Guys who repeatedly view your profile on a dating site.

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:34 AM GMT
    Guys, I have a quick question. Well more like 2. I'm kinda back actively on OKC again. And I noticed that several guys repeatedly looked at dating profile like everyday 1-2 day time-frame interval. There's this one guy that I really like, from his profile anyway. But somehow I think we may not be a good match, IDK, should I email or say hi? or let him make the first move? Lol, does this happen to a lot of guys? Guys who view your profile a lot then say nothing?? icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif
  • KittenpasteCo...

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    Dec 04, 2014 11:18 AM GMT
    Usually, this is the type that won't make the first move. It's kind of a hint that they may want you to make a move. At least, that's how I've personally operated.
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    Dec 04, 2014 11:59 AM GMT
    KittenpasteCompany saidUsually, this is the type that won't make the first move. It's kind of a hint that they may want you to make a move. At least, that's how I've personally operated.

    I actually did make a move on such guy, but didn't hear anything back. He still views my profile. His lossicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 04, 2014 2:01 PM GMT
    Maybe be it's because I'm older and have larger hands than some guys, but when using my iPhone apps, I seem to "hit" the same guys thumbnail many times trying to swipe the damn screen! So, this one guy messages me asking why I look but don't talk.
    When I explain what is happening he laughs and admits to having that problem, too.
    Maybe that's what is happening.

    That, or guys just want to admire your body without having to chat? It's a free world....for now.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 04, 2014 5:11 PM GMT
    KittenpasteCompany saidUsually, this is the type that won't make the first move. It's kind of a hint that they may want you to make a move. At least, that's how I've personally operated.

    Some guys are shy. Some insecure. They figure if you see them looking at you repetitively and make no move, you're not interested. If you're interested, sure, make a move, even if you think it may not be great match. You can't expect to find your perfect guy through a profile only. You might be surprised.
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    Dec 04, 2014 5:12 PM GMT
    definitely respond if you want but realize some peeps lie on their profile. Maybe they cant date; they are with someone. Maybe your profile represents some small bad for them you would never think of.

    A low cost pay for site would screen these out? A boy friend is the biggest investment you will ever make.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 04, 2014 6:40 PM GMT
    It really doesn't matter what he is doing. Go for what you want. If he turns out to be a dude move on and try again
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    Dec 04, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    Viewing your profile and not contacting you demonstrates his ambivalence. As in, not really interested.

    YOU contact who YOU want. Don't worry about others.
  • 5100s

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    Dec 04, 2014 8:01 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidViewing your profile and not contacting you demonstrates his ambivalence. As in, not really interested.

    YOU contact who YOU want. Don't worry about others.


    I tend to think the above is the correct advice. Whenever I send a message to one of those "constant viewers" I never get a response.
  • ASHDOD

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    Dec 04, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    __morphic__ said
    KittenpasteCompany saidUsually, this is the type that won't make the first move. It's kind of a hint that they may want you to make a move. At least, that's how I've personally operated.

    I actually did make a move on such guy, but didn't hear anything back. He still views my profile. His lossicon_biggrin.gif


    same here,very strange

    another thing that happend to me was that i made the move ,and then i was told i''m not their type'and they kept looking at my profile icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 04, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
    What's to lose by saying hi?
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    Dec 04, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidViewing your profile and not contacting you demonstrates his ambivalence. As in, not really interested.

    YOU contact who YOU want. Don't worry about others.


    ^+1
  • davfit

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    Dec 04, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    Say hi!! whats the big deal.. I always do..well almost always... all the Cute ones seem to be miles away ..Canada.. Australia.
    dam ...at least we can chat and share pics.
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    Dec 04, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    Ashdod said
    __morphic__ said
    KittenpasteCompany saidUsually, this is the type that won't make the first move. It's kind of a hint that they may want you to make a move. At least, that's how I've personally operated.

    I actually did make a move on such guy, but didn't hear anything back. He still views my profile. His lossicon_biggrin.gif


    same here,very strange

    another thing that happend to me was that i made the move ,and then i was told i''m not their type'and they kept looking at my profile icon_rolleyes.gif


    Maybe they nit-pick and find fault after they see it so many times? urg, gay men... icon_redface.gificon_eek.gif
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    Dec 04, 2014 9:27 PM GMT
    This type of action usually has me raising red flags. I mean how many times do you need to view someone's profile before growing a pair? It's not that hard to view someone and figure out if you're interested them or not. When that happens to me, I actually confront them because, quite frankly, it's annoying and kinda fuckin' creepy.

    What's more annoying is after you decide to be "the man" and say something like "hi" to them, they still don't reply back but continue to view you? What! Fuck that! You're pic hunting (probably) and now you're blocked. Problem solved.
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    Dec 05, 2014 2:08 AM GMT
    onejock saidWhat's to lose by saying hi?


    My ego?? Lol hahaha jk icon_redface.gificon_razz.gif
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    Dec 05, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    He's probably fapping - if you (have a hot pic.)
  • wesv

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    Dec 05, 2014 7:11 AM GMT
    Some guys expect others to make the initiative. I usually don't send a message even though I think the guy is cute. You'd be surprised when you actually make an initiative. I've had experiences where I send a simple message like "you're cute" and I get replies like "thanks so are you."

    There are plenty of guys who always view my profile(s). I can tell they're attracted to me but simply don't want to send a message. I have experienced guys finally messaging me or sending smiles (on A4A) after severally profile views. Or sometimes they send a single message and continue to view me after the short convo ends.
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    Dec 05, 2014 7:23 AM GMT
    ^^@ Wes, good point I agreed, I think I've seen some of these guys here and there, on here too.

    The other thing I kinda wonder about OKCupid is they have a Light system (Red - Very Selective, Yellow - Selective and Green - Always often replies). LOL, maybe my light is RED ?? lol, that's why most guys seem to not bother email? I've only not reply to like the last 4-5 guys who just said **Sup or **Hi,,, 1-liner.... !! icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gif
  • zalcland

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    Dec 05, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    Its been said, some guys rather not make the first move. Some are shy and dont want to be ignored / rejected because it seems like its the norm now. You get all these matches on Tinder / OKcupid and very few ever message you. Just take the initiative and ask him how his day is going. Some guys are waiting to be contacted.
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    Dec 05, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
    zalcland saidIts been said, some guys rather not make the first move. Some are shy and dont want to be ignored / rejected because it seems like its the norm now. You get all these matches on Tinder / OKcupid and very few ever message you. Just take the initiative and ask him how his day is going. Some guys are waiting to be contacted.


    So all gay men have Disney princesses complex and waiting for Their prince to come to the rescue? Lol
  • Beeftastic

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    Dec 06, 2014 4:31 AM GMT
    Some of these dating sites/social apps let you swipe through the people in your area, so sometimes the repeat offender is just someone swiping through the list everyday.

    I can tend to be one of those shy guys that doesn't make the first move. I have gotten so trashed and abused making the first move online, I have gotten kind of gun shy.

    If I like someone but they don't give any indication in their profile that they might be into my physical type, I more often than not don't contact anymore. Because of the swiping situation, I don't conclude that a repeat visitor is interested in me.

    If someone makes the first move and they are my type, I am all over it icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 06, 2014 11:08 AM GMT
    Could be different reasons. Maybe they're just curious about you, and check your profile to see if there are any updates. Or they're attracted to you, and just look at your pics for jack-off material. Or they have OCD and don't realize they're checking your profile so many times.
  • monstapex

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    Dec 06, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    Probably don't mean a thing . I do profile searches a lot and sometime the same profiles pop up in those searches.And i might check someones profile 3 or 4 time .And sometime some clown will say ,"Why you keep checking my prifile?".Hey if you don't want someone to look at your profile block'em or take your profile down.Make a big deal out of nothing!
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    Dec 06, 2014 7:30 PM GMT
    Maybe they are shy or maybe they just jerk off to your pictures.

    I know I do that on here.