscleboundfem saidI went to a sex club today and it was surreal. Everyone was standing around sizing everyone else up not engaging. If two dudes started having sex then others gathered around. A lot of guys would pass other guys only to become interested the second someone else started playing with him. This actually happened to me twice. Guys who would look away when I approached would come and touch me when another guy started playing with me. They expected me to leave the guy I was with to have private fun with them in a room. It felt like a weird version of high school with everyone posturing and playing games.

    It actually gave me some prospective. Why am I getting upset about a bunch of men who are using sex to feel valuable. I truly enjoyed the dudes I was with and enjoyed pleasuring them without getting off myself. I did for them sexually what I wanted done for me.




    You have described a universal phenomenon in the sex clubs these days. This has absolutely nothing to do with where you live or what your race is.

    First off, no one wants to be rejected, AND have other dudes see him take a "NO". So, everyone is standing around waiting for the other guys to make the first move.

    Second off, most dudes think that they could catch a better piece of meat on the daily market. Approaching a guy whom they may like but who may not be THE hottest dude by general standards may devalue your market position, so you are kinda very reluctant, and yeah, you are raising your bets...

    Third off, as soon as the two other guys connect, a sense of general panic among the others ensues. Those dudes ARE having fun, and I am wasting my time here, because no one wants me? Let's go and join the fun, so that no one thinks that I am not worth it...

    Advice: do not worry about the others. Get going, and have fun.

    SC


    Thanks you have made very good points. It was just so surreal. Before I went in I thought it would kind of be a free for all. If you really need to be picky their are plenty of apps that let you narrow your search results to exactly what you want. I really wanted to study the behavior of guys there. It was so fascinating.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 24, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    muscleboundfem saidI went to a sex club today and it was surreal. Everyone was standing around sizing everyone else up not engaging.

    If that was in Houston, I remember a silly stand & pose gay bar called the Ripcord. I wouldn't call that representative of the gay community. In large cities there can be many specialized bars & clubs, that target a narrow interest area.

    Go find a bar that's not stand & pose, without open sex. I favor mainly neighborhood places, to socialize with our friends, not to cruise.


    I didn't go to a sex club to socialize lol
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 24, 2014 3:44 PM GMT
    Longblack saidI went to a straight strip club. The girls were nimbly sliding down poles and spreading their legs. The guys had their minds switched off and cocks turned on. Is this an accurate representation of straight life?


    If you talk you to some people it is an accurate representation of the way women are expected to behave in a male dominated society. I get what your saying though. I use to use retorts like that in high school as well. I was so fucking clever back then.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Nov 24, 2014 3:47 PM GMT
    BlackDapper saidYes it's accurate. Men are more sexual than our female counterparts so there's many functions in the gay community that caters to that. There's bathhouses, cruise spots, gay social apps, hook-up websites etc ...

    However, the gay community is very diverse. We're diverse in ethnicity, libido, and especially mentality, I even know of gay republicans (can you believe it?). Personally instead of going to a sex party, I prefer to have gay game night with my friends. The gay community is more than just the sex scene and hooking up but what you've stated is a pretty accurate ASPECT of that subculture within the gay community.

    Please be careful with sex parties, they can become addictive and you'll end up going even if you don't want too ... I've seen it.


    I've yet to see the diversity in Houston. I've pretty much given up on spending any time with a gay man who isn't trying to have sex. I guess I've just lost hope and gone to the dark side. Now I just need a light saber sized dildo, and I'll be a true sith slut.
  • Apparition

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    Nov 27, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    no, i would assume on average, a fair representation of the gay community is a bunch of fat guys in their 50-60s antique shopping.