Almost 0 sex drive at 24...I think something is wrong

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    Dec 03, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    I'm 24 years old, and I feel like there is something really wrong with my sex drive. I'm not sexually active, but I rarely get horny anymore and nothing seems to turn me on. Not even porn.

    I've suffered from depression and I was taking some antidepressants for about a year and a half, but I stopped them a few months ago. Occasionally I'll feel a little bit of my sex drive coming back, but then it will go away again.

    I had my testosterone levels checked and everything is fine. I have been pretty depressed still, even though I'm no longer taking any medications so perhaps that is it. Part of me fears that the medications I took may have damaged my sex drive permanently, which I really hope isn't the case.

    I don't know what to do at this point but I'm really frustrated and worried. icon_sad.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 03, 2014 6:48 AM GMT
    These are questions for your Dr. Not random guys on here.
    Be well, seek qualified help!
  • LutheranGuy

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    Dec 06, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    ant811 saidI'm 24 years old, and I feel like there is something really wrong with my sex drive. I'm not sexually active, but I rarely get horny anymore and nothing seems to turn me on. Not even porn.


    It's just a season. Libido will return!!!
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 06, 2014 10:46 PM GMT
    There is some truth to the "Use it or lose it" thinking. Sexual inactivity over a long period will diminish your sex drive over time. Why no sex?
  • drypin

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    Dec 09, 2014 4:49 PM GMT
    You don't mention if you were getting psychological treatment along with the antidepression medication. We're not all the same by any means but I would follow MikemikeMike's advice and talk to a professional. Getting anxious about your sex drive would definitely be counterproductive.
  • BigAlDevlin

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    Dec 11, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    ant811 saidI'm 24 years old, and I feel like there is something really wrong with my sex drive. I'm not sexually active, but I rarely get horny anymore and nothing seems to turn me on. Not even porn.

    I've suffered from depression and I was taking some antidepressants for about a year and a half, but I stopped them a few months ago. Occasionally I'll feel a little bit of my sex drive coming back, but then it will go away again.

    I had my testosterone levels checked and everything is fine. I have been pretty depressed still, even though I'm no longer taking any medications so perhaps that is it. Part of me fears that the medications I took may have damaged my sex drive permanently, which I really hope isn't the case.

    I don't know what to do at this point but I'm really frustrated and worried. icon_sad.gif


    sorry to hear your going through some trouble atm. the main thing is not to get too worried over it - anxiety is the biggest killer of sex moods/erections in my experience.

    I went through a 3 year period of suffering from depression. when depressed my libido dropped a lot. so your depression may be having some effect but tbh its more likely the medication your on. Im not sure which one your on but Fluoxetine(prozac) then that is a medication know to reduce peoples libido. dont worry it isnt permanent though but takes a while to get out of your system once you stop. But if you do come off come off slowly. If you come of quickly you can get really badly depressed.

    other than that mate the only advice i can think to give is to see your doctor and ask to an alternative anti-depressent to the one your on. there are loads about 20 of them i think and people respond differently to each on.

    Hope for you all the best icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 12, 2014 11:11 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThere is some truth to the "Use it or lose it" thinking. Sexual inactivity over a long period will diminish your sex drive over time. Why no sex?


    Because I don't have anyone to do it with and I'm way too picky when it comes to romantic/sexual partners lol.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 12, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    ant811 said
    Destinharbor saidThere is some truth to the "Use it or lose it" thinking. Sexual inactivity over a long period will diminish your sex drive over time. Why no sex?


    Because I don't have anyone to do it with and I'm way too picky when it comes to romantic/sexual partners lol.

    Don't forget to enjoy life, man. Time flies. I'd give the meds a bit longer to work out of your system but after that, see a doctor. While you're doing that, find a nice guy to grind up agains't. See how that feels to you. He won't get pregnant and you won't tarnish your reputation. Honest.
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    Dec 13, 2014 8:32 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    ant811 said
    Destinharbor saidThere is some truth to the "Use it or lose it" thinking. Sexual inactivity over a long period will diminish your sex drive over time. Why no sex?


    Because I don't have anyone to do it with and I'm way too picky when it comes to romantic/sexual partners lol.

    Don't forget to enjoy life, man. Time flies. I'd give the meds a bit longer to work out of your system but after that, see a doctor. While you're doing that, find a nice guy to grind up agains't. See how that feels to you. He won't get pregnant and you won't tarnish your reputation. Honest.


    Well unfortunately I don't have any gay friends to go out with where I can meet guys, and I haven't had much success on these dating/hookup sites and apps.
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    Dec 14, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    You could always go out somewhere by yourself. Your a big boy now… icon_lol.gif
    and don't strive for the 'perfect' mate, or partner or even FB for that matter. Cause there aint no such thing… no go and sow those seeds.. lol.
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    Dec 14, 2014 1:12 PM GMT
    ant811 said
    Destinharbor saidThere is some truth to the "Use it or lose it" thinking. Sexual inactivity over a long period will diminish your sex drive over time. Why no sex?


    Because I don't have anyone to do it with and I'm way too picky when it comes to romantic/sexual partners lol.


    Unfortunately those perfect guys we envision in our head don't exist or they manifest themselves in a straight man.. Gotta find a way to enjoy the reality lmfao
  • taylorjp

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    Dec 17, 2014 5:14 PM GMT
    ant811 saidI'm 24 years old, and I feel like there is something really wrong with my sex drive. I'm not sexually active, but I rarely get horny anymore and nothing seems to turn me on. Not even porn.

    I've suffered from depression and I was taking some antidepressants for about a year and a half, but I stopped them a few months ago. Occasionally I'll feel a little bit of my sex drive coming back, but then it will go away again.

    I had my testosterone levels checked and everything is fine. I have been pretty depressed still, even though I'm no longer taking any medications so perhaps that is it. Part of me fears that the medications I took may have damaged my sex drive permanently, which I really hope isn't the case.

    I don't know what to do at this point but I'm really frustrated and worried. icon_sad.gif


    what medication u took im a medicine student O.oicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 18, 2014 2:43 AM GMT
    ant811 saidI have been pretty depressed still, even though I'm no longer taking any medications so perhaps that is it. Part of me fears that the medications I took may have damaged my sex drive permanently, which I really hope isn't the case.
    icon_sad.gif


    Unfortunately, low libido is both a symptom of depression and a common side effect of most antidepressants. The good news is that in neither instance are the effects permanent.

    Consider talking to your healthcare provider about Wellbutrin, it's the only one that doesn't have sexual side effects. Also think about talking to a counselor or therapist, a good one can make a world of difference even if it's a short term thing to get your over the hump.

    Best of luck and be well!
  • PE_Mike

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    Dec 21, 2014 7:51 AM GMT
    Don't worry that lots of Real Jocks prefer denial and fucking to dealing with real life.

    Fact: you stopped taking your meds months ago and your libido has not returned, proving that anti-depressants are not the cause. You know that a lack of desire (as opposed to the inability to maintain a hard erection) suggests the cause is more likely to be a product of depressed, self obsessed and critical thinking.

    Many more men that you think know how difficult it can be to get hard when clinically depressed, especially when at times we worry and obsess about what is wrong with our life. Self searching happens after break ups, not just when we battle to make connections.

    We all know that "Turn on" happens in the brain, not the trousers. Arousal starts with considering what is attractive in others - his muscles, smile, eyes, hair, ass - not by how negative and powerless we feel about ourselves.

    That you have not yet found something which helps, suggests that you may want to consider trying a new therapist doctor for handling depression (not your Crohns specialist) - perhaps a gay man? He can put you in touch with all the gay social networks in your area.

    Pills cannot do everything for you, and many who battle the dark clouds of depression use a number of supportive therapies and acquired good mental health habits that work for them. You, also, can find the right meds and habits to have everything your heart desires - a good man, a beautiful home, meaningful relationships.

    Relax. You have everything you need, inside of you, right now.
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    Dec 22, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
    You answered your own question already. You're depressed. Depression is the biggest enemy of your libido. Be nice to yourself and just allow yourself to feel disinterested in sex for a while. When your mood lifts, so will your penis! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 22, 2014 3:37 PM GMT
    You could possibly be addicted to porn which messes with the reward circuitry in your brain thereby making real life sex seem unexciting. It's extremely common.

    www.yourbrainonporn.com
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    Dec 24, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    Hi I am a pharmacist (not a very good one, but here is what I know lol).

    How long have you not had a sex drive?

    Depression meds do not permanently 'damage' your sex drive, there is also meds that are known to decrease your libido less than others, so discuss your options with a doctor (who knows what he is doing).

    Having problems with anti-depressants is very common, but a lot of people quit them too fast and abruptly. There is a lot of options dose/alternative meds wise right now, I would recommend exhausting all options first.


    If you don't want to do meds here are somethings you could try to investigate:

    1. Do you exercise at all?
    2. Do you eat well? Decent meals, throughout the day.
    3. Do you sleep well, at night and wake up during the day?
    4. Is something specific depressing you, that you can work on?
    5. Have you had some sort of a bad relationship recently, that influences your sexual arousal patterns?
    6. Do you drink alcohol frequently, any recreational drug use?
    7. Do you have friends/family members that you can talk to and enjoy socializing with?

    9. The obvious question is are you just depressed?, however all of the above should help you with that a tad. Still meds are life changing to some people they have been to me. icon_smile.gif

    Take care. Sorry for the text wall.