I just had my very first "date" date

  • k777

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    Nov 30, 2014 11:40 PM GMT
    Hey realjock,

    So I just had my first "date" date. We were supposed to just have McDonalds together but my bougie ass really wanted starbucks lol.

    I am 23 (I know-late for me to be dating since 23=45 in gay male years) and he is 24. I think due to the fact I am super giddy after our date and the fact that he told me to "hit him up" are good signs.

    I wanted to ask you all when is the best time to start talking about/having sex? My penis wants it now but fortunately I have a TON of discipline. I am asking because I lost a guy once before and I strongly believe it was because we didn't have sex (which was no one's fault in particular)

    I should also mention that this guy is out of a relationship and I am trying to do ALL of this while avoid being his "rebound" if you know what I mean.

    Thanks guys-constructive criticism is greatly apprecaited
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    Nov 30, 2014 11:49 PM GMT
    I think the best time to start talking about it is during your second/third date to get a feel to see where his head is. Plus depending on the kind of guy he is and you are, who knows how long it is until hormones kick in.

    If you want to avoid being a rebound be honest with him and express you want a relationship. Best wishes bud.
  • k777

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    Nov 30, 2014 11:58 PM GMT
    Oh I should mention we met on GRINDR **shudders**

    Even so I thought he'd be worth meeting (he wasnt like every other guy on grindr wanting anonymous sex) and I was right!
  • k777

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    Nov 30, 2014 11:59 PM GMT
    Riko_sal saidI think the best time to start talking about it is during your second/third date to get a feel to see where his head is. Plus depending on the kind of guy he is and you are, who knows how long it is until hormones kick in.

    If you want to avoid being a rebound be honest with him and express you want a relationship. Best wishes bud.


    Idk about him but I strongly believe my hormones are innoyingly kicking in. Thanks for the advice!
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 01, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    Probably the second date would be okay to start talking about sex. Whether you have it then and there is really up to you but I'd personally wait for a third date.

    I've never been on a real date honestly so there's not much I can really say other than good luck and I hope everything works out. icon_smile.gif
  • buddycat

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    Dec 01, 2014 10:30 AM GMT
    You two are going to have to determine that for yourself. There is no rule.
  • k777

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    Dec 01, 2014 12:44 PM GMT
    Update: Hey ladies;

    So I dont think there will be a second date. I called him twice last night and he didnt pick up. I think its wierd becuase he told me to "hit [him] up", but whatever

    *cries to sleep*

    *gives himself a morale boost*
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    Dec 01, 2014 1:15 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that, k777. Better luck with the next guy.
    PS: I don't think a lot of guys here like being called "ladies", me included. LOL!!!
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    Dec 01, 2014 1:18 PM GMT
    k777 said...
    So I dont think there will be a second date. I called him twice last night and he didnt pick up...


    Maybe he was asleep on the couch?
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    Dec 01, 2014 1:33 PM GMT
    k777 saidUpdate: Hey ladies;

    So I dont think there will be a second date. I called him twice last night and he didnt pick up. I think its wierd becuase he told me to "hit [him] up", but whatever

    *cries to sleep*

    *gives himself a morale boost*

    Rejection is tough, if that's what really happened. A little soon to be certain of that.

    But your personal stats in your Profile puzzle me. They don't seem possible for both size and weight. Perhaps you need some work on appearance. If so, this is a good place for it.
  • k777

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    Dec 01, 2014 2:03 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    k777 saidUpdate: Hey ladies;

    So I dont think there will be a second date. I called him twice last night and he didnt pick up. I think its wierd becuase he told me to "hit [him] up", but whatever

    *cries to sleep*

    *gives himself a morale boost*

    Rejection is tough, if that's what really happened. A little soon to be certain of that.

    But your personal stats in your Profile puzzle me. They don't seem possible for both size and weight. Perhaps you need some work on appearance. If so, this is a good place for it.


    How soon is too soon?
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 01, 2014 2:06 PM GMT
    k777 saidOh I should mention we met on GRINDR **shudders**

    Even so I thought he'd be worth meeting (he wasnt like every other guy on grindr wanting anonymous sex) and I was right!


    It wasn't a date... Grindricon_neutral.gif
  • k777

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    May 22, 2015 2:56 PM GMT
    Hey yall

    so it was a bust. I think he led me on and we havent met since

    #itgetsbetter
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    May 22, 2015 5:58 PM GMT
    If you're into each other the subject of sex will come up naturally ... and it usually doesn't have to be discussed per se ... someone will invite the other in to his home after the date, which is the signal that sex is now on the table. If you're the invitee you can then decide if you want to or not. As for his parting words to you ... well it was just a way to end on a nice note, a social convention. People are more emphatic and specific if they are really interested in someone after a first date. Meeting for coffee is a good way to do some speed dating ... add some sources of dates to your repertoire other than Grindr.
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    May 23, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    k777 saidHey realjock,

    So I just had my first "date" date.
    ...
    I wanted to ask you all when is the best time to start talking about/having sex?
    You already had your first date and didn't have sex? icon_eek.gif
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    May 23, 2015 2:47 AM GMT
    "Talk about sex???" Dude.....sex isn't something you talk about. It's something you let happen naturally. Way to take the mystery and spontaneity out of it. icon_confused.gif
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    May 23, 2015 3:08 AM GMT
    Radd said"Talk about sex???" Dude.....sex isn't something you talk about. It's something you let happen naturally. Way to take the mystery and spontaneity out of it. icon_confused.gif


    Yep the chemistry, when it's there, no need to mention it.

    OP sounds like a new guy to the dating scene, he's rushing for a bit too. Hahaha.