Liking someone who's already in a relationship?

  • evchado32

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    Dec 11, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    Anyone have any experience with this? I know it's kind of a shitty thing to do, but I really do like this guy(and he hasn't been dating the guy for very long). I know I would hate it if I was dating someone and somebody had a crush on them, but I would never do anything to intentionally try and damage their relationship.. With that being said, do I just continue on like normal or do I just need to drop out completely until my feelings disappear?
  • mybud

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    Dec 11, 2014 4:41 PM GMT
    You're trying to rationalize the situation... he hasn't dated him long..blah..blah..Like you said, you'd hate it if happened to you...Move on ,cause you're better than that.
  • LutheranGuy

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    Dec 12, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    evchado32 saiddo I just continue on like normal or do I just need to drop out completely until my feelings disappear?


    Continue on. Friendship is better than nothing.
  • Kalifornicati...

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    Dec 12, 2014 6:27 AM GMT
    mybud saidYou're trying to rationalize the face he hasn't date him long..blah..blah..Like you said, you'd hate it if happened to you...Move on ,cause you're better than that.



    This ^^^^ don't be a home wrecker and contribute to the gay stereo type. Let them enjoy what they have. If it all falls out then you can make your move.

    Put their feelings first, be the better man and make yours last. The universe will thank you.
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    Dec 12, 2014 8:31 AM GMT
    It's really a lost battle. You don't want to be a home wrecker, even if the guy is broken up, he needs time to heal. I'd say stay away from attached guys. YEs, even those in **open relationship.
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    Dec 12, 2014 2:17 PM GMT
    evchado32 said... but I would never do anything to intentionally try and damage their relationship ... do I just continue on like normal or do I just need to drop out completely until my feelings disappear?


    i think the OP is incapable of doing any damage.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 12, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    evchado32 said... but I would never do anything to intentionally try and damage their relationship ... do I just continue on like normal or do I just need to drop out completely until my feelings disappear?


    i think the OP is incapable of doing any damage.

    That wasn't very nice. Why the ugliness? He looks a hell of a lot better than you or your ugly partner.
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    Dec 12, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    i think he is very nice
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 12, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    The why make him feel ineffectual?
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    Dec 12, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    evchado32 saidAnyone have any experience with this? I know it's kind of a shitty thing to do, but I really do like this guy(and he hasn't been dating the guy for very long). I know I would hate it if I was dating someone and somebody had a crush on them, but I would never do anything to intentionally try and damage their relationship.. With that being said, do I just continue on like normal or do I just need to drop out completely until my feelings disappear?


    haha something like that happened to me. I had a crush on a friend of my friend, and he had a bf.
    Shortly after I'd realized of what was going on, I met someone else. He was more special, and I had much stronger feelings towards him. He became my bf <3

    And my crush on a friend of my friend vanished like it never happened. We are not friends, but I do see him a lot, either on parties, clubs, or school.



    Sooooo, just look somewhere else, and don't think about him too much
  • BloodFlame

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    Jun 05, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    I can't recall if I ever did fall for a guy who was in a relationships that I knew who was gay but definitely did for someone who was straight and had a girlfriend lol.

    IT's a sucky feeling and I think you shouldn't intrude on the guys relationship. How would you like it if a guy came between you and your boyfriend? It wouldn't feel good and so why would put that kind of feeling on someone else?

    Just move on. Believe me, it's for the best. I mean, I can understand the temptation because the rare time a guy (who's my type) expresses interest in me, he happens to be married or have a girlfriend. And each time it happens, that ball of temptation grows but I always think about the how the guys significant other would feel and it snaps me back to reality.

    We just have to keep living and hope we'll find that one guy who's unattached and have mutual attraction. It should happen one day if luck favors us. Haha anyway, best of luck OP.