Ever had a guy seem uninterested and later actually prove you wrong about him?

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    Dec 19, 2014 7:07 AM GMT
    Hi, first post here!
    Long story short: After two meets, he says he's "sporadic" in wanting and not wanting a relationship and thinks it'd be best to be friends. So, I was basically friendzoned, but pathetically hoping he will want to date me some time soon :/ *he may be ready and consistent in the future, right?* ugh... Well, he wanted to eat Navajo tacos on Saturday as he's never had it before and said he's inviting his friends to eat with us ('cause you know, just friends and all). Well, tonight I texted saying I don't think that's a good idea. I like him too much and don't want to get to know him as just friends while he gives others a dating chance. icon_confused.gif

    I guess I'm just bummed right now and want to know if anyone has had a guy seem uninterested yet later on end up pleasantly surprising him? I know my case is pretty much a lost cause :/ but I wonder if anyone has had any luck in similar situations?

    TL;DR: success stories needed icon_mad.gif


    Sorry, I meant to post this to dating and relationships... next time I'll know icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 19, 2014 7:09 AM GMT
    oh hunny ... they're ALL interested icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 19, 2014 10:49 AM GMT
    No

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    Dec 19, 2014 11:06 AM GMT
    It's usually the opposite...icon_surprised.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 20, 2014 10:13 PM GMT
    The dude has friendzoned you for a reason.

    He could have completely ignored you after your two "dates', and moved on.

    Yet, he wants to keep his options open which happens to be wise from his point of view.

    Only you can decide if you want to be put on hold until he makes sure that there is no one around better suited to be his BF.

    IMHE, such friends have a chance of ending being either FBs or FwBs. If this suits you, give it a chance...

    Otherwise, do not waste your time.

    SC
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    Dec 20, 2014 10:18 PM GMT
    This is a playing game mind set. I don't want to sound harsh but my tolerance for playing game is zero. Say a guy said he's interested and into me, he needs to back it up and prove it within a time frame. If he ends up ignoring my text or phone calls and casually text or call me later, I'll just be like **Who is this? Sorry !! A lot of guys are just pussy nowadays and can't make the commitment. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 22, 2014 12:28 AM GMT
    IF you are okay with playing this kind of game, then go for it but personally, I feel that if he is going to do this to you, then you are entitled to do it back. What I mean is that if he is going to keep you in the "waiting" zone, you should go out and meet other men too. That way, it doesn't feel like anything was lost.
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    Dec 22, 2014 6:38 AM GMT
    BloodFlame saidIF you are okay with playing this kind of game, then go for it but personally, I feel that if he is going to do this to you, then you are entitled to do it back. What I mean is that if he is going to keep you in the "waiting" zone, you should go out and meet other men too. That way, it doesn't feel like anything was lost.


    Good answer, this reminds me of the song **Put a Ring on it!!** If you don't have a ring on your finger, you're single and you're allowed to do whatever. Guess, I'm jaded in gay-dating enough to know this. icon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 22, 2014 6:55 PM GMT
    Thanks! Well that night that I broke things off, he only seemed a little saddened and ended the short convo with an "I understand, maybe someday, right?" We haven't talked since.
  • williamgeo

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    Dec 22, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    About 12 months ago I was upset over a guy who I thought had completely forgotten I existed. He Facebook messaged me a few days ago asking if he and I could ever become a couple....but alas...I'm heartbroken over someone else now and have no interest in him anymore. It's a funny old world. So yes, people can surprise you, but it almost always happens after you've moved on and genuinely have no interest in them anymore.