Dec 01, 2014 10:07 AM GMT
So, I've been in a relationship with a guy now for barely over a month. And it's been great, we been sharing some great memories both at home and away. The attraction is there, he's intelligent, takes care of himself, and he admires me enough to where I never feel the uncertainty and mind fuck games like I've suffered thru non-stop over the last 4 years, due to meeting 1 failed date after the next.
He recently introduced me to his folks in the next state over for the holiday.I have not had a guy I've dated FORMALLY introduce me to his family for as long as I can remember. And the last time it happened, it was an epic fail. But, all his folks liked me and they were the nicest people you could ever meet. And I'm talking small town, country folks who you'd think might disown their kids for dating someone like me lol. Plus, they are all well-off. they all have their Ish together financially (in comparison).
So all sounds good right? Only thing is we've been living together! We met thru a friend one night out and about 3 days into meeting, we hung out again and I found out he was pretty much going from couch to couch. By that, he had no place to live. Long story short, he fell on hard times, descended from a comfortable middle class lifestyle on his own he created, to basically having nothing. He also moved from another state to start over.
The kicker is, he's not employed right now, and hasn't been since we met. Seemed like he had a job briefly, but was let go. Being I live alone, I let him stay with me. However, my finances are on a thread myself...and before meeting him I was planning to relocate to start over myself. I don't want to tell him to leave, because he's a ton of help around the house, and he's my man now and I like him around me. But, Im not seeing the effort being put to finding work. And i typically prefer that the person I date, to be able to provide for themselves.
I'm just curious for some advice on this, or maybe someone to tell me be patient lol. At the same time, sometimes throughout the week, I find myself panicking inside wondering what the hell did I get myself into lol. It's kinda scary because the guy is living with me and its only been a month. It also bothers me that there's no income coming in on his part, and my bills are steady coming in. I paid over $1,200 in rent/bills last week, and still owe $300 more. Which I know isn't necessarily his fault, but i shouldn't have to come up with ALL the bills when there's 2 of us.
He recently introduced me to his folks in the next state over for the holiday.I have not had a guy I've dated FORMALLY introduce me to his family for as long as I can remember. And the last time it happened, it was an epic fail. But, all his folks liked me and they were the nicest people you could ever meet. And I'm talking small town, country folks who you'd think might disown their kids for dating someone like me lol. Plus, they are all well-off. they all have their Ish together financially (in comparison).
So all sounds good right? Only thing is we've been living together! We met thru a friend one night out and about 3 days into meeting, we hung out again and I found out he was pretty much going from couch to couch. By that, he had no place to live. Long story short, he fell on hard times, descended from a comfortable middle class lifestyle on his own he created, to basically having nothing. He also moved from another state to start over.
The kicker is, he's not employed right now, and hasn't been since we met. Seemed like he had a job briefly, but was let go. Being I live alone, I let him stay with me. However, my finances are on a thread myself...and before meeting him I was planning to relocate to start over myself. I don't want to tell him to leave, because he's a ton of help around the house, and he's my man now and I like him around me. But, Im not seeing the effort being put to finding work. And i typically prefer that the person I date, to be able to provide for themselves.
I'm just curious for some advice on this, or maybe someone to tell me be patient lol. At the same time, sometimes throughout the week, I find myself panicking inside wondering what the hell did I get myself into lol. It's kinda scary because the guy is living with me and its only been a month. It also bothers me that there's no income coming in on his part, and my bills are steady coming in. I paid over $1,200 in rent/bills last week, and still owe $300 more. Which I know isn't necessarily his fault, but i shouldn't have to come up with ALL the bills when there's 2 of us.