Are masculine bisexual men more open to dating feminine gay men?

  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 12, 2014 3:58 AM GMT
    I already know that most, if not all masculine gay men want only masculine men like themselves and don't want anything with a shred of fem in them. "If I wanted to date a fem, I'd date a woman". Fair enough...
    So do masculine bisexual men feel the same way or would they be more open to dating or having a relationship with a fem gay guy?

  • DrobUA

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    Dec 12, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    Most the masculine bisexual men I know are bottoms that want someone bigger than them, just my personal experience.
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 12, 2014 7:19 PM GMT
    DrobUA saidMost the masculine bisexual men I know are bottoms that want someone bigger than them, just my personal experience.


    I see... Well, I guess it would make sense.

    englishdude saidIm not exactly feminine nor masculine but to me no matter if your feminine or masculine as long as you like me for me and are a committing type then ill be happy.


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    Dec 12, 2014 8:14 PM GMT
    Bisexuals come as diverse as any other human beings. Diverse preferences, diverse identities, diverse fetishes, etc
  • NoLimitsss

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    Dec 12, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    I'd say I'm a very masculine bisexual guy, and I'd date both masculine and feminine guys. As long as he made me happy! I don't think bisexuals are more likely than gay guys to date feminine guys just because they're also attracted to femininity, though (if that's what you're asking?). A feminine guy is still very much a guy to me.

    If that makes sense haha.
  • Nhlakz

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    Dec 12, 2014 9:08 PM GMT
    To the op...u should move to South Africa as its viewed ok"if a fem guy dates a mascular guy"...its very rare u see a gay couple that doesnt look stereotypical...but it happens...and yes bi people do date fem guys...as there are more at ease with there gender,wants and what not compare to us gay men
  • ROYCE13

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    Dec 12, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    Hi there fellows, I have been off the site for a long bit, but on today and noticed the topic. I read the few responses and then looked at the age group of the replies so far, and since many of you are in your 20's , it makes sense of the point of views. I am bi and most of the time have to deal with everyones idea of what bi it (I do not go around saying I am bi, gay or straight) but being bi confuses all the above and ourselves at times. But the point is , regarding sexuality, there are no generalizations, and it takes time, experience and research to know this. Also as you state being fem is also subjective to many people and there are no norms as well. Not all fem men are fem in dress etc... so then they all are different as well. I do not like the word fem. and mass and or straight and never use them to describe myself or what I am looking for, but for your FYI since this is a forum, I am not attracted to men who cross dress or are fem in behavior, I am attracted to very fem women yet who are strong and confident. So you can read what you like into all I presented. Also a man that is fem is not always in to dressing fem or wearing make up and or cross dressing etc... So that is why the word fem is not really productive. I only bothered to stop by and present since you all have valid thoughts but maybe have not experienced enough to know the world is just too big and yet to small and when you think you know something, you find out that you do not and that can be applied to most things beyond this topic. So just some food for thought.
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    Dec 12, 2014 10:37 PM GMT
    ROYCE13 saidHi there fellows, I have been off the site for a long bit, but on today and noticed the topic. I read the few responses and then looked at the age group of the replies so far, and since many of you are in your 20's , it makes sense of the point of views. I am bi and most of the time have to deal with everyones idea of what bi it (I do not go around saying I am bi, gay or straight) but being bi confuses all the above and ourselves at times. But the point is , regarding sexuality, there are no generalizations, and it takes time, experience and research to know this. Also as you state being fem is also subjective to many people and there are no norms as well. Not all fem men are fem in dress etc... so then they all are different as well. I do not like the word fem. and mass and or straight and never use them to describe myself or what I am looking for, but for your FYI since this is a forum, I am not attracted to men who cross dress or are fem in behavior, I am attracted to very fem women yet who are strong and confident. So you can read what you like into all I presented. Also a man that is fem is not always in to dressing fem or wearing make up and or cross dressing etc... So that is why the word fem is not really productive. I only bothered to stop by and present since you all have valid thoughts but maybe have not experienced enough to know the world is just too big and yet to small and when you think you know something, you find out that you do not and that can be applied to most things beyond this topic. So just some food for thought.


    well...

    don't you yourself seem to confuse pansexuality with bisexuality?
    As for the people who are into cross-dressers or into cross-dressing, well I think it is more of a fetish. And sure you can argue with me on those points icon_smile.gif since it is all more about definitions of definitions, more than anything.

    Plus there are transgendered people, transsexuals, queergender and two spirited people, and all mean different things.

    And no, you CANNOT go and name them all fem guys.
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 12, 2014 10:46 PM GMT
    NoLimitsss saidI'd say I'm a very masculine bisexual guy, and I'd date both masculine and feminine guys. As long as he made me happy! I don't think bisexuals are more likely than gay guys to date feminine guys just because they're also attracted to femininity, though (if that's what you're asking?). A feminine guy is still very much a guy to me.

    If that makes sense haha.


    No, you made sense. And I guess you're right. I just assumed they might be open to it since they most likely already had experience with a female but I guess they can be just as wanting masculine just as much as a gay man would.

    Man, I wish aliens were real lol

  • budri7

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    Dec 12, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    just be urself and see if poeple like u or not...i have to go poo now
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 13, 2014 12:12 AM GMT
    budri7 saidjust be urself and see if poeple like u or not...i have to go poo now


    Yeah, no luck with that so far but thank you. Be sure to flush twice.
  • stratavos

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    Dec 13, 2014 12:58 AM GMT
    purely depends on the person.
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    Dec 13, 2014 2:02 AM GMT
    I would date a feminine guy as long as he liked me for me. Also I don't know if it's just me but in my experience masculine bi guys that are tops really like feminine guys.
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 13, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    Soccerboi saidI would date a feminine guy as long as he liked me for me. Also I don't know if it's just me but in my experience masculine bi guys that are tops really like feminine guys.


    Seems pretty rare though. Most bisexual guys from what I've seen are bottoms. lol
  • buddycat

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    Dec 13, 2014 10:43 AM GMT
    There is no standard and just depends. There are masculine guys that like guys more feminine. I have talked with someone who claimed to be bi who said he would like a pre-op transexual since they are a little bit of both. From what I have been told, masculine guys that go with more feminine types are almost always top. I have seen this thing where a guy claims to be bi and is a bottom. I am wondering how "bi" they are really though.
  • ASHDOD

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    Dec 13, 2014 10:59 AM GMT
    i think there are no rules,some do,some dont.
  • buddycat

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    Dec 13, 2014 11:17 AM GMT
    englishdude said
    buddycat saidThere is no standard and just depends. There are masculine guys that like guys more feminine. I have talked with someone who claimed to be bi who said he would like a pre-op transexual since they are a little bit of both. From what I have been told, masculine guys that go with more feminine types are almost always top. I have seen this thing where a guy claims to be bi and is a bottom. I am wondering how "bi" they are really though.

    As in are they just after the physical sex or the emotional side of things ?


    I am not really sure. Maybe both depending on the individual?
  • taylorjp

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    Dec 13, 2014 4:59 PM GMT
    BloodFlame saidI already know that most, if not all masculine gay men want only masculine men like themselves and don't want anything with a shred of fem in them. "If I wanted to date a fem, I'd date a woman". Fair enough...
    So do masculine bisexual men feel the same way or would they be more open to dating or having a relationship with a fem gay guy?

    it depends every person is different most of the bi men i know are into "straight acting"
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 13, 2014 5:14 PM GMT
    Some are. But I recently hung out with a gay couple and they were both fem and were so cute together. They practically had their own language which they spoke together. It made me think that you shouldn't just search for a masc guy. You should stay open minded because you could end up with someone who's also fem and still have everything you could want in a relationship.icon_smile.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 13, 2014 5:18 PM GMT
    P.S. keep in mind that fem doesn't mean weak. It was drag queens that led the stonewall uprising and liberated the gay movement for masc men, lesbians, bisexuals, etc. Those ladies were the original fierce.
  • buddycat

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    Dec 13, 2014 8:14 PM GMT
    I think people have a point here. I have heard this before that two femme guys may be more compatible because they have more in common. I personally have not had standards like this, been with guys more masculine and some more queeny with a lisp. Personally, the masculine seeking same types are a turn off to me since I first of all don't think they are as masculine as they claim, maybe have to deal with their own internalized homophobia, and what is masculine is so subjective even within the straight community. I don't consider myself neither masculine nor feminine, but somewhere in the middle.
  • nicebritguy

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    Dec 13, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    I would be rather stupid to arrive at a conclusion that masculine bisexual men are more likely to want a feminine guy. It varies to the extent of the amount of bisexual men.
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    Dec 13, 2014 9:25 PM GMT
    DrobUA saidMost the masculine bisexual men I know are bottoms that want someone bigger than them, just my personal experience.


    Sounds good to me. Send them my way icon_smile.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 14, 2014 12:05 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidSome are. But I recently hung out with a gay couple and they were both fem and were so cute together. They practically had their own language which they spoke together. It made me think that you shouldn't just search for a masc guy. You should stay open minded because you could end up with someone who's also fem and still have everything you could want in a relationship.icon_smile.gif

    P.S. keep in mind that fem doesn't mean weak. It was drag queens that led the stonewall uprising and liberated the gay movement for masc men, lesbians, bisexuals, etc. Those ladies were the original fierce.


    I have tried to get to see myself with another fem guy and attempted to see if I could develop something for another one about twice but there was just no "spark". As I think more to myself, although I may look fem and have some of the traits (being submissive, reserved, take more time to get ready, tighter clothes) but I also don't mind getting dirty or fighting or video games (I know this isn't a masculine trait) and so on. I feel androgynous would be the best word for me. But with that said, I would prefer someone more dominant than me. In other words, I don't think I could date someone more fem than I am if that makes sense.

    And yes, I know Drag Queens were the real self starters of the LGBT community. The Stone Wall movement was quite an interesting read.

  • Svnw688

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    Jan 28, 2015 10:51 PM GMT
    I'd imagine it depends on the guy. Don't over-analyze it. Things like this seem to workout best when left alone.