Why is it OK to discriminate against race when it comes to dating but not age or sexual orientation?

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    Dec 12, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    Explain.
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    Dec 12, 2014 1:07 AM GMT
    You're new here aren't you? Who said it's "OK" to discriminate against any of those things? It's not, but people have preferences. You can't make someone like what they don't like.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Dec 12, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    Whoever discriminates anyone because of their race is a complete fucking idiot and deserves to be shot on sight.
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    Dec 12, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
    It depends. Plenty of ageism when it comes to dating. But yeah, I think people are critical about race than age.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 12, 2014 4:14 AM GMT
    Discrimination has to do with housing, jobs, politics and first and foremost, PUBLIC sphere.

    The freedom of association, in this context, has to do with the PRIVATE sphere.

    This translates into the the following:

    You must not deny housing/job/career to anyone based on their race, sex, age, etc., as long as they are legally capable of doing what they are set out to do.

    You are free to choose your friends, partners, mates, FwBs, FBs as YOU find fit.

    SC
  • Webster666

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    Dec 12, 2014 6:03 AM GMT
    You can't help what turns you on.
  • wesv

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    Dec 12, 2014 12:26 PM GMT
    Good question! I've wondered why it's ok to write things like "no Asians, no blacks" online but it's not ok to say things like "no bisexuals." Attraction has to do with personality and mentality as well. If a bi guy is constantly talking about tits or pussy to gay men, isn't that just rude? I've had that experience from a bi guy. It was his problem for making everything difficult. I don't know why when I ask "would you date a bi guy?" online everyone says "yes, anything but yes is discrimination." But when I ask this in person, I get a answers like "no." Several REAL gay men I've asked said they hated the experience where a bi guys would always crave pussy. My ex would always exclaim comments about women's tits. But it's not ok for me to say something as mild as "douchebag" around kids. Seriously they make no sense. Their logic is not even there. It also annoys me when bisexuals simply say they're gay. Why can't they say they're straight? They like the opposite sex too.
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    Dec 12, 2014 1:02 PM GMT
    Seriously, there used to be a time when such things used to bog me down. Over the time, I have realized you can't really do anything about it, either by shaming those who do such things or by looking for a logical justification.
    Yes, for gays the dating pool is small, but I am not going to lose my sleep over it. Sooner you accept the reality, easier it will be for you to get over it. Only thing I do in order to discourage such behaviour, is ignoring such guys who are very vocal about their preferences.
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    Dec 12, 2014 1:14 PM GMT
    Even though both issues are relatively similar people can't help but be hypocritical because they're mainly paying attention to discrimination that affects them personally. That's why people sometimes have the " I have it worst" contest. It's silly but I believe it's very accurate.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 12, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland saidWhoever discriminates anyone because of their race is a complete fucking idiot and deserves to be shot on sight.

    Haha +1
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    Dec 12, 2014 6:20 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland saidWhoever discriminates anyone because of their race is a complete fucking idiot and deserves to be shot on sight.


    A little extreme.
  • Sincityfan

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    Dec 12, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    Are you Black? You seem Black.
    These threads pop up all the time and are usually started by Black guys that want to date White guys but get rejected often.
    No offense?
  • 5100s

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    Dec 12, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    I find men of all races attractive, I find men from their late teens through their early 60s attractive (although I have to admit that I don't really go older than that), and it's fine with me if a guy is bisexual.

    But if a man just doesn't find men from certain races attractive, I think that's OK as long as he doesn't make disparaging remarks or treat the group in a derogatory fashion. I don't think there's any reason to make written reference to only being interested in white guys, for example, when it's just as easy not to respond to messages.

    You can't force somebody to be attracted to a person in whom they're not interested.
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 12, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    wesv saidGood question! I've wondered why it's ok to write things like "no Asians, no blacks" online but it's not ok to say things like "no bisexuals." Attraction has to do with personality and mentality as well. If a bi guy is constantly talking about tits or pussy to gay men, isn't that just rude? I've had that experience from a bi guy. It was his problem for making everything difficult. I don't know why when I ask "would you date a bi guy?" online everyone says "yes, anything but yes is discrimination." But when I ask this in person, I get a answers like "no." Several REAL gay men I've asked said they hated the experience where a bi guys would always crave pussy. My ex would always exclaim comments about women's tits. But it's not ok for me to say something as mild as "douchebag" around kids. Seriously they make no sense. Their logic is not even there. It also annoys me when bisexuals simply say they're gay. Why can't they say they're straight? They like the opposite sex too.


    I sorta understand. I guess the bisexual guy should realize that if he's dating a gay man, the gay man will not want to hear about tits and pussy and in turn, I guess this is where the "Choose a side" thing comes from. But I'm sure there are bisexual guys who can have a gay relationship and not bring up the kind of stuff and can be faithful to the partner.

    OP: Really, you can't do anything about it. I mean, you like what you like but I do think there are tactful ways of sharing your preference. As far as the race thing goes, I've seen so much on it that I just assume it really is just preference unless they couple their "no black/latinos/asians" comment with something offensive or derogatory. That's the only instance where I'd assume they are racist.

    As far as age goes, I feel it's the same too where you may have young guys who only prefer guys in their age range and vice versa with older men preferring other older men.
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    Dec 12, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    It's federal policy established by Obama care to discriminate based on age, sex and income. So go to it.
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    Dec 12, 2014 8:33 PM GMT
    Because age and sexual orientation, you can't really control it. You get older as you age. And you don't choose to be gay. You're born this way (like the Lady gaga song). As for discrimination with race when it comes to dating, this is a very complicated question to answer. I believe that most or all of us are a little bit *racist when it comes to our choices in men, whether it's preferences or whatever. A couple of guys said it here, you can't really control who you're sexually attracted to. The key thing is to be open-minded and don't be a super-mean douche?? just reject the guy and let him down easy and don't be mean. Try to have good dating karma. If you're open-minded and date outside your own circles/standards, you might be genuinely surprised. icon_biggrin.gif

  • FRE0

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    Dec 12, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidYou can't help what turns you on.


    Quite so, but making a point of getting to know people of other races often results in eliminating negative feelings and making them seem more attractive.
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    Dec 14, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
    This questions is wrong because people discrimate against all three. Most people date within a certain age range and many men won't their own age range. Also if a guy tells me he's straight I'm not going try to date him. In other words to me it makes sense to discriminate on age or sexual preference. And I suppose, some people discriminate based on race I'm just not one of them.

    He is a piece of advice for everyone. Choose among the people who are interested in you and stop trying to chase after people who aren't.
  • jtz03932

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    Dec 28, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    "It's not discrimination, it's just a preference."

    -White guy
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    Dec 28, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    "cosmicvyxxen said
    Why is it OK to discriminate against race when it comes to dating but not age or sexual orientation?



    I can't believe it - a totally original thread.