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    Dec 22, 2014 11:58 PM GMT
    if you has the chance to change something in the gay community? I am thinking about joining an local LGBT organization to help strengthen the community and would like some ideas to being to the table.

    Please post an issue that is important to you or someone you love and what actions you would suggest as a solution.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 23, 2014 12:29 AM GMT
    All of my problems with the gay community are personal so I'm not sure it needs changing. I guess more positive, diverse, role models for young gay men wouldn't hurt.
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    Dec 23, 2014 12:45 AM GMT
    muscleboundfem saidI guess more positive, diverse, role models for young gay men wouldn't hurt.



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    You mean like this?
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    Dec 23, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Radd said
    muscleboundfem saidI guess more positive, diverse, role models for young gay men wouldn't hurt.



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    You mean like this?


    I'm talking about a mixture of races, socioeconomic backgrounds, masculinity, femininity, religious perspectives and so on. Maybe if it were easy for young gay men to find a role model who reflected who they wanted to be we would spend less time tearing each other down to build ourselves up.
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    Dec 23, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    They should do more networking with each other, between companies. You could call it being a clique but all of your coworkers who talk to each other about their families until you leave the room do the same thing once you are gone. I know this for a fact. How many times does someone get married or become a father then suddenly get a well paid job they are not the best qualified for?
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    Radd said
    muscleboundfem saidI guess more positive, diverse, role models for young gay men wouldn't hurt.



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    You mean like this?

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    Dec 23, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    Inspire the younger generation to do better.

    Less of this..

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    And more of this..
    http://money.cnn.com/2014/10/30/news/gay-ceos-tim-cook/

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  • HottJoe

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    Dec 23, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    Cure AIDS? Maybe.icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 24, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
    There needs to be more acceptance of each other in all our diverse forms: twinks, bears, leather, drag queens, fems, masc, etc. We are so often rejected by society at large we don't need to be so divisive with each other.

    Good luck with that tall order.
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    Dec 24, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
    More guys with big dicks.

    /thread
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 24, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    I think you should find something you are passionate about instead of finding out what other people are passionate about. If you work for something you are interested in, you will have a greater degree of success and enjoyment.
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    Dec 24, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidMore guys with big dicks.

    /thread

    fewer size queens

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    Dec 24, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    englishdude saidHave our own country and i am Emperor


    FINALLY...a plan that makes some good, solid sense!!!



    I actually do not think the LGBT Community needs to be changed as much as it needs to accept itself and not feel inferior to the Straight Community. When the Community as whole can stop apologizing and trying to justify ( The "it's ok because I am SO damned straight -acting" attitude) but mostly stop turning on each OTHER out of fear or competitive self-loathing. I know devout Heterosexuals who are more accepting of the LGBT Cummunity than some of the Guys I have met at Gay bars or come across on RJ.

    I guess I just would like to see the gains and strides We have already made be continuously be built upon.

    We have advanced about a trillion miles in the last 50 years or so...imagine what it could REALLY be like!!!

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  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 25, 2014 12:04 AM GMT
    Cash said
    englishdude saidHave our own country and i am Emperor


    FINALLY...a plan that makes some good, solid sense!!!



    I actually do not think the LGBT Community needs to be changed as much as it needs to accept itself and not feel inferior to the Straight Community. When the Community as whole can stop apologizing and trying to justify ( The "it's ok because I am SO damned straight -acting" attitude) but mostly stop turning on each OTHER out of fear or competitive self-loathing. I know devout Heterosexuals who are more accepting of the LGBT Cummunity than some of the Guys I have met at Gay bars or come across on RJ.

    I guess I just would like to see the gains and strides We have already made be continuously be built upon.

    We have advanced about a trillion miles in the last 50 years or so...imagine what it could REALLY be like!!!

    icon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gif


    Oh wow devout heterosexuals
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    Dec 25, 2014 12:56 AM GMT
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    Lumpyoatmeal saidMore guys with big dicks.
    /thread
    fewer size queens

    Yes, capital idea. That would help reduce the competition for what is, unfortunately, an unnecessarily scarce resource.
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    Dec 25, 2014 10:40 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    __morphic__ said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidMore guys with big dicks.
    /thread
    fewer size queens

    Yes, capital idea. That would help reduce the competition for what is, unfortunately, an unnecessarily scarce resource.

    In that case:

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  • Orland23

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    Dec 26, 2014 9:33 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidCure AIDS? Maybe.icon_neutral.gif


    A cure for AIDS would be a good thing, we have lost a generation in the 80s and 90's. Some of the potential role models had been lost to HIV and AIDS.icon_sad.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 26, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
    Orland23 said
    HottJoe saidCure AIDS? Maybe.icon_neutral.gif


    A cure for AIDS would be a good thing, we have lost a generation in the 80s and 90's. Some of the potential role models had been lost to HIV and AIDS.icon_sad.gif

    Yes, it's very sad, and it's unfortunate that so many people are still stigmatized in community.
  • NoFLFitGuy

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    Dec 26, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Orland23 said
    HottJoe saidCure AIDS? Maybe.icon_neutral.gif


    A cure for AIDS would be a good thing, we have lost a generation in the 80s and 90's. Some of the potential role models had been lost to HIV and AIDS.icon_sad.gif

    Yes, it's very sad, and it's unfortunate that so many people are still stigmatized in community.


    I agree. I went through a serious scare because of an assault at work. Through the whole first month of the doc's I saw assuming I had AIDS (They gave me what is typically an opportunistic infection through too much antibiotics). When the first tests came back negative, they did not believe them and sent more blood for more full spectrum testing SURE I had AIDS. Through all of that, I never received not a single referral or offer for mental health services for the sheer panic I was in.

    Thankfully, I was and still am HIV-. But, no one, no one at all, LGBT or straight should ever have to go through what I went through. Proper counseling should be available to those being tested or who are newly poz (or long time poz), and in many places in the country, it is sorely lacking. Dealing with the fear, and later, the stigma can be extremely harmful - not to count the healthcare professional who treat you as if you are already dead when they should know better.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 26, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    averagejoe20s saidThis. We don't grow up hearing fairy tales about two princes falling in love or getting representation in general so I feel like a lot of homos don't have anything to base relationships off of or know how to behave in general. Or whenever there is representation is centers on a character being gay instead of a person who happens to be gay

    Being limited to online apps and websites doesn't help either. It bothers me how dudes just ask questions like top or bottom, or what are you into?, like they're the most normal questions in the world

    The worst question (for me personally) is when they ask what kind of music I'm into. That's just way too personal and reveals things about me that are too intimate to share with just anyone.