The best way to forget someone???

  • djhirokun

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    Dec 10, 2014 3:07 AM GMT
    So about a year ago or so, I started following this hot guy on Facebook. I thought he was one of those people that only posts photos and never comment on anything. In Mexico he is a bodybuilder, actor, fitness model and presenter. He even has his own show. One day in September of this year, he messages me and mentions that he is coming to Vegas with his sister to be in a show. I immediately fainted at the thought of him even messaging me. Eventually came the day when he arrived in Vegas. I thought we hit it off really good on the first day. That night he got super drunk and kept asking me to have sex with him. I refused because I'm not like that. I confessed to him how I really felt. He then told me that he really liked me and wanted to be more than friends. My mind totally exploded. The next day he said he remembers nothing on what happened or was said the night before. He stayed at my house for a week. He said in Mexico he can't show that he's gay but since he is visiting, he can do whatever. I actually thought someone hot liked me. He kept giving me mixed signals about where where stand. I was so sad and confused. Is there any way to forget about him? I had so much good memories with him that I don't want to forget the friendship part. He still messages me on an app but only when I message. Any advice?
  • LongJumper

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    Dec 10, 2014 3:17 AM GMT
    Should've smoked his D when you had the chance.
  • djhirokun

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    Dec 10, 2014 3:24 AM GMT
    We were in public. Besides I was more worried of his well being than sex. I just wanted a relationship with him buy never really thought of sex with him.
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    Dec 10, 2014 4:10 AM GMT
    Nope. If you can find a way to get over someone be sure and patent it and you'll be a millionaire. The quickest way is to severe ALL contact. No email, no text, no phone calls...nothing. Then just let time pass. It's not quick but it's the only way.
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    Dec 10, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidNope. If you can find a way to get over someone be sure and patent it and you'll be a millionaire. The quickest way is to severe ALL contact. No email, no text, no phone calls...nothing. Then just let time pass. It's not quick but it's the only way.


    How about move on to someone else? Doesn't that help more?
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    Dec 10, 2014 4:31 AM GMT
    polfsky said
    Scruffypup saidNope. If you can find a way to get over someone be sure and patent it and you'll be a millionaire. The quickest way is to severe ALL contact. No email, no text, no phone calls...nothing. Then just let time pass. It's not quick but it's the only way.


    How about move on to someone else? Doesn't that help more?



    I think that only works if you're just in love with the idea of being in love. If you're truly in love with someone I think it can make you miss them even more. At least that's the way it is for me.
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    Dec 10, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidNope. If you can find a way to get over someone be sure and patent it and you'll be a millionaire. The quickest way is to severe ALL contact. No email, no text, no phone calls...nothing. Then just let time pass. It's not quick but it's the only way.


    ^^^ this is the only way! Its hard… but perservier.
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    Dec 10, 2014 5:32 AM GMT
    An old saying:

    The best way to get over one guy is to get under another
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 10, 2014 6:08 AM GMT
    Usually facing the facts and being totally honest with yourself is a pretty good way ... there are a lot attractions and distractions on the path of life ... another will come up soon
  • Webster666

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    Dec 10, 2014 7:24 AM GMT
    Stop sending messages to him.
    He is not your friend.
    Go out and find someone who deserves you.
  • djhirokun

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    Dec 10, 2014 11:15 AM GMT
    Well, with my looks, finding a man is hard. I was just plain happy to be in his presence. He is always in my mind as I am training to look like him or even better. Despite what all my friends said about him, I still think he's the hottest guy on earth. Shortly after I posted this message, he sent me a message asking how I was doing. One thing is for sure is that he said with his busy lifestyle he has no time for relationships and the fact he's still in the closet. He said maybe in the future. Should I still remember those words or try my best to move on? I don't know whether or not I'm dillusional or optimistic.
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    Dec 10, 2014 1:51 PM GMT
    I guess it is different for everyone, but I know sometimes it can be long. time heal everything, be patient. Take it as an experience in your life and go forward, it is all in your head. There is nothing bad to have memories, but like many people said, there will be someone else for you, that will fit you more somewhere. be happy and stop thinking of what is impossible to get. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Kel_

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    Dec 10, 2014 6:10 PM GMT
    Lobotomy icon_twisted.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 10, 2014 6:22 PM GMT
    Come on buddy, man up. He's creating a career based on followers. While I'm sure he doesn't text everyone of them or stay with them, he's on the move and you were fun for his visit to Vegas. Stop acting like a little girl mooning over a boy-band idol. You've got a life to live.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Dec 10, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    zzzzzzzzzzzzzz good night JOHN BOY..
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    Dec 11, 2014 5:07 AM GMT
    Is to learn how to let go no matter how attached you are. A person who really wanta forget will.
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    Dec 11, 2014 6:47 AM GMT
    The best way to get over a guy is to get yourself a new one! Get yourself one that is better in bed than your last one.

    Believe me, you will not think about that other guy again.
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    Dec 11, 2014 9:06 AM GMT
    ^^^ Right on, love the advice above. I believe that. Furthermore, any sort of messy break ups or relationships in the past will only make you better and stronger as a person. You will eventually land a better version of a new boyfriend. icon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
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    Dec 11, 2014 5:36 PM GMT
    Just unfriend/block him in every app (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc) and let matters take their course.

    I did it and it worked.
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    Dec 11, 2014 9:43 PM GMT
    djhirokun saidWell, with my looks, finding a man is hard. I was just plain happy to be in his presence. He is always in my mind as I am training to look like him or even better. Despite what all my friends said about him, I still think he's the hottest guy on earth. Shortly after I posted this message, he sent me a message asking how I was doing. One thing is for sure is that he said with his busy lifestyle he has no time for relationships and the fact he's still in the closet. He said maybe in the future. Should I still remember those words or try my best to move on? I don't know whether or not I'm dillusional or optimistic.


    The bolded part above is your answer as to why you should stop sending messages! And as someone has already said, stop replying to him!
  • djhirokun

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    Dec 12, 2014 3:02 AM GMT
    While I'm over him relationship wise, I do want to remain friends. All I can say is that I probably got closer to him than most people do.I can actually say that I saw him naked and made out with a celebrity. I don't want to completely forget all about him. Some of you all gave good advice while others posted just to hear themselves talk. I just realised that one of my friends is a celebrity and I'm cool with that. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 12, 2014 5:26 AM GMT
    The more you try to forget him the harder it will be to forget him. Do you understand that riddle?

    In other words he will fade into the distance when you allow yourself to focus on those things that are important and relevant in your life.

    Admirable that you want to remain friends with him and quite mature of you that in your previous interaction sex took a back seat to your concern for his well being. But your friendship doesn't seem to be valued by him and if anything you are semi chasing him. Don't struggle to be anyone's friend.

    Can we have more gay guys and human being like you please!!!!???
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    Dec 12, 2014 5:41 AM GMT
    djhirokun saidSo about a year ago or so, I started following this hot guy on Facebook. I thought he was one of those people that only posts photos and never comment on anything. In Mexico he is a bodybuilder, actor, fitness model and presenter. He even has his own show. One day in September of this year, he messages me and mentions that he is coming to Vegas with his sister to be in a show. I immediately fainted at the thought of him even messaging me. Eventually came the day when he arrived in Vegas. I thought we hit it off really good on the first day. That night he got super drunk and kept asking me to have sex with him. I refused because I'm not like that. I confessed to him how I really felt. He then told me that he really liked me and wanted to be more than friends. My mind totally exploded. The next day he said he remembers nothing on what happened or was said the night before. He stayed at my house for a week. He said in Mexico he can't show that he's gay but since he is visiting, he can do whatever. I actually thought someone hot liked me. He kept giving me mixed signals about where where stand. I was so sad and confused. Is there any way to forget about him? I had so much good memories with him that I don't want to forget the friendship part. He still messages me on an app but only when I message. Any advice?


    Move on. He's not that into you. He needed a crash pad.

    You crushed on a closet case who saw you as a means to an end.

    Take the blinders off.
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    Dec 12, 2014 5:41 AM GMT
    lowfatguy saidJust unfriend/block him in every app (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc) and let matters take their course.

    I did it and it worked.


    Yeah, but, that's called be a jerk.
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    Dec 13, 2014 3:04 PM GMT
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    lowfatguy saidJust unfriend/block him in every app (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc) and let matters take their course.

    I did it and it worked.


    Yeah, but, that's called be a jerk.



    No, it's called protecting yourself and creating boundaries. You can't get over someone if they're constantly on your computer screen.