What do you do when you are clearly rejected?

  • infinitefrien...

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    Dec 06, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    How do you get over it?

    I feel like angry and like crap for not being good often as 'me'.

    Please help!
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    Dec 06, 2014 10:24 PM GMT
    Let him fist you more often.
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    Dec 07, 2014 2:30 PM GMT
    I become his friend if the reason for rejection was solely physical and if we have something in common.
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    Dec 07, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    Rejection is nothing more than a test for how we feel about ourselves. If rejection makes you feel like a loser then you do not believe in yourself and seriously need to work on your self esteem. Your primary relationship is with yourself. When you learn to be thankful for who you are and no longer seek validation from others to believe in yourself then all rejection says is that you are not his type. No one can be everyone's type.
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    Dec 07, 2014 4:17 PM GMT
    I don't give it a second thought. I realize not everyone is going to like me romantically

    There are entry of dicks in the sea. Keep fishing.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 07, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    People get "rejected" for a whole host of reasons. I may have a potential client who "rejects me" professionally and I end up not doing business with them.

    On a personal basis, we all can get rejected on some level and yeah, including a rejection from someone you might be interested in getting to know.

    If you have a positive self concept, the best thing to do is to remind yourself that everybody is different and that we all appeal to others (or not) differently. It doesn't mean somehow you are "lacking" or aren't good enough, it simply means that he (or she) may not value you in a way you'd want others to see you.

    Good reason to find somebody who does...
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 07, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidLet him fist you more often.

    Lol I wonder how many connect the dots.
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    Dec 07, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    you can never step inside someone's head. sure maybe he's not interested in you, and this is entirely acceptable. you can't expect everyone on the planet to be into you, just like you are definitely not into everyone you go out with.

    just remember that dating is about finding the right fit, and its better to move on, than to stay with something that isn't a good fit.





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    Dec 07, 2014 10:20 PM GMT
    Get used to it because there's billions of people on the planet and they won't all be interested in relationships or even friendships with you. It's just life.
  • AnonymousNYC

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    Dec 07, 2014 10:24 PM GMT
    Sounds similar to my story.. But rejection is a part of life we learn as children you're not gonna get everything you want
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 08, 2014 5:40 AM GMT
    Consider the fact that YOU, too are rejecting other people.

    Why wouldn't they be having equal right to do the same to you?

    Would you want to mess around with any dude/dudette who shows interest?

    SC
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    Dec 08, 2014 7:27 AM GMT
    Um... Move on? Plenty of other hot guys that would want you, regardless of what you look you look like. There's somebody for everybody.
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    Dec 08, 2014 7:41 AM GMT
    You just tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be and you move on. Don't mope or stalk the guy. I mean, I think there's someone out there for everyone. You just have to look hard for them.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 08, 2014 7:41 AM GMT
    So far it hasn't happened to me yet so I got nothing. Maybe adopt a puppy or dog.icon_idea.gif They give unconditional love.
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    Dec 08, 2014 7:45 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidSo far it hasn't happened to me yet so I got nothing. Maybe adopt a puppy or dog.icon_idea.gif They give unconditional love.


    LOl no don't, bad advice. I dated a guy with a dog, urg, it's messy and dirty and his dog licked him on his lip and he went straight to kissing me afterwards !!!! Ewwhhh !! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_redface.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 08, 2014 8:10 AM GMT
    Move on to the next one.
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    Dec 08, 2014 5:31 PM GMT
    Not a big deal to me. I move on
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    Dec 09, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    *You reject other guys to boost your ego back up?? A friend told me this. icon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_cry.gificon_neutral.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 10, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidYou just tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be and you move on. Don't mope or stalk the guy. I mean, I think there's someone out there for everyone. You just have to look hard for them.


    Good advice here. All of it is but this one is the one I most identify with. icon_smile.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 26, 2014 10:59 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 said
    MikemikeMike saidSo far it hasn't happened to me yet so I got nothing. Maybe adopt a puppy or dog.icon_idea.gif They give unconditional love.


    LOl no don't, bad advice. I dated a guy with a dog, urg, it's messy and dirty and his dog licked him on his lip and he went straight to kissing me afterwards !!!! Ewwhhh !! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_redface.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif


    A girl dumped me once. I forgot...hahaha
  • zalcland

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    Dec 26, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    It just happened to me. I was really interested in this guy and we seemed to click well / had a lot in common.

    However, he didnt seem keen on a second date even though he agreed to it.

    I Just stopped texting him. Got on Tinder, and right away there were 7 matches in a row for me. Plus 24 messages from grindr overnight.

    They are right when they say there are plenty of fish in the sea.
  • highforthis

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    Dec 26, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    Hell I wish guys rejected me more clearly. Instead I have to waste time trying to interpret their short replies lol
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    Dec 26, 2014 6:50 PM GMT
    highforthis saidHell I wish guys rejected me more clearly. Instead I have to waste time trying to interpret their short replies lol

    Interpretation not required. If the response is not overtly positive, it is a rejection.
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    Dec 26, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    zalcland saidIt just happened to me. I was really interested in this guy and we seemed to click well / had a lot in common.

    However, he didnt seem keen on a second date even though he agreed to it.

    I Just stopped texting him. Got on Tinder, and right away there were 7 matches in a row for me. Plus 24 messages from grindr overnight.

    They are right when they say there are plenty of fish in the sea.


    Ha, Tinder/Grindr, booty calls time bro!! icon_wink.gificon_redface.gif
  • highforthis

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    Dec 26, 2014 11:19 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge said
    highforthis saidHell I wish guys rejected me more clearly. Instead I have to waste time trying to interpret their short replies lol

    Interpretation not required. If the response is not overtly positive, it is a rejection.


    You give up too soon. Often a reasonable amount of persistence makes a huge difference.