Is this guy at the gym gay?


  • Dec 15, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    I'm 24 and this all started about 2 months ago. This kid at my gym, probably the same age, started staring at me. Didn't think much of it at first, maybe he was just admiring my body, but it continued. Weeks went on and I would keep catching him staring and when we would make eye contact he would look away fast.

    As a closeted guy I'm kind of cautious and also a little shy. Also, he has earphones on at all times making it hard for me to strike up a convo with him. Anyways, after a while i started to look at him as well. Occasionally i would even go over to do a machine near him and glance over at him. We would exchange looks and look away fast. This went on for a few weeks and then he completely stopped looking at me. Almost like he was avoiding me. So i took the hint, I misjudged the situation, right? Nope. After that i started ignoring him and for the past week of me doing that, his looking at me started once again. Today it got even more intense. The gym was empty and we were both there. He kept looking at me every chance he got. Every time he would go to lay down on the bench before a set he would turn around to look at me first. At one point we even made eye contact and it took a few seconds before either of us looked away.



    So what do you guys think? Is he gay? Into me? or am i just looking too far into things?
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    Dec 15, 2014 12:57 AM GMT
    Next time you make eye contact, why not just smile and say hey what's up. There's no harm in doing that.

  • Dec 15, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    Go for it..what do you have to loose? If he wants to go for a coffee or something awesome..if he is not interested, try to have it set up in a way that you can laugh it off if he says no.. "Hey noticed we work out a lot together, wanna head for lunch later?" Or even simpler " hey could you spot me for a sec?". Go for it man, no regrets
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    Dec 15, 2014 2:11 AM GMT
    He's probably on Grindr. Install it on your phone and send him a message. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 15, 2014 2:36 AM GMT
    Yes. He's gay and probably closeted. Perfect match. Go for it. If you don't, you'll be lonely and single forever. Do it.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2014 2:53 AM GMT
    "He just doesn't give off those gay vibes at all."

    He sounds gay by the way he eye fucks you at the gym.icon_surprised.gif
  • bro4bro

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    Dec 15, 2014 3:45 AM GMT
    Definitely gay.

    It can be hard to approach a guy who's wearing headphones. Luckily he's there every day so you don't really have to approach him with a "line" or try to start a conversation.

    Just start acknowledging him with a nod, a wave, a smile. Do it every time you see him. He may be shy at first but eventually he'll respond. And soon enough the conversation will start itself.

    The thing to always keep in mind is he's just as insecure about it as you are.
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    Dec 15, 2014 4:42 AM GMT
    "slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2014 4:51 AM GMT
    leafgreen said"slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?

    Idk but I wouldn't be surprised if the word slim in reference to men's apparel will be a major clue in solving this case.

    Or even that he waxes his eyebrows.
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    Dec 15, 2014 4:57 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said"slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?

    Idk but I wouldn't be surprised if the word slim in reference to men's apparel will be a major clue in solving this case.

    Or even that he waxes his eyebrows.


    maybe waxing his eyebrows can help his lift??

    (idk what a man with waxed brows look like either)
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2014 5:02 AM GMT
    leafgreen said
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said"slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?

    Idk but I wouldn't be surprised if the word slim in reference to men's apparel will be a major clue in solving this case.

    Or even that he waxes his eyebrows.


    maybe waxing his eyebrows can help his lift??

    (idk what a man with waxed brows look like either)

    Have you seen Angelina Jolie in Maleficent?
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    Dec 15, 2014 5:04 AM GMT
    Just watch scenes from Jersey Shore. All those dudes have their brows plucked or waxed.

  • Dec 15, 2014 5:07 AM GMT
    training sweats are sweat pants that are slim around the legs rather than baggy. soccer players usually wear them in practice.
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    Dec 15, 2014 5:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said"slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?

    Idk but I wouldn't be surprised if the word slim in reference to men's apparel will be a major clue in solving this case.

    Or even that he waxes his eyebrows.


    maybe waxing his eyebrows can help his lift??

    (idk what a man with waxed brows look like either)

    Have you seen Angelina Jolie in Maleficent?


    angelina jolie is a man>???
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2014 5:19 AM GMT
    leafgreen said
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said
    HottJoe said
    leafgreen said"slim training sweats"

    what's a training sweats??? towels?

    Idk but I wouldn't be surprised if the word slim in reference to men's apparel will be a major clue in solving this case.

    Or even that he waxes his eyebrows.


    maybe waxing his eyebrows can help his lift??

    (idk what a man with waxed brows look like either)

    Have you seen Angelina Jolie in Maleficent?


    angelina jolie is a man>???

    No but she's androgynous in that movie and men with (overly?) waxed eyebrows can look similarly androgynous.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    liftingdude911 saidtraining sweats are sweat pants that are slim around the legs rather than baggy. soccer players usually wear them in practice.

    Hot
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    Dec 15, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    Awhile back my workout buddy mentioned that a particular youngish guy, maybe 25, always seemed to be watching me at the gym although I had never noticed and don't pay attention to other people there. Anyways after him tell me this I began to notice in the mirrors while we were working out that he was looking over towards us but as soon as I'd turn around he would quickly turn his head or look down at his mp3. Same if I walked across the gym to the water fountain, he'd be watching but as soon as I turned around to walk back his head snaps back the other direction. . We figure he's a closet case and likes old guys.. who knows.
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Dec 27, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    Maybe he is just weirdo.