Imperfect Sex once a week.

  • AnonymKOIA

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    Dec 08, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    My boyfriend would have sex with me once a week. He says he is a strictly top, but he would let me fuck him because it wont be fair to me since I am a verse. He told me him and his ex were not penetrating each other a lot because his ex said gay sex is disgusting, I told him"I don't think so as I believe it seals everything together" but he disagreed with me saying his ex was correct. He is closeted, he lived with his ex in a two bed room apartment and slept in separate rooms so that people who visit them wont suspect anything. He found that his ex was cheating with one of his guests since they had separate bedrooms, he only realised after seeing the text from his ex's supposed visiting friend popping on his ex's iphone. It is hard for me to go days without sex. I am a very attractive guy, but I love him too much I know I would struggle to live with myself if I cheat on him, I am tempted though. I am 30 and I dont care if anyone finds out that I am gay, I am a freelancer.He is 26 and deeply closeted, he works as a Grant official at University.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 08, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    He's totally screwed up if your description is accurate. But then so are you if you put up with all this. There are a dozen red flags but probably the craziest is to be closeted working on a college campus. No one cares. To be employed by a college and still afraid to come out suggests serious self-image issues. (Assuming it isn't a religious/conservative college.) Some guys just aren't that into frequent sex. Just don't have the drive. Some don't like anal sex. Plenty of them here on this forum. Just know you really can't change someone. They are who they are. They can change themselves but only over time. You need to decide if the total package is what you want. You'll never meet anyone who is exactly what you think you want. That's half the fun. Being surprised by your guy and yourself. And then making it work for you both.
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    Dec 08, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    Interesting story.
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    Dec 08, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    Your boyfriend does not sound like a very fun person. He sounds like he has a lot of issues with himself and you are allowing them to become your issues. Rather than cheating, how about having a conversation with him about the way you are feeling? Let him know that you want more sex. Let him know you respect his decision to be closeted, if he is not ready to be more out, but that it may not be an arrangement you can live with indefinitely.
  • Webster666

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    Dec 09, 2014 12:00 AM GMT
    It appears that your boyfriend/partner is perfectly happy the way things are. But, obviously, you are not.

    You are in a very difficult situation that will never get better until you resign yourself to the fact that you need something better than this, and that the only way to get it is to break up.

    No relationship is better than an unhappy relationship.





  • Webster666

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    Dec 09, 2014 12:01 AM GMT
    PatrickRyan saidYour boyfriend does not sound like a very fun person. He sounds like he has a lot of issues with himself and you are allowing them to become your issues. Rather than cheating, how about having a conversation with him about the way you are feeling? Let him know that you want more sex. Let him know you respect his decision to be closeted, if he is not ready to be more out, but that it may not be an arrangement you can live with indefinitely.



    Excellent post.
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    Dec 09, 2014 12:03 AM GMT
    i cant see how a closeted/uncloseted relationship would ever last or be satisfying to either guy.