Dating 2 months without sex

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    Dec 01, 2014 10:46 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months. We hit it off from the very beginning and I've never felt so strongly attracted and connected to someone before. I've met all his friends, he's met my family, and we even spent Thanksgiving together. I currently spend more time living at his place than I do my own.

    We regularly engage in oral sex but haven't gone any further than that. Neither of us has even hinted at trying anything more, and I don't even have a clue as to whether he's a top/bottom/vers. None of this really bothers me, as I don't mind waiting for sex, but waiting this long to have sex is definitely new territory to me. Part of me wonders what he's thinking but I don't know how or even if I should bring it up in conversation.
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    Dec 01, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    I don't understand what the question is but from what you have written I'm wondering what's wrong with waiting if you like the guy?
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    Dec 01, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
    I don't have any problem with waiting at all. I'm just curious if I should bring it up in conversation or leave it alone completely.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 01, 2014 11:05 PM GMT
    That's why I think sex in the first ten minutes makes the most sense. If it doesn't work out, you can still be friends. I suggest making out. And when things start going towards oral, just gently stop him, take his hand, and lead him to bed. Just say something simple like "Let's take this to the next level. I really care for you a lot." And see what happens. Good luck!
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    Dec 01, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    dxg312 saidI don't have any problem with waiting at all. I'm just curious if I should bring it up in conversation or leave it alone completely.

    No. Act. Talk is for lesbians.
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    Dec 01, 2014 11:25 PM GMT
    If he didn't want butt sex would that be a deal breaker for you? If so, you should find out.
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    Dec 02, 2014 12:07 AM GMT
    dxg312 saidI don't have any problem with waiting at all. I'm just curious if I should bring it up in conversation or leave it alone completely.


    Leave it and let it happen organically. 2 months is not a long time. After a year or so I can see why it might be a bit odd though.

    Plus you should leave it as it will be a very awkward conversion.
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    Dec 02, 2014 1:16 AM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    dxg312 saidI don't have any problem with waiting at all. I'm just curious if I should bring it up in conversation or leave it alone completely.

    No. Act. Talk is for lesbians.


    I agree.

    Your post title is misleading. Oral sex is sex. Some gay men are perfectly happy with just oral. Some just like jerking off together. Some just like body contact or muscle worship.

    Different strokes for different folks.
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    Dec 02, 2014 1:29 AM GMT
    Yeah, some guys are into everything but anal. I have been in a couple relationships where that was the case. Things were exciting enough in bed that I never felt like I was missing out on anything and so I did not make an issue of it. But if that is an important aspect of your sexual needs, then you better take the bull by the horns and initiate a discussion about this.
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    Dec 02, 2014 1:35 AM GMT
    Always amazed that you can have a guys dick in your mouth, but talking about annal is awkward.
    He may be one of those guys that get soft just thinking about butt sex--is it a deal breaker?
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    Dec 02, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    dxg312 saidMy boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months. We hit it off from the very beginning and I've never felt so strongly attracted and connected to someone before. I've met all his friends, he's met my family, and we even spent Thanksgiving together. I currently spend more time living at his place than I do my own.

    We regularly engage in oral sex but haven't gone any further than that. Neither of us has even hinted at trying anything more, and I don't even have a clue as to whether he's a top/bottom/vers. None of this really bothers me, as I don't mind waiting for sex, but waiting this long to have sex is definitely new territory to me. Part of me wonders what he's thinking but I don't know how or even if I should bring it up in conversation.




    He is a bottom and waiting for you to top him. If he was a top you would have been fucked on the first date.
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    Dec 02, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    Funny cuz I've had anal sex plenty of times (within relationships), but have never sucked cock. Not sure why the bunghole is more sacred than the mouth.
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    Dec 02, 2014 2:37 AM GMT
    Aqueerius saidFunny cuz I've had anal sex plenty of times (within relationships), but have never sucked cock. Not sure why the bunghole is more sacred than the mouth.


    My bunghole as you so poetically put it is my Holy of Holies, the Inner Sanctum if you will. Only the High Priest may draw the veil and enter where few have ever trod.

    My mouth on the other hand is Grand Central Station.

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  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 02, 2014 6:06 AM GMT
    dxg312 saidMy boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months. We hit it off from the very beginning and I've never felt so strongly attracted and connected to someone before. I've met all his friends, he's met my family, and we even spent Thanksgiving together. I currently spend more time living at his place than I do my own.

    We regularly engage in oral sex but haven't gone any further than that. Neither of us has even hinted at trying anything more, and I don't even have a clue as to whether he's a top/bottom/vers. None of this really bothers me, as I don't mind waiting for sex, but waiting this long to have sex is definitely new territory to me. Part of me wonders what he's thinking but I don't know how or even if I should bring it up in conversation.


    Wow. You really CONNECTED? You are spending more time at his place than at yours? You regularly engage in oral sex?

    So, what's been stopping you from talking/giving anal a try? Like you shy or somethin'? icon_biggrin.gif

    The OP's profile says he is 42?

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    Dec 02, 2014 6:07 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Aqueerius said[/cite]Funny cuz I've had anal sex plenty of times (within relationships), but have never sucked cock. Not sure why the bunghole is more sacred than the mouth.[/quote


    It's just a bottom thing. Most won't ask for it but it's yours for the taking. I bet he prays at night that you are a top.
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    Dec 02, 2014 6:53 AM GMT


    If you can't talk about sex with this guy that you've "never felt so strongly attracted and connected to someone before," I question if you really feel that way or if you are ready for this....or if he is.


    COMMUNICATION is really important in a relationship. Not just about this topic, but EVERY topic


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    Dec 02, 2014 8:12 AM GMT
    He's a lesbian and likes vagina. Lol, jk just talk about it with him...i think he's a bottom and doesn't want to admit it.
  • buddycat

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    Dec 02, 2014 10:46 AM GMT
    Yes it is possible he doesn't like anal sex at all. If he was a top/bottom would have let it be known rather quickly. People on here figure me out rather quickly and they never even met me. Surprised you haven't figured it out. Makes me believe he is oral only. He has never shoved his butt in your crotch or something like that?
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    Dec 02, 2014 11:54 AM GMT
    Well, you can in bed just before the sleep talk with him for a 4-5 minutes. Or if easier write him an msg, but start slowly moving forward to theme - that tonight you might have physical contact. If he opens up his mouth, you might hear he s a top or btm or other.
    Well, haven't you considered which type of guy you, when you enjoy more sex? icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 02, 2014 12:16 PM GMT
    Stop thinking about that...you want to play with another part of your or his body ?
    Just play with it to explore...a small finger in the ass are worth thousands of words
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    Dec 02, 2014 2:41 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Destinharbor said
    dxg312 saidI don't have any problem with waiting at all. I'm just curious if I should bring it up in conversation or leave it alone completely.

    No. Act. Talk is for lesbians.


    I agree.

    Your post title is misleading. Oral sex is sex. Some gay men are perfectly happy with just oral. Some just like jerking off together. Some just like body contact or muscle worship.

    Different strokes for different folks.


    This.
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    Dec 02, 2014 2:55 PM GMT
    dxg312 saidM... as to whether he's a top/bottom/vers. None of this really bothers me...
    silly boy (the OP); get some condoms, lube and talk to your partner about it. The first time have him top you.
    I think, could be wrong, most couples are fairly versatile.
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    Dec 02, 2014 5:07 PM GMT
    pellaz said... most couples are fairly versatile.


    Ha
    Don't I wish
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    Dec 02, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    My guess is that you are both bottoms just hoping the other is a top. icon_razz.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 02, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    CuriousOne saidMy guess is that you are both bottoms just hoping the other is a top. icon_razz.gif

    Ya, I thought about that, too. This is probably it.