How much boyfriend fat gain = breakup?

  • Noeton

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    Dec 21, 2014 12:00 AM GMT
    Just curious what other guys think. Thankfully this never happened to me. Say you are together with a partner that you really love, but they keep eating getting fatter and fatter -- despite your efforts to show them that it's bad for their health, etc. At what point would their fatness reach 'critical mass' and you would have to breakup the relationship? Or would you stay no matter what? I'm not sure what I would do... but 30 extra pounds of fat would probably be more than I could take!
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    Dec 21, 2014 6:55 AM GMT
    If I were in that situation, I would stay with them. If that individual is, like you said, the love of my life. Another 30 or 40 pounds won't make a difference to me. If it were a health issue, which i'm certain will become one if their weight's at "critical mass," I will do everything I can to help him. Even if it means dragging him out of bed at 6am every morning to go on a 10 mile hike or stalking his eating habits.
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    Dec 21, 2014 9:02 AM GMT
    It would depend on the person and the level of commitment with him.
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 22, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    Noeton saidJust curious what other guys think. Thankfully this never happened to me. Say you are together with a partner that you really love, but they keep eating getting fatter and fatter -- despite your efforts to show them that it's bad for their health, etc. At what point would their fatness reach 'critical mass' and you would have to breakup the relationship? Or would you stay no matter what? I'm not sure what I would do... but 30 extra pounds of fat would probably be more than I could take!


    That's an interesting question as I find myself wondering about this myself. Personally, if I really loved this guy and we had a solid connection, I'd stick it out for him and try ot help him get back in shape. However, if I had to be realistic... If he ever got to the point where he didn't walk or move around anymore, I may have to throw the towel in there if he became like a sloth who just wanted to stay home and watch tv.

    It pains me to admit that but I've just never been into obese men and probably never will... Believe me, I've tried to change that but it just can't be done for me.
  • KittenpasteCo...

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    Dec 22, 2014 1:17 PM GMT
    It really depends on the level of the relationship, among other factors. I think I'd stay, until they not only reach but maintained a weight nearing my father's. Bad experience, when I was younger... but, in short, my dad's bodyfat led to me to a level of disgust that caused me to vomit up my breakfast one morning. Before he reaches that point, I'll likely be on him about his weight... but I'm weight obsessed, myself, so that'd probably be a deal-breaker for him before the relationship even started.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 22, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    Oh please, stop using the tired "health" excuse. You'd leave the guy because he doesn't turn you on anymore. This is why weight isn't a big deal for me. I've seen plenty of people loose weight in a relationship and gain weight in a relationship. Its normally not a stable enough factor to base a relationship on.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 22, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
    KittenpasteCompany saidIt really depends on the level of the relationship, among other factors. I think I'd stay, until they not only reach but maintained a weight nearing my father's. Bad experience, when I was younger... but, in short, my dad's bodyfat led to me to a level of disgust that caused me to vomit up my breakfast one morning. Before he reaches that point, I'll likely be on him about his weight... but I'm weight obsessed, myself, so that'd probably be a deal-breaker for him before the relationship even started.


    That's my deal breaker. I want a man who encourages me to be in the best shape possible. However I hate the type A mentality that some fitness enthusiast have. I think that's why I find stocky, sporty dudes so attractive. A desire to be there best without the Dr Oz house wife obsession and co-occurring unhappiness.
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    Dec 22, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    As long as he's back in shape before our next Speedo Xmas Card photo icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 23, 2014 1:52 AM GMT
    I'd know it was a symptom of a bigger problem, at this point in our relationship. I'd have spotted the triggers and begun doing my best to unravel them. How could I passively sit by while the issue builds? I'm way more proactive than that.

    Let's say I'm surprised, like after a 3-year coma. I'd deal with it just fine. Hell, I'd be happy if he stuck by me while I was in a coma and would let him be whatever size he wanted to be. But I doubt he'd ever want to be fat and would immediately jump-start his own road to recovery at the moment I awoke.
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    Dec 23, 2014 2:58 AM GMT
    I would definitely stay with him and try my very best to be as supportive as possible. I used to be 240 lbs myself and I know how it can be tied to other issues.
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    Dec 23, 2014 4:13 AM GMT
    1oz
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    Dec 23, 2014 4:21 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said1oz



    How much is that in femtograms?
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    Dec 24, 2014 4:27 AM GMT
    sf_swimmer saidIt would depend on the person and the level of commitment with him.


    And how shallow you are.

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