I need advice for this...

  • Alex9333

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    Dec 04, 2014 11:50 AM GMT
    Im in a little strange situation.Im 21yo and for a long time im unsure about my sexuality.I like girls,and i tried hooking up with a lot of them,but i never got more than a kiss or a boob grab.After being stood up like that like all the time,after disapointments like those i turn to men(i don't have any intimate expirience with men at all).I like older,middle aged,top men,and i chat with guys like that all the time on gay sites,but never done anything out of fear and insecurity,and then after a while,im back to girls again...it's a never ending circle i feel.

    Im not an ugly guy,i have been called cute multiple times by women,and even more by men.I have a good looking body and good looking butt icon_smile.gif The problem is that i was very shy and antisocial in highschool.Im a lot better now,but i feel girls are way ahead of me now,more expirienced,and more mature,and im afraid to try with men,cause im scarred.And i want to try as bottom only.

    And it was like that until a few months ago,when it reached boiling point and i couldnt take it anymore.So i started chating actively on gay sites,looking for middle aged top men.And i found one guy,he is 46yo top guy,a little on the bear side.And we chated for long,and he totally understood my misery.He showed me his pictures,i liked them,and i showed him mine,he liked those very much icon_smile.gif We exchanged numbers,and continued talking,he was very suportive.He also seemed to like me very much,and we always had fun talking on skype.

    But,a few days ago he called me to "hang out",and yes of course he meant sex,and i was excited,and a little scared,but happy,but...he told me he doesn't live alone (nether do i,i live with my mom,and no one knows that i have even the slightest gay in me),and he told me to come to his friends place (flat) where we could do it.But he mentioned there will be also 2 of his other friends there to,that means,with him included,it's 4 of them,and that they are all tops only and around the same age as him (46).He also said he showed them how i look (i have open profile on that site),and that he's friends think im very cute,and boyish,and that they like that.He was suggesting that we all cuddle a little,and that they could teach me real men love.He said that he will try and take my virginity,but we will cuddle only if i change my mind.He was very careful and thoughtful,and we talked a lot so i accepted.Also he insisted on safe sex beforehand,which i liked of him since now i know he worries about safety.

    But now,im actually a little scared,im overthinking all that is going to happen,and im unsure about all that stuff.I already prepared for that new expirience,because it's 2 days from now.I shaved my balls and butt,and legs cause he said im going to look way cuter like that,and,he was right,i do icon_smile.gif I showed him my new naked and shaved pics,and he was excited and he said i looked super cute and sexy,and that his friends saw me to,and that they can't wait to meet me.Also he said he bought some sexy panties for me,and that they are gonna look great on me.
    Im really horny these days,and can't wait for sex that i have been waiting for so long,it's just hard to imagine,i will be virgin no more,at least with men icon_biggrin.gif
    But,but,as i said,these days next to being horny all the time,im scared and unsure of all of this? Am i ready? Should i go to "hang out" with him and his friends or not.He seemed he doesnt want to pressure me for sex.I wonder how will it turn up to be.
    So im asking expirienced people here,cause i have doubts..should i try or not? icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 04, 2014 12:08 PM GMT
    This sounds like a wonderful opportunity to explore your sexuality whilst making new friends all at the same time.
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    Dec 04, 2014 1:55 PM GMT
    Let the gang-bang begin!



    That's what this is going to be when you get there...you and up to 4 guys, all fucking you.


    If that's what you are wanting, go for it! To each his own.


    But, if you're wanting intimacy and one-on-one, then do NOT go meet this guy!


    Chances are, he's cheating on his boyfriend/husband or his heterosexual wife!

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  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 04, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Sure. Go for it. I'm sure they will enjoy you and you will enjoy them.
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    Dec 04, 2014 6:14 PM GMT
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    Dec 04, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    tell someone where your going
    no big but avoid other people's video

    your first time should be a nice memory.
  • metta

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    Dec 04, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    I would not consider it. You don't know this person very well or any of these other guys. That does not sound like a very safe situation to me. Sorry, but reading about so many people getting harmed from hookups...I think people should be more careful on who and where they meet.

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  • twentyfourhou...

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    Dec 04, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    This can't be real...................If it is, this guy is playing into your innocence, youthfulness, and lack of experience. I suspect nothing good can come from it. There are much safer ways for you to explore this part of your sexuality without putting yourself at such physical and emotional risk.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 04, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    I wouldn't have any problem experimenting with one, but I think you are jumping too many hurtles too quickly. I'd encourage a meeting with just the guy you've gotten to know. You've developed some trust and reason with him.
    If you are going to get it, be reasonable to begin.
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    Dec 04, 2014 8:29 PM GMT
    twentyfourhourslater saidThis can't be real...................If it is, this guy is playing into your innocence, youthfulness, and lack of experience. I suspect nothing good can come from it. There are much safer ways for you to explore this part of your sexuality without putting yourself at such physical and emotional risk.


    This for sure. Until you gain more experience - and probably even then - always insist on meeting at a public place so you can leave if necessary. No "nice" guy is going to be sharing your pics with his friends and expecting you to meet them as a group. You may learn to enjoy being raped by multiple men but it is NOT a great way to start your sexual experiences.
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    Dec 04, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
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    LOL...sorry kid, catching that ball is moar important than dropping you on yer head...
  • bro4bro

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    Dec 04, 2014 8:32 PM GMT
    He just wants to use you for a fuck.

    And so do his friends.

    And there will be no changing your mind.

    They're gonna pound your ass.
  • Alex9333

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    bro4bro saidHe just wants to use you for a fuck.

    And so do his friends.

    And there will be no changing your mind.

    They're gonna pound your ass.


    Yeah it's real.Also these guys seem to be married and they have gatherings like this from time to time.That's why i trust them.They can't afford to risk it too.I guess? :/
    Also i this guy seemed legit,he seems like a normal guy that hides his urges because of marriage or society.
    Also,im going there for ass pounding,just i don't think all of them will do me?
    I mean im virgin,i don't think i can take that much.
  • FRE0

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    metta8 saidI would not consider it. You don't know this person very well or any of these other guys. That does not sound like a very safe situation to me. Sorry, but reading about so many people getting harmed from hookups...I think people should be more careful on who and where they meet.

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    ^^^ THIS ^^^

    Moreover, it's an understatement. If you go there, almost certainly you will regret it. Even if there are no physical or health consequences, the potential for emotional damage is huge. It appears that you don't even have a support system to help you deal with the consequences.
  • FRE0

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:43 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI wouldn't have any problem experimenting with one, but I think you are jumping too many hurtles too quickly. I'd encourage a meeting with just the guy you've gotten to know. You've developed some trust and reason with him.
    If you are going to get it, be reasonable to begin.


    He doesn't sound like someone whom it would be constructive for you to get to know. Rather, he sounds like someone from whom you should run as quickly as possible and as far as possible.
  • FRE0

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    Alex9333 said
    bro4bro saidHe just wants to use you for a fuck.

    And so do his friends.

    And there will be no changing your mind.

    They're gonna pound your ass.


    Yeah it's real.Also these guys seem to be married and they have gatherings like this from time to time.That's why i trust them.They can't afford to risk it too.I guess? :/
    Also i this guy seemed legit,he seems like a normal guy that hides his urges because of marriage or society.
    Also,im going there for ass pounding,just i don't think all of them will do me?
    I mean im virgin,i don't think i can take that much.


    Why would you trust anyone who does things behind his wife's back? People who have no respect for their wives are unlikely to have any respect for you.
  • Alex9333

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:47 PM GMT
    I got that thing emotionally severed,i plan to go there for sex only,to try it.Even if i have a rough sex i will just go over those emotions.Im actually more worried for physical consequences.And i mean like damage,not stds,cause these guys seem to worry about protection a lot.Maybe because they are all married or smthing?
  • Alex9333

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    Dec 04, 2014 9:49 PM GMT
    Sadly,bi or gay men of that,and around that age,are all taken.At least in my county finding guys that age and single is near impossible.I did actualy found one guy,but he wasn't living alone,and i live with my mom and bro.
  • Kairr

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    Dec 05, 2014 12:57 AM GMT
    I would be suspicious/cautious even if in the best scenario, just simply be 4 married guys pounding your ass...

    It doesn't sound like you'll have much control over the situation once you get there.

    Be careful
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    Dec 05, 2014 1:33 AM GMT
    Alex9333 said
    bro4bro saidHe just wants to use you for a fuck.

    And so do his friends.

    And there will be no changing your mind.

    They're gonna pound your ass.


    im going there for ass pounding,just i don't think all of them will do me?
    I mean im virgin,i don't think i can take that much.

    You probably won't have a choice. Once they start (4 guys), all much bigger/stronger than you, you think they're gonna let you stop if you say you've had enough? It could turn into a rape at that point, and they know you can't complain to the police (you're in Serbia, after all.) One or two guys - yeah - someone in your situation who just wants to experience some some uninhibited sex (on their part) - that might be a good time. But 4? Too many. I wouldn't do it. If I were you, I would find some one-on-one situation to lose that virginity.
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    Dec 05, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    Dont give into pressure if you are even slightly hesitant about it. And make sure ground rules are set and you have an escape plan if you need it. But it sounds like a good opportunity. Just go with it if you want to. It's just sex.
  • Webster666

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    Dec 05, 2014 3:13 AM GMT
    twentyfourhourslater saidThis can't be real...................If it is, this guy is playing into your innocence, youthfulness, and lack of experience. I suspect nothing good can come from it. There are much safer ways for you to explore this part of your sexuality without putting yourself at such physical and emotional risk.


    I agree with this.
    You aren't ready for a hook up with FOUR guys, who all want to fuck you.
    Since you've never been fucked, do you even know how to hose out your butt hole, so that you would have room for a dick to fit in there ? Otherwise, it will hurt a LOT.
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    Dec 05, 2014 11:14 AM GMT
    Alex9333 saidSadly,bi or gay men of that,and around that age,are all taken.At least in my county finding guys that age and single is near impossible.I did actualy found one guy,but he wasn't living alone,and i live with my mom and bro.
    You're putting out all these reasons why you *want to do it* and *should* do it, such that you seem to be trying to get us to talk you out of it.

    You already know what you would like - you just need to ask for it and hold firm until this guy - or someone else - can provide that. As it is, I seriously doubt you're comfortable with it given all the energy you're putting forth in this thread.
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    Dec 05, 2014 12:58 PM GMT
    Sounds like trouble to me. Do you want your first gay experience to be being passed around by a bunch of guys who are only interested in using you? You're being played big time.

    And yes your first time is going to hurt and I don't think four horny guys are going to give a fuck and won't stop despite your pleading. You will be raped.

    Make your first time with someone who really cares about YOU
  • jocko

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    Dec 05, 2014 1:17 PM GMT
    You have to be really relaxed to be able to accept dick and to enjoy it. Sometimes the dick doesn't go easy in and in this case you need time and patience. It’s a process for both: bottom and top. And if it hurts you have to stop. The right top will understand and won't force it.

    If you are going to meet with three tops, I don’t think there will be a lot of patience and understanding in the room. I might be wrong, but this doesn’t sound good to me.

    And the first time should be with someone you like and you are intimate with.

    And one more advice: for the first time don’t choose a big dick. Choose average.