When your ex is getting married

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    Dec 14, 2014 5:42 AM GMT
    I have a friend thats all sad because his ex is getting married I tried to cheer him up but to no avail. It made me think of how to deal with an ex is getting married and moving on with their lives and youre not (or you are but not to the point of getting married).

    So has this ever happened to you? What did you do?
  • Webster666

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    Dec 14, 2014 7:34 AM GMT
    When my father married, the second time, my mother (who knew the woman) said, "They deserve each other !"
    LOL.
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    Dec 14, 2014 7:49 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidWhen my father married, the second time, my mother (who knew the woman) said, "They deserve each other !"
    LOL.

    Thats funny but bitter. Why people always assume the ex and the new partner are bad? Maybe they're great and you're the ex because you weren't that good.
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    Dec 14, 2014 7:55 AM GMT
    Treat it like any other break up. Every cliche'd thing people say about break ups, loss, and moving on are all true. Don't facebook stalk him, don't call, don't attend the wedding. Focus on your new single life and.... well... You get the point
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    Dec 14, 2014 8:09 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidDavid created this thread so that when people talk of their experiences he can turn it against them.

    shut up idiot
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    Dec 14, 2014 3:08 PM GMT
    So has this ever happened to you? What did you do?[/quote]

    I was happy with my ex. Ofcourse it sucked our relationship post his marriage meant we couldn't be in each other's live anymore. But was happy for him. He gave me so many wonderful memories that I will always cherish. We couldn't work out for a number of reasons and I am over wishing for what if's.
    He's married now and living his life and I wish him the best. He deserves to be happy and if your friend's ex was a god buy your friend should have nothing but best wishes for him.
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    Dec 14, 2014 8:03 PM GMT
    be happy you decided NOT to get married
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    Dec 15, 2014 3:13 AM GMT
    pellaz saidbe happy you decided NOT to get married

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    Dec 15, 2014 8:02 AM GMT
    My ex ( we remained friends after we called it quits because it just wasn't working for either of us) got married and I attended the wedding and was very happy for him. Lots of free drinks at the reception after icon_biggrin.gif. It pays sometimes not to burn those bridges ha ha.
  • CAtoFL

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    Dec 15, 2014 5:09 PM GMT
    I'm with DavePHX. My ex (we were together seven years) is getting married to his new BF next month. If you really love someone, you're happy for their happiness. There's nothing to be bitter about. He and I didn't work out. Am I supposed to wish him loneliness the rest of his life?

    I think the best bet is to move on with your own life and to be happy when the ones you love find love.
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    Dec 15, 2014 5:36 PM GMT
    That has happened to me. The thing to do: be happy for them.

    It's called a "break up" because it's broken. There wasn't enough to hold it together, and both of you (hopefully) move on. Marriage is something to celebrate!
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    Dec 15, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMove on.


    +1

    I think if you are not happy for them, then there it is more about you being unhappy with your own life. If your ex getting married indicates some sort of door closing on an opportunity, or unearths a lot of regrets, then you have some work you've got to do on yourself.
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    Dec 15, 2014 9:43 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    PatrickRyan said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMove on.


    +1

    I think if you are not happy for them, then there it is more about you being unhappy with your own life. If your ex getting married indicates some sort of door closing on an opportunity, or unearths a lot of regrets, then you have some work you've got to do on yourself.


    ^ Well said,bud.


    +2, agreed with these 2 guys. If you're not happy with yourself, then no man can make you happy. Beside, if you're upset/sad that your ex is married, then you're not really over him emotionally. Cut it out of your system 100%. It's just healthier.
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    Dec 16, 2014 1:16 AM GMT
    Hopefully not what this guy appears to be doing:
    http://news.yahoo.com/tv-station-5-dead-shootings-near-philadelphia-152031628.html
    Blow away the ex and attempt to exterminate the ex's whole family icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 16, 2014 5:24 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMove on.


    ^Best answer ever.
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    Dec 16, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    Assuming I'm invited, I just show up with guy hotter than the marrying couple. Gay people hate when that happens.
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    Dec 16, 2014 6:55 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAssuming I'm invited, I just show up with guy hotter than the marrying couple. Gay people hate when that happens.


    Because most gay couple like to compare themselves and their relationships with other gay couples, and for me, you know you're in the wrong relationship for stupid reasons such as that.
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    Dec 17, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
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    UndercoverMan saidAssuming I'm invited, I just show up with guy hotter than the marrying couple. Gay people hate when that happens.


    Because most gay couple like to compare themselves and their relationships with other gay couples, and for me, you know you're in the wrong relationship for stupid reasons such as that.


    A sign of intelligence is the ability to understand humor. No where in my statement did I indicate I was in a relationship with the hot guy. I'd probably get a muscled rent boy for the day. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 18, 2014 12:05 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidWhen I'm faced with seeing an ex for what might be the last time (such as a court appearance) I try to shake hands or make a pleasant remark.......something positive for them to remember me by. Even at a settlement conference where one of my exes and his very expensive attorney had raked me over the coals and were taking me to the cleaners, I managed to shake hands, smile pleasantly and say something like, "Best of everything to you". Make sure you're looking great, and let your winning smile be their last memory of you. Same if they're getting married. Send them a very good bottle of champagne with your best wishes.

    The more positive vibes you send out into the world, the more you get in return.


    ^ this is a very nice advice
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    Dec 18, 2014 12:05 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAssuming I'm invited, I just show up with guy hotter than the marrying couple. Gay people hate when that happens.


    good one
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    Dec 18, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    Varus said
    UndercoverMan saidAssuming I'm invited, I just show up with guy hotter than the marrying couple. Gay people hate when that happens.


    Because most gay couple like to compare themselves and their relationships with other gay couples, and for me, you know you're in the wrong relationship for stupid reasons such as that.

    the guy is getting married to a girl
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    Dec 18, 2014 1:59 AM GMT
    David3K saidthe guy is getting married to a girl


    he saved you from a life of hell.
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    Dec 18, 2014 5:03 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    David3K saidthe guy is getting married to a girl

    he saved you from a life of hell.

    Dont you read? This happened to a friend of mine not me
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 18, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    Play him that song ... Hazell Dean..Searchiin looking for love.. I got to find me a man.
    Move on down the line. Time heals all.icon_idea.gif

    That song is an 80's gay anthem!! YouTube it now!!icon_cool.gif
  • Apparition

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    Dec 27, 2014 6:31 AM GMT
    Im kind of not happy that my ex is still single even when he broke up with me. He is honest and decent.