Wanting to Be More Than Friends? Spending a Lot of Time with New Friend

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    Dec 20, 2014 9:36 PM GMT
    I'm wondering about a new friend I've made and whether he might like me as more of a friend. I met him online with the intention of making more friends but after we first met discovered we have a lot of things in common with each other.

    Since then he's been spending a lot of time with me, like everyday during the weekend almost since that first meeting a few months ago. I think he pretty cute and it might be worthwhile to explore dating each other but I'm not sure if he feels the same way (There's been times when I've gotten mixed signals from him)

    The best way it to just be upfront and ask but how? That can be a trick situation and make things awkward if not done the right way.... It might even scare him away. Not sure....

    Any advice?
  • Bunjamon

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    Dec 20, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    If you're willing to risk the friendship in order to try the possibility of dating, go ahead and ask him. If he doesn't feel the same way as you, the relationship will likely go sour after your revelation and you will have lost a friend. Sometimes it's worth it, and sometimes it's not. Only you can decide what you want.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 20, 2014 10:06 PM GMT
    You know your new friend much better than anyone here.

    Some people may not be happy if they are asked to date/be bfs, etc. They shun commitment, and probably do not understand fully how such a thing may change their lives.

    The others would tend to equate dating another guy with being more or less openly gay. Not everyone out there is willing or ready to take that step.

    A cool approach here may be to let the nature take its course without much talk and debate. We all get horny, and need a release. If you let one thing lead to another, you'll have something to build upon later on.

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    Dec 21, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidYou know your new friend much better than anyone here.

    Some people may not be happy if they are asked to date/be bfs, etc. They shun commitment, and probably do not understand fully how such a thing may change their lives.

    The others would tend to equate dating another guy with being more or less openly gay. Not everyone out there is willing or ready to take that step.

    A cool approach here may be to let the nature take its course without much talk and debate. We all get horny, and need a release. If you let one thing lead to another, you'll have something to build upon later on.


    +1

    Play it by ear.

    You spend a lot of time together - so you must talk. Talk about your goals/wants/being gay?

    I assume he is gay, (and he knows you know he's gay?)

    If he ever asks what you want - "a boyfriend - someone like you."

    Old-fashioned, but alcohol lubricates the emotions as well as talk - Not suggesting getting drunk - but a drink or two on an evening watching the tube together might reveal something.