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I lived in Southern California and now in Northern California. I also lived in New Jersey for 7-months and visited New York. I can tell you from my experience after living in the West Coast for so many years it was a shock. I rather now just visit New York as a tourist. The bad attitude and arrogance of New Yorkers was a complete turn-off, New Jersey as well, and the closed mind of them.
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I honestly disagree with this sentiment. Here are comments I wrote in a thread concerning the West Coast vs. East Coast a few weeks ago.
I can only speak from my personal experiences. I lived in New York for many years, and then I lived in San Diego for many years. In August, I returned to New York.
Many San Diegans are warm and affable in day-to-day encounters and when you first meet them. I was particularly struck by this when I first moved there from New York many years ago. However, developing close relationships and building a social network is often daunting. Many San Diegans are very nice, but eschew making new, close friends in my experience. I think it may have something to do with the reality that many San Diegans I met were very much into "positive" thinking. Therefore, they don't like to disagree with anyone or express feelings and opinions that might rub others the wrong way for fear of being perceived as "negative". Similarly, when they feel down, they avoid talking about it. As a result, many San Diegans are guarded in expressing honest thoughts and emotions and frequently avoid expressing strong feelings about almost anything substantive. They often lack strong passions. The emphasis is on being laid-back and chilling out. As you can imagine, this makes the development of genuine, lasting friendships challenging.
New Yorkers, in my personal experience, are very different. Many are cold and impersonal in day-to-day encounters. When first getting to know a New Yorker, he/she can be somewhat distant and cautious. But once you break the ice, it is much easier to develop a lasting friendship with a New Yorker than a San Diegan in my experience. Yes, sometimes New Yorkers are brash. Many will freely and bluntly tell you what they think of you or your opinions without worrying that they will upset you. If you have a very thin skin this may be disconcerting, but at least said New Yorkers are honest and genuine. And many New Yorkers are eager to explore controversial topics with zest. The New Yorkers I have met have multiple strong passions. It is this honesty and willingness to engage others, even with regard to "difficult" topics or feelings, that make communication more heartfelt. As a result, this makes the development of genuine, lasting friendships easier.
Your mileage may vary.