Are you lonely?

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    Dec 08, 2014 2:39 AM GMT
    I am. I'm always lonely
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    Dec 08, 2014 3:11 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear that man. Hope you can find some ways to get out there and reach out to others and make some connections. Are you doing something to change this, because I imagine that doesn't feel very good.
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    Dec 08, 2014 3:50 AM GMT
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    Dec 08, 2014 3:53 AM GMT
    Yes, at the moment, especially when a lot of things are happening all the once and you have to deal with it all alone. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    I need someone to cuddle with to make me feel better. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Dec 08, 2014 3:59 AM GMT
    Loneliness used to hit me pretty hard in the winters. But I think i've gotten to the point of accepting i'll probably be on my own long term, and I've learned to embrace and enjoy it. I'm pretty happy with myself and have mostly realized that I dont need somebody external to fulfill me (as well as realizing that most people probably COULDN"T fulfill me). Now I'm finding if i feel lonely at all, it is usually late at night and just means I am very tired and need to sleep. That being said... I still hope/plan to one day get a doggie to make things even better. I think a dog could probably fulfill me much more than another person can. icon_smile.gif So no, I'm not lonely. At least not lately.

    But it used to hit me hard, and i recommend avoiding dating sites or hookup sites or anything like that when you are feeling lonely. That used to always be my trigger.
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    Dec 08, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
    ^^ Usually I'm able to think the same way, but some moments are pretty difficult.
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    Dec 08, 2014 4:09 AM GMT
    polfsky said^^ Usually I'm able to think the same way, but some moments are pretty difficult.


    yup, when it would hit me, it would hit me very hard, usually late at night. I don't know any solution other than just weathering the storm and being patient with your emotions. I'm sure it will hit me again at some point, but I'm pretty happy that I don't care anymore these days.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 08, 2014 4:10 AM GMT
    Most people who feel that way aren't adequately valuing the people who love them. Take inventory and be loving in return. Talk to people and don't go into your shell, your repetitive thoughts. You do know you're depressed, don't you? Sometimes you need a doctor to balance some chemicals. Check it out.
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    Dec 08, 2014 4:12 AM GMT
    This site is weird for loneliness too. On one hand, there are a lot of people who seem to have easily found and maintained long term relationships with other guys... something that mostly seems impossible from what I've experienced and seen personally.

    On the other hand, this site is also full of a huge amount of amazingly hot guys who have been single long term as well.

    It's a mystery to me.
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    Dec 08, 2014 4:16 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidMost people who feel that way aren't adequately valuing the people who love them. Take inventory and be loving in return. Talk to people and don't go into your shell, your repetitive thoughts. You do know you're depressed, don't you? Sometimes you need a doctor to balance some chemicals. Check it out.


    I guess i partly agree with this. It is important to really focus ont he people in your life who love you, it gets too easy to overlook that when you feel lonely, and diving deeper into those relationships can greatly enrich your life.

    That being said, sometimes loneliness is more intimate and personal than that...needing somebody to cuddle up with at the end of the day, or wanting somebody to be there. In my lonelier times I felt blessed with all my friendships and family but I still wanted somebody closer.

    Although, OP said he is always lonely, which can be a different beast.
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Dec 09, 2014 2:22 PM GMT
    im lonely because i cant find gay stuff//events around where I am...
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 09, 2014 2:35 PM GMT
    Join group activities, take a class. Look into common interest groups. Go back to school.
    Keeping oneself busy is a cure all.icon_idea.gif
  • MarvelBoy23

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    Dec 09, 2014 2:48 PM GMT
    IRFire66 saidThis site is weird for loneliness too. On one hand, there are a lot of people who seem to have easily found and maintained long term relationships with other guys... something that mostly seems impossible from what I've experienced and seen personally.

    On the other hand, this site is also full of a huge amount of amazingly hot guys who have been single long term as well.

    It's a mystery to me.



    Trust me, nothing about being with someone else is easy, and it doesn't mean you won't feel loneliness anymore either. Sometimes you can be surrounded by friends and still feel entirely alone... icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 09, 2014 4:38 PM GMT
    I have plenty of problems.LonelinessAint one.I can occupy my time in many ways.I have a lot of friends but just curling up with a good movie,a book or newspaper and my dog is enough for me.That being said I do socialize quite a bit.
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    Dec 09, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
    I never feel lonely , maybe it comes for the fact that my field of work have kept me away from home many times .
    It easy for me to make friends , and i found the company of my 4 legged mates very fulfilling .icon_smile.gif
  • SENCGuy1

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    Dec 09, 2014 4:48 PM GMT
    I think from time to time the majority of us do feel lonely. How we deal with it is different depending on the person. I like calling friends and checking to see how they are; usually that helps me.
  • Deri245

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    Dec 09, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    always haha be nice to have someone to connect with
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    Dec 09, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we are not alone."~~Orson Welles

    Making friends with others can help to alleviate the feeling of being alone though, because we are alone, being singular beings, the best we can do is as Welles wonderfully put, we can create the illusion for ourselves that we are not alone.

    This is why even if you've lots of people in your life, people you love and who you know love you, you can still have a sense of being alone in the world, even while you are hand in hand with your loved ones.

    The sense of loneliness is not the same as the sense of being alone. The sense of being alone is outwardly directed but being lonely is a sense directed within. So all the friends in the world can't fix what making friends with yourself alleviates: the feeling of loneliness.

    Being alone is the sense that you are the only person in your skin.

    Not being lonely is the sense that you have a friend there, that you have a friend in yourself.


  • LutheranGuy

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    Dec 09, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    our culture get's lonelier by the day.
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    Dec 09, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    I have a dog, I love my dog.
  • Webster666

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    Dec 09, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    Never.
    I'm independent.
    I don't need other people to provide my happiness.
    I have a group of friends I see every once in a while.
    But, I love the peace and quiet of living alone, with nobody nagging at me.
    As for relationships, I'm sick of always being the giver, while getting nothing much in return.
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    Dec 09, 2014 11:16 PM GMT
    Yes, I don't like being single or lonely. There's another thread about single in the Holiday I created. But I do like my freedom sometimes. And there were guys in the past that wanted to get together but they weren't my type (1 latest guy emailed on FB). So, I rather be single than *Faking it being with someone just for the sake of it.
  • Kairr

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    Dec 10, 2014 12:29 AM GMT
    It always hit me around October every year...
    Usually lasts for about a month, for which during the period I become desperate for social/ intimate interactions.

    huh weird trendicon_confused.gif

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    Dec 10, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    Good convo