Can an extrovert date an introvert and vice versa?

  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 21, 2014 12:45 PM GMT
    As someone who is introverted, this has been something I've thought about for quite some time. While I am introverted and shy to a degree, when I'm around open minded extroverted people, I'm able to come out of my shell and be a bit more lively than I normally am.

    But yeah, I was just curious. Do you think a relationship like that could work or is it better to go with Extrovert/Extrovert , Introvert/Introvert

    What have been your experiences?
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    Dec 21, 2014 1:44 PM GMT
    Well there's more to people than being an introvert/extrovert.

    But I think introverts tend to attract introverts an extroverts attract extroverts.

    that doesn't mean an introvert/extrovert relationship won't work.

    but I feel like introverts might understand other introverts better. I dunno

    Also, there are countless levels of introversion.

    I'm definitely more of an introvert but sometimes I'm pretty social -I guess for me it depends on the environment- however I recently went on a date with a guy that was so introverted that he made me look like I was really extroverted.

    sometimes super introverted people can be all sorts of awkward.

    like they don't even know how to flirt right. or like every time they try and make a pass it just feels weird. lol

    I think it's cute, tbh.
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    Dec 21, 2014 2:41 PM GMT
    Yes of course. Im an extrovert and most my partners have been introverts.
    (opposites attracts)

    More info: apparently what introverts like about extroverts is we don't "think that much" while introverts overthink everything. On the other hand what I like about introverts is they don't fight with me over getting into the spot light icon_cool.gif hahah j/k, i like they keep to themselves in public and tell you stuff I dont mind listening to in private. Its like you're the one of the few that gets to know their true personalities.
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    Dec 21, 2014 2:46 PM GMT
    David3K saidYes of course. Im an extrovert and most my partners have been introverts.
    (opposites attracts)


    Well, I'm an introvert. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    I have been attracted to both introverted and extroverted guys. To me, it's not an important factor.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 21, 2014 2:47 PM GMT
    I would say the answer is yes... but I think both need to understand the other. The introvert may not want to mess with some of the social interaction, if perceived to be too much and the extrovert might feel too much time alone is suffocating (lol). I both have to strive for a happy medium.
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    Dec 21, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    21 years in our relationship. He's the extrovert and I'm extremely introverted. I don't think that this is a very important characteristic for a successful relationship. There are better indicators for a healthy relationship, like yes or no on monogamy, sexual chemistry, dealing with money, mutual respect, conflict resolution etc.
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    Dec 21, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    bhp91126 said21 years in our relationship. He's the extrovert and I'm extremely introverted. I don't think that this is a very important characteristic for a successful relationship. There are better indicators for a healthy relationship, like yes or no on monogamy, sexual chemistry, dealing with money, mutual respect, conflict resolution etc.


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  • NerdLifter

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    Dec 23, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    David3K said[...]
    (opposites attracts)
    [...]

    I apologize in advance for going off topic, and not trying to pick on you David, but a pet peeve of mine is hearing the myth that "opposites attract".

    People are attracted to complements of themselves, not opposites.
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    Dec 23, 2014 2:06 AM GMT
    NerdLifter said
    David3K said[...]
    (opposites attracts)
    [...]

    I apologize in advance for going off topic, and not trying to pick on you David, but a pet peeve of mine is hearing the myth that "opposites attract".

    People are attracted to complements of themselves, not opposites.

    Being opposites is a way to complement each other. I dont think i could be compatible with an extrovert for many reasons (we would be too similar). On the other hand introverts have some insight and calmness that I find attractive because I don't have that myself. I dont pick introverts as partners on purpose it just always happened that way.
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    Dec 23, 2014 4:38 AM GMT
    No! There are laws against it.

    It's an abomination before The Lord! icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
  • Nhlakz

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    Dec 23, 2014 6:54 AM GMT
    Im mostly an extrovert but in a relationship i tend to take the backseat and b the introvert...i guess its not important what u r but how u handle a situation and ur personality plays a role in how guys find attractive
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    Dec 23, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    Compatibility is important. If the introvert/extroverts are compatible... absolutely.
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    Dec 23, 2014 5:00 PM GMT
    I think doesn't matter your vert side, only matters if you like person you will like it no matter if he is in/ex. And talking about this is pointless.
  • Zigs_01

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    Jan 24, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    I always thought extroverts appear to good for introverts. This is what I just observe throughout school years.

    p.s I'm introverted
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 24, 2015 4:50 AM GMT
    They usually make the perfect couple.