Confidence issues and relationships

  • evchado32

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    Nov 23, 2014 2:41 AM GMT
    Hey. I'm having some trouble with my confidence and I think it is driving guys away from me. I can get most guys to talk to me, but they never seem to stick around and I know it is because of my confidence. I go to the gym and stuff(just started not too long ago), but I'm still having trouble thinking I'm attractive enough compared to all the other gay guys and stuff. Do you guys have any advice for gaining confidence and thinking of yourself as more attractive? I feel like if I did that, I would stand a better chance it finding a relationship and stuff like that. Thank you.
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    Nov 23, 2014 2:47 AM GMT
    Maybe you're thinking about it too much? There are times when we all don't feel confident, but it's best to realize that other people don't notice it. You start thinking to yourself that other people are catching on to it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Tell yourself that maybe you're not feeling as in control as you would like to, but it's your own sense of yourself. Recognize what you can change about yourself and change what you can. Also, don't put yourself down in front of others. The odd self-effacing joke can be funny, but don't look for others to boost you up by seeking compliments. Feel free to talk about yourself, but ask a lot of questions and put the focus on other people. Male the effort to get to know them and they will appreciate that. The person you are ten years from now will probably look back and regret how hard you were on yourself. Be kinder to yourself, man.
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    Nov 23, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]evchado32 said[/cite]Hey. I'm having some trouble with my confidence and I think it is driving guys away from me. I can get most guys to talk to me, but they never seem to stick around... /quote]for the gay ones you talk to; you have to ask them out, even for a coffee date.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Nov 25, 2014 5:54 AM GMT
    evchado32 saidHey. I'm having some trouble with my confidence and I think it is driving guys away from me. I can get most guys to talk to me, but they never seem to stick around and I know it is because of my confidence. I go to the gym and stuff(just started not too long ago), but I'm still having trouble thinking I'm attractive enough compared to all the other gay guys and stuff. Do you guys have any advice for gaining confidence and thinking of yourself as more attractive? I feel like if I did that, I would stand a better chance it finding a relationship and stuff like that. Thank you.


    Self-esteem and self-confidence have become the buzzwords of the last couple of years. Practically every guy I meet in whatever the environment may be, claims that he is having self-esteem/self-confidence issues. Well, no one really wants to be left behind, rite? icon_rolleyes.gif

    When you come to think about it, since practically everyone has got those issues, these do not matter anymore.

    The notion that everything could be better, richer, more colorful, more rewarding, etc. is exacting a very heavy toll on all of us.

    You want to start your day by remembering that you, too, have quite a few blessings to count. You are in-shape, good-looking, young, to start with...

    Now, if you personally feel that there are issues in your life that are not going the right way, address them immediately. Your school sucks? Your career prospects are dim? You are sinking in private debt?

    Grab the bull by the horns, and start dealing with it today. Get as much help as you can, and make sure that whatever is robbing you of your sleep goes away.

    And, yeah, leave those tired buzzwords to the others...

    SC