Tropicalcium saidYou prefer white guys. You prefered white guys. What changed? You like Asian or black guys. It changed. Why? Some men's preferences change because they have actually met people. Sometimes white men would never come to some black guy in the street. Barely registering on his brain. I remember this TV program for men on blind dates. He was shocked to see a black dude. He would never go for a black dude but a black dude was willing to a date a white guy...
For me it changed over 40 years ago. After growing up for 20 years in an affluent white suburb, very near to your New York, if you're in the City (you know Upper Montclair in New Jersey?), where I almost never saw any Black people, or minorities of any kind.
In my case I believe my change was caused by working alongside Black soldiers in the Army. Nothing builds camaraderie like military service, nor breaks down racial & ethnic stereotypes, and builds understanding & respect for differences.
My best buddy when I was a Sergeant was a Black soldier. We went everywhere, did everything, as I've written about here before. And the 2 of us going into restaurants, movies and elsewhere together, in 1971 Kentucky when there were still signs for "Colored" and "White" on restrooms and over drinking fountains, could cause some stares & tension.
In retrospect I really do think I was dating him (although nothing sexual), but would never have believed I was dating any men at the time, still convinced I was straight. But when I came out it meant I started without color prejudices & preferences.
Yet I dated only White guys, because that's who dated me. Whose paths happened to cross mine, what I mostly found in the gay clubs I visited or the guys I met online. Today I see lots of Black and Asian guys who are mega-hot, and I'd gladly have dated them, and some less hot ones, but it never happened that way when I was single. But then there's also lots of hunky White guys I missed and never got to approach, or be approached.
I see a lot of interracial gay couples around here, so skin color doesn't seem to be a major barrier locally. If I were single again (and anybody still wanted me) I could certainly imagine myself being among those dating couples. To me it would just be like Kentucky again, 40+ years ago. Only this time I'd have no confusion about exercising all my options.