Would you guys dance with another guy while in a relationship?
Does it matter if you boyfriend is at the club with you or not?
Would you be okay if you boyfriend danced with other guys?
Does your answer change if the guy your dancing with is a friend?
I've danced with other guys, but just to fast music where we didn't touch. All have been friends, with whom my husband has danced, too. I don't think I would slow dance while holding hands, that's too intimate, I only do that with my husband, and him only with me.
I'd prefer my husband was present in the room (I doubt I'd ever be at a club without him), so he can see for himself what I'm doing, and not hear about it from exaggerated gossip. You know how queers love to dramatize things and blow them out of proportion.
Story: my late partner & I were out clubbing. He left me on the dance floor to go into the next room where the bar was, to refill our glasses. We had a hightop table alongside the dance floor.
While he was gone the DJ started some strobe lights and other flashing effects. A problem for my epilepsy, I nevertheless decided to continue solo dancing in place, closing my eyes behind my sunglasses, hoping the strobe would be over in less than a minute as usual.
I wore sunglasses indoors at the club to further block out light effects, and so people couldn't see when my eyes were shut. Most just thought I wore them as a flamboyant gay fashion statement, especially as they were an unusual tint, actually selected by my doctors to reduce the colors most likely to trigger a seizure.
So that I didn't see this guy start dancing with me, in an evening gown and buzzed haircut without a wig, whom I'd noticed earlier (how could you not?). A moment later I heard my partner's deep bass voice bellowing: "Get away from my husband!"
I popped my eyes open to the shock of seeing this other guy in front of me. When the queen tried to reply my husband barked: "If you come near my husband again I'm gonna drag your sorry ass outside into the parking lot and beat the fucking shit out of you!"
The guy slinked away, and I was scared, too. I'd never heard him use his voice loudly like that before, or threaten someone. I tried to explain that I was innocent, but of course claiming I was dancing with my eyes closed sounded kinda lame. Nevertheless he seemed to accept it, and we were OK for the rest of the evening, continuing to have a good time.
We'd been living together barely a year, and I never knew how jealous he could be. He would mention it as one of his Italian traits, but I hadn't seen any real evidence of it until now. Or in any man I'd dated prior to him. In one way it's kinda flattering to be "fought over", in another way a potential cause of false accusations & mistrust.
I've since discovered my current husband, also Italian, likewise has some latent jealousy he conceals just below the surface. He'll let me dance with other guys, but avoiding jealous reactions is why I want him to see me doing it with his own eyes, and not hear it with his ears as related by others.