How to have the best possible sex

  • nehpets987

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    Nov 30, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    I'm returning home for Christmas and I'm going to see my ex. We're going to have sex.

    I'm a top and he's a bottom. I am wondering how to make it the most pleasurable experience possible for him. I know that the longer it lasts, and with trying different things, the better it is for him.

    The thing is that it's very difficult to make him cum and I usually cum way more easily than him. And I know he enjoys sucking my dick but the more time he spends doing that, the faster I'm going to cum. So I want to find ways to get him going with other methods. He loves getting his neck kissed, when I describe what I want to do to him and he loves when I'm dominant.

    So what other tricks can I do for foreplay that will get him excited? I heard something about holding the tip of someone's nipple between your teeth and then licking it. Things like that.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 01, 2014 3:55 AM GMT
    Try using some toys, if he's receptive. You can give him some selfish pleasure while taking a break when you either want to slow yourself down or have come and need to regenerate. Vibration dildos (smaller than you) or maybe some leather gear? Restraints?
  • nehpets987

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    Dec 01, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidTry using some toys, if he's receptive. You can give him some selfish pleasure while taking a break when you either want to slow yourself down or have come and need to regenerate. Vibration dildos (smaller than you) or maybe some leather gear? Restraints?


    Thank you. I'll try that. I've read a lot of of forum posts and a lot of the bottoms seem to be into the same things that he's into. Does anyone else have any ideas of what I could do?
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    Dec 01, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    nehpets987 saidI'm returning home for Christmas and I'm going to see my ex. We're going to have sex.

    I'm a top and he's a bottom. I am wondering how to make it the most pleasurable experience possible for him. I know that the longer it lasts, and with trying different things, the better it is for him.

    The thing is that it's very difficult to make him cum and I usually cum way more easily than him. And I know he enjoys sucking my dick but the more time he spends doing that, the faster I'm going to cum. So I want to find ways to get him going with other methods. He loves getting his neck kissed, when I describe what I want to do to him and he loves when I'm dominant.

    So what other tricks can I do for foreplay that will get him excited? I heard something about holding the tip of someone's nipple between your teeth and then licking it. Things like that.



    Give him romance! Candles and music are always good.

    I bet he loves getting rimmed! After a guy has sucked on me for awhile I return the favor, then flip him up and work his hole.

    Sounds like his nips are wired. Be gentle and work you way up to a slight pain threshold. Not just for foreplay, do it even when you are in him, go from his nip to his arm pits. Hold his arm back around his head, take control, and have fun with his body. It's also sort of a "delay" tactic for me. The more you do that isn't "just fucking" the longer you will last.

    Don't be afraid to "break the moment" especially if you are getting close. Get some wine, or water. Start over/resume. Start N stop, it can go on for hours.

    Also cock rings are good for lasting longer. I like the spongy ones, they aren't too constraining. Or ones with snaps so I can take them off easily.

    I love doggie style. Not just because it's a good power position. It's a great way to nibble and lick on a guy's ear, (take your time!) work along down to his neck and traps and shoulders. ( I read somewhere that this area is the "reassuring" and "comforting" spot. Not necessarily erogenous, but it's all part of a mood). Go into a full back massage, all the while you are slowly fucking him. Remember there really is no such think as multitasking. You are always diverting your attention, as in texting and driving. Here for a good cause! You last longer, trained your cock not to be a minute man, he gets "more" pleasure. By now he is ready to blow, already has, or has forgotten about his cock altogether and is just into getting fucked.
  • HopefulMuscle

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    Dec 02, 2014 7:15 PM GMT
    Touch erogenous zones tease, make it last, dim the light, make it hot in the house that you two have to be naked from the get go. do tons of foreplay till it gets to the point that neither of you cant take anymore of the temptation. .
  • nehpets987

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    Dec 03, 2014 8:49 AM GMT
    thebaddestdude saidTouch erogenous zones tease, make it last, dim the light, make it hot in the house that you two have to be naked from the get go. do tons of foreplay till it gets to the point that neither of you cant take anymore of the temptation. .


    I didn't even know about all those erogenous zones until googling. Thank you! I'll do so much foreplay that he'll be insane by the time we get around to business.
  • HopefulMuscle

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    Dec 03, 2014 12:50 PM GMT
    nehpets987 said
    thebaddestdude saidTouch erogenous zones tease, make it last, dim the light, make it hot in the house that you two have to be naked from the get go. do tons of foreplay till it gets to the point that neither of you cant take anymore of the temptation. .


    I didn't even know about all those erogenous zones until googling. Thank you! I'll do so much foreplay that he'll be insane by the time we get around to business.


    No problem bud, helping a guy have some great fucking makes it even hotter!
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    Dec 21, 2014 6:56 PM GMT
    Make him have a hands free orgasm. That will do it...